Nothing to look forward to

[babycakes]

I'm pretty down at the moment and i was wondering when you've been kicked in the guts for the millionth time during the year how can you be positive and go on and think things will get better. I was at work today and felt I couldn't even be there not that it was the source of my anguish but I couldn't even function I'm that down.What do you do do you send yourself off to some nutdoctor. I can' do that, and nobody wants to hear whinging.

I know it sounds heavy but I can't even smile all i wanna do is hide away.It worrys me because Usually I just try and shrug things off but today I was just I dunno not even here I wanted to just cower in the corner like some beaten up cat.

I dunno any helpful suggestions appreciated.I mean I think it could be more than the blues I really have had some **** go down and I can't recover from it.

 

[-WWJD-]

Dr Phil board

 

[babycakes]

Originally posted by acg_204*
Dr Phil board

Funny ten years ago it would of been the Oprah board!

 

[lozstar]

That's just asking for trouble posting that here.

 

[-WWJD-]

Originally posted by babycakes
Funny ten years ago it would of been the Oprah board!

Nah Oprah's moved up in the world to such classics as "Christmas Dinner Settings on a Budget".

 

[babycakes]

Originally posted by lozstar
That's just asking for trouble posting that here.

Yeah I know... but I am down.Oh well whats another kick in the guts.

 

[TheWackedYak]

Hide the bong...too tempting.

 

[Nic]

Dude, sorry you feel that way.

And Oprah ****s all over Dr. Phil.

 

[doggies40]

Originally posted by babycakes
I'm pretty down at the moment and i was wondering when you've been kicked in the guts for the millionth time during the year how can you be positive and go on and think things will get better. I was at work today and felt I couldn't even be there not that it was the source of my anguish but I couldn't even function I'm that down.What do you do do you send yourself off to some nutdoctor. I can' do that, and nobody wants to hear whinging.

I know it sounds heavy but I can't even smile all i wanna do is hide away.It worrys me because Usually I just try and shrug things off but today I was just I dunno not even here I wanted to just cower in the corner like some beaten up cat.

I dunno any helpful suggestions appreciated.I mean I think it could be more than the blues I really have had some **** go down and I can't recover from it.

Your not the only one babycakes, ive had a bad couple of days at work as well, hope it all gets better for you soon. Keep your chin up.

 

[carlyp]

Poor babycakes! Keep your chin up and things always get better sooner rather than later!
A cyber hug is coming your way!
If you still feel bad in a couple of days go to a councillor!

 

[Mooster7]

Quit living inside yourself. You're focusing to much on your own inner world. The first step to even mild mental disorders is isolating yourself from the world around you. In that sense, crazies are by definition self-centered...selfish. Chemical imbalances, and traumatic brain disorders notwithstanding.

Focus outside yourself. Realize that everything outside of you is also part of you. Your existence helps create it, and 'it' you.

Perspective is 99% of it. "Bad stuff" happens to me and around me daily. I don't look at it as bad, but rather as interesting challenges. If it's nothing I can resolve immediately, I don't. I view those things as challenges to my patience. The very second I can make a difference, I pounce and win. Otherwise, it goes on a back burner. Not repressed, just waiting. The term 'repressed' indicates that you are holding something inside. There is no inside.

The number one killer is want. If you are eating, and have a roof you are well off. Accept things as they are. Wanting things to be different, or wanting things for yourself that you don't currently have is a direct friction with reality and causes unecessary pain. Want is a projection of the future, not the now. The future obviously doesn't exist, so why suffer now for it?

I might want a bigger TV. Actually, I do want a bigger TV. I can plan for it, but there's no reason for me to pain for it. I might develop a plan to have a bigger TV in one month or six months. That's the future and it doesn't exist. Between now and then, I might lose all of my stuff in a fire. My mother could die. Is a bigger TV important in those contexts? Why should I suffer for a want now when it may be irrelevant tomorrow, a week or a month from now? If my mother does die why should I want? It's not a challenge I can defeat. It's a natural event. The challenge is to take care of her final needs, the needs of my family and to experience through the grieving process while continuing to take care of business. Want has not place in that.

Relationships are absolutely the stupidest things to get bothered over. Once again, plenty of challenges. If the relationship fails, and it's my fault, perhaps I can correct it. Perhaps not. If it's the other person's fault, I have to decide if it can be corrected and whether or not I want to. At any rate, there is no such thing as rejection. Some pegs just don't fit. Doesn't mean I can't learn, change and grow, but right now it is irrelevant. The failure of a relationship is a wonderful learning process. It's also an opportunity to start another - which has challenges and rewards all its own.

So whatever your problem is, babycakes...knock it off.

 

[evade28]

dating agency failed again hey?

 

[Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk]

Stop eating for a few days go down a size go to the solarium then go shopping for some mad new stuff to wear!

 

[carlyp]

Originally posted by evade28
dating agency failed again hey?

Thats uncalled for!

 

[evade28]

Originally posted by Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk
Stop eating for a few days go down a size go to the solarium then go shopping for some mad new stuff to wear!

people without an eating disorder who don't eat are just attention seeking

 

[evade28]

Originally posted by carlyp
Thats uncalled for!

boo hoo, what are you? the SAS of the post police??

 

[Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk]

Originally posted by evade28
people without an eating disorder who don't eat are just attention seeking

that's also uncalled for

 

[harry_hawka]

Mooster is the man. Again.

 

[Bomber Spirit]

Babycakes, I don't know you or have any idea what brought on your latest problems; but good luck and I hope things work out for you. Life is **** sometimes, but there are good times as well; so try to focus on something that keeps you happy.
Family & friends are great, and if you're feeling really down there's nothing wrong with going to them for a hug and a chat at this time. And then be there for them when they need it.
Good luck Babycakes - hope things get better for you soon.

 

[evade28]

Originally posted by Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk
that's also uncalled for

and why would that be? youre the one crapping on about it as if its totally cool, and some kind of answer to making urself feel better. u are surely kidding yourself? if youre so worried about your weight go and exercise, its scientifically proven that getting active helps you feel mentally better.

so now tell me what the benefits are if you dont eat. im sure there are heaps

 

[mandy]

Originally posted by evade28
so now tell me what the benefits are if you dont eat.

She already did. Go down a dress size.

 

[Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk]

Originally posted by mandy5
She already did. Go down a dress size.

exactly, hence feeling better about yourself at a time when you are down in confidence!

 

[lioness]

Well babycakes the only advice I have, and I know you said it's hard to do, but you have to keep smiling. There's ALWAYS something, no matter how small it might be, to be happy about, and just build up from there.

I do agree with part of what Spidey said. Go out and do something with your hair or buy a new outfit or something, it sounds really trivial I know, but it really can help!!

You can't control what other people do, but you can control how you react to it. And the more down you are, the more power you give them. So as I said, just try your best to keep smiling and things will slowly turn around.

 

[evade28]

Originally posted by Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk
exactly, hence feeling better about yourself at a time when you are down in confidence!

haha if youre down in confidence get off your arse, stop posting on bigfooty all the time and go out and get some exercise.

but if you feel the need to not eat for a few days and think youre cool doing it, then go ahead.

 

[carlyp]

Originally posted by evade28
haha if youre down in confidence get off your arse, stop posting on bigfooty all the time and go out and get some exercise.

but if you feel the need to not eat for a few days and think youre cool doing it, then go ahead.

Look whilst I agree with what your saying I also think your delivery could be better.
Its obvious that Babycakes is having a tough time of it and do you really think saying stuff like 'dating agency failing again ey' is going to be productive? Its a bit rough. She's come here and asked for our advice. If you cant say anything nice then dont say..........oh forget it!