Society & Culture Stalking

[CLUBMEDhurst]

Topical subject, any of you good GD folk had any experience of this?

 

[Gibbsy]

Not too sure this is a pisstake thread tbh Hand

I wouldn't classify any of that as 'stalking'

 

[Hand]

Okay, what is stalking to you then, Gibbsy ?

 

[CLUBMEDhurst]

Not too sure this is a pisstake thread tbh Hand

I wouldn't classify any of that as 'stalking'

Not at all, I'm generally curious to know

 

[Gibbsy]

Okay, what is stalking to you then, Gibbsy ?

Physical, tracking people's every movements etc. So much so that the stalkee has to take out a restraining order. The whole texts/facebook thing is just a sub-plot. Yes it can dramatise and make the situation a lot worse, but I can't think of anything scarier (in a stalking situation) than walking around worrying that a person knows exactly where you are at any given time...waiting to pounce etc.

 

[Hand]

I guess so. Misunderstood the purpose of the thread I spose.

 

[Warner_Bros_FC]

Wish I had a stalker. I feel so lonely.

 

[CLUBMEDhurst]

Some findings of the Australian Institute of Criminology Research and Public Policy Series, titled, Stalking: Legislative, Policy and Prosecution Patterns in Australia.

- Stalking is commonly defined as repeated behaviours causing fear and apprehension. The behaviours include (amongst others) practices such as following, watching, telephoning or otherwise contacting another person; loitering near, watching, approaching or entering a place where another person lives, works or visits; interfering with property in the possession of another person; and leaving or giving offensive material to another person.

- Stalking is reported to police at a reasonably high rate, with the highest rate of reporting being South Australia (at 27.9 per 100 000) and the lowest being the Australian Capital Territory (at 0.9 per 100 000). These numbers are strongly affected by the counting conventions employed in the different states and, arguably, reflect the differing nature of stalking legislation across the different jurisdictions. It is, thus, critical to note that the data are not strictly comparable across jurisdictions.

- Most research on stalking has focused upon psychological characteristics of stalking. Principal findings include: approximately 10 per cent of people have experienced stalking-type behaviours at some time in their life. Victims are most likely to be female and younger than their stalkers. Stalkers are most likely to
be male and older than the average male criminal. The majority of stalkers appear to pursue their ex-partners and most stalking episodes last (on average) between 1 and 2 years. The most common behaviours involve being watched, followed and telephoned, with the motivations for stalking being predominantly control and intimidation.

 

[Igloo]

Wish I had a stalker. I feel so lonely.

I'll stalk you if you want, WBFC

Never had a problem with a stalker myself. Not something i'm keen on happening.

 

[TheWoodenSlug]

Wish I had a stalker. I feel so lonely.

Cheer up, you look a little sad...

 

[LosBeatles]

Will anyone be honest enough to own up to a little bit of stalking?

Never been driven temporarily insane to do some out of character stuff when you found out your girlfriend of 3 years was cheating on you?

Never been tempted when you realise the password to her email account is just the name of her dog?

 

[Bunk Moreland]

Closest I’ve come to being “stalked” was getting these private number phone calls a couple of years ago. The person would just be silent for a few seconds then hang up. It went on for a couple of months, once or twice a day. Funny to start with and then just got annoying so I didn’t answer. Stopped after a while.

I’m 99.9% sure I knew who it was, even though they never said a word. This chick I was with for a while was a bit of a nutter and had form re phone behaviour. Once after we hadn’t spoken for a while, she sent me a blank text message, then tried to claim she hadn’t sent it, “it must have been something weird that happened with my phone or the network”... yeah OK. Another couple of times she sent me text msgs that were “meant” for other people, claiming it was a innocent mistake.

Just phone stuff so nothing serious, though I’m sure if a bloke did the same thing he’d be labelled a stalker.

 

[CLUBMEDhurst]

Will anyone be honest enough to own up to a little bit of stalking?

Never been driven temporarily insane to do some out of character stuff when you found out your girlfriend of 3 years was cheating on you?

Never been tempted when you realise the password to her email account is just the name of her dog?

Given the gender ratio mix on BF, I'd hazard a guess that posters are more likely to be the perps as opposed to the victim.

I've had a weird case of stalking, will post more when I have the time (heavy workload today)

 

[Caesar]

Haven't ever really known anyone involved in a serious case of stalking.

I think everybody probably knows a few cases where A has done stuff they doesn't see as stalking, but B finds it uncomfortable/threatening. Mostly pursuing someone a little too earnestly, trying to get back together after they have broken up. Whether you call that stalking probably depends on who you're friends with.

I have a friend who is a psychologist who reckons a lot of guys don't really understand how threatening girls find it when the girl asks them to leave them alone and they don't. Because most girls can't match up to most guys physically, they're very reliant on guys respecting their wishes. Once a guy demonstrates he's willing to ignore that it can be quite unsettling - even if he doesn't actually have any bad intentions.

 

[grimface_87]

With GPS enabled smartphones common these days I can imagine stalking has become much easier for stalkers who manage to get a hold of their stalkee's phone for a bit

 

[Upgrayedd]

A few posters on the bay on a few football clubs would probably count....

 

[nicky]

I did some facebook stalking on one of the 'directors' at my work. This was a successful stalk because i found all these public photos of him 'tripping balls', face painted at festivals like rainbow serpent and burning man.

Now i'm conducting "operation nicky befriend and work for him"

 

[d0gs]

I've had someone make up a facebook profile of myself and add myself and all of my friends on it. They had all of my info as well, plus other photos I don't have up on facebook. They were constantly sending me messages and stuff, then had heaps of random messages from people who were constantly creating new accounts just harassing me, was pretty weird. Add that and a heap of phone calls (20 a day for about 2 months or so) and shit got really really annoying.

 

[Stratton_Gun]

 

[MaddAdam]

I have a friend who is a psychologist who reckons a lot of guys don't really understand how threatening girls find it when the girl asks them to leave them alone and they don't. Because most girls can't match up to most guys physically, they're very reliant on guys respecting their wishes. Once a guy demonstrates he's willing to ignore that it can be quite unsettling - even if he doesn't actually have any bad intentions.

I also don't think most guys appreciate how much shit girls put up with as well.

I was seeing this girl who's ex was effectively stalking her. Thing is, I actually knew this guy and had always thought him a decent enough bloke. They went out for like 4 weeks, she decided it wasn't what she wanted and ended it. He didn't take it well.

Then we got together about a month after that. She was hugely considerate towards him, really tried not to hurt his feelings or anything, explained to him repeatedly that it just wasn't working, when we out in places where he would be (similar social circle) she'd always take pains not to be physically affectionate to me as to not rub it in (to the point where I was like, Christ, we're not 18 here) but he'd still text her every day and email her stuff about "I had a dream we were back together last night"

It got a bit more full on with one incident when we were out together and he was there and acted like a real dick (basically got his mates to kick us out of this bar) and so me and a few of my mates were like "Look, this is crap, we need to sort this idiot out" but she was like "No, no, that will just make it worse, that will really rile him up and he'll probably start turning up at my house and stuff, he'll get over it slowly" so I respected her judgement on this and lo and behold, he did ease off. We talked about it and she's like "You're a nice guy (contrary to my posting here