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Hello, i was wondering if people could help me out on a personal situation?

I am currently a year12 (V.C.E Student) and i am really good friends with a girl, I've been good friends with her for like 3-4 years now. The thing is that I've liked her for all that period of time but just dont wont to spoil anything and also im affraid that i woul dget rejected as this girl is pretty damn fine. We are always flirting with each other grabbing each other but thats it, I sometimes think maybe she feels the same way with me maybe?

Your opinions!
 
You obviously feel ardent about getting in her pants, so you've got to tackle the situation "head on".

Be cool, calm and collected about it.

Go in for the kill, son.
 
Originally posted by next_afl_player
Hello, i was wondering if people could help me out on a personal situation?

I am currently a year12 (V.C.E Student) and i am really good friends with a girl, I've been good friends with her for like 3-4 years now. The thing is that I've liked her for all that period of time but just dont wont to spoil anything and also im affraid that i woul dget rejected as this girl is pretty damn fine. We are always flirting with each other grabbing each other but thats it, I sometimes think maybe she feels the same way with me maybe?

Your opinions!
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That's a tough one.

Somehow i think she might just need you to be her best guy friend, and that's it. She probably tells you stuff she doesn't tell her other guy friends, and can pig out in front of you at restaurants and can barrack with you like a guy at the footy.

There's a special bond between best guys and girl friends, and unless you're at least 90% sure she'll feel the same way about you (or that you'll feel that way bout her in a couple of months), i wouldn't suggest changing the relationship.
Things may still be great between you, but she'll always remember that you like her more than just a friend.

Does she have a guy at the moment?
 

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Originally posted by Nice One
That's a tough one.

Somehow i think she might just need you to be her best guy friend, and that's it. She probably tells you stuff she doesn't tell her other guy friends, and can pig out in front of you at restaurants and can barrack with you like a guy at the footy.

There's a special bond between best guys and girl friends, and unless you're at least 90% sure she'll feel the same way about you (or that you'll feel that way bout her in a couple of months), i wouldn't suggest changing the relationship.
Things may still be great between you, but she'll always remember that you like her more than just a friend.

Does she have a guy at the moment?
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She recently broke up with her boyfriend like 1month ago.
 
Don't do it to yourself.

As the next_afl_player, you've probably got a lot of girls lining up to be your ruck rover, so you don't need someone like this chick. She seems like a good friend to keep for when you are getting tired of groupies following you home from training, so hang on to that friendship. From the in depth description you gave us, she sounds like the type of girl who will lean on you when she needs you, but as soon as you have a bad game, she'll be the first to criticise you. Also, she's probably friends with you because she knows you will make lots of money as the next_afl_player, and she's just hanging around to benefit from all the fame and fortune that you give her.

Don't be fooled mate, you're getting sucked in to liking someone who is only your friend because she wants an invite to next year's brownlow medal.
 
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Originally posted by next_afl_player
She recently broke up with her boyfriend like 1month ago.
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the lights are green...the street is clear...but you've stalled the car...get a move on mate ;)
 
Before you do anything ask yourself how you like her, do you
a) just want a shag
b) like her personality and so on

If a is your answer don't stuff up your friendship, just go a one night stand with some sheila. If answer is b then go for it, but be prepared to lose the friendship, still worth the risk in my mind though, no point living live wondering what could have been.
 
If you're the "next afl player" then you need to sus out before hand whether she'll do your mates as well, apparently.
 

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Originally posted by next_afl_player
Hello, i was wondering if people could help me out on a personal situation?

I am currently a year12 (V.C.E Student) and i am really good friends with a girl, I've been good friends with her for like 3-4 years now. The thing is that I've liked her for all that period of time but just dont wont to spoil anything and also im affraid that i woul dget rejected as this girl is pretty damn fine. We are always flirting with each other grabbing each other but thats it, I sometimes think maybe she feels the same way with me maybe?

Your opinions!
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I can only hope you too are a girl.

Otherwise this is another candidate for most dull post of 2004 - good news is that you are neck & neck with Wrennyboy for this accolade.

Big yawn symbol (however you do that)
 
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Originally posted by Dry Rot
I can only hope you too are a girl.

Otherwise this is another candidate for most dull post of 2004 - good news is that you are neck & neck with Wrennyboy for this accolade.

Big yawn symbol (however you do that)
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'Dry Rot' if you dont like the thread, why do you post in it?
Its like common sense buddy, but maybe you wouldnt know what that is?

As for all the guys who have put there two bob in for advice that is much appreciated guys, thanks a heap!
 
Damn fine... Always flirting...Grabbing...
I think you would find, that she is possibly thinking the same things as you, but is perhaps scared to wreck anything too.
Have a chat to her, maybe drop hints, make a joke out of it to start, etc, when she says "Why are you joking? wouldn't I be good enough??" then you shag her.
 
Originally posted by LFC

Have a chat to her, maybe drop hints, make a joke out of it to start, etc, when she says "Why are you joking? wouldn't I be good enough??" then you shag her.
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Brilliant! She'll never see it coming!

I don't know why, but when I read this I thought to myself:

"Now she's gonna be really surprised when I give her that ironing board cover". No idea why.
 
Originally posted by Squeak
Brilliant! She'll never see it coming!

I don't know why, but when I read this I thought to myself:

"Now she's gonna be really surprised when I give her that ironing board cover". No idea why.
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GOLD!!!
 
Squeak, I have no idea what you mean, but it made me lol, which is a very good style of joke if you can pull it off.
 

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hi if you are serious

i can remember being the female in that type of situation & we never got it together - 10 years later both married to someone else talking about it at lunch ( we're still firends)
i as the female thought i was making really obvious that i wanted the friendship to move up a level to relatinship but was too scared to say it in case i got rejected - he was in your situation not sure if he was reading the signals correctly and not wanting to spoil the situation

anyway the point is we agreed we blew it by the fact we were both young and frightened of upsetting a good friend and wanting the other to be able to read our mind - neither of us possessed this power!

so i would say go out for a drink together for the dutch courage and say what you're feeling you can do it in a casual kind of "look we're good enough firends that we should be able to say anything to each other and if it's unpleasant still be able to be friends, - my feelings for you are getting stronger than friendship and i need to know how you feel and if you don't reciprocate that ok but i'll burst if i don't tell you
what do you feel? if you don't feel the same - still friends ok?"

you'll have got it off your chest & you'll have left her a gracious way out if she doesn't want more
 
Originally posted by next_afl_player
Hello, i was wondering if people could help me out on a personal situation?

I am currently a year12 (V.C.E Student) and i am really good friends with a girl, I've been good friends with her for like 3-4 years now. The thing is that I've liked her for all that period of time but just dont wont to spoil anything and also im affraid that i woul dget rejected as this girl is pretty damn fine. We are always flirting with each other grabbing each other but thats it, I sometimes think maybe she feels the same way with me maybe?

Your opinions!
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take it from someone who knows from recent experience, my young friend...
RUN, RABBIT, RUN RABBIT, RUN, RUN, RUN!!!!!!!!!!! In simple english, leave it alone. It will only end in tears.
 
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Originally posted by noogie_da_sheep
the lights are green...the street is clear...but you've stalled the car...get a move on mate ;)
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Again, don't listen. This does not look like a green light to me. Just a lot of amber ones.
 
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Originally posted by noogie_da_sheep
the lights are green...the street is clear...but you've stalled the car...get a move on mate ;)
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And I have gone flying past you in the express lane:D :D :D :D :D :D :D
 
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Originally posted by Nice One
That's a tough one.

Somehow i think she might just need you to be her best guy friend, and that's it.
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From the thousands of male High School students in this country I would like to say "we ****ing hate that". It'll do your head in, trust me. :(
 
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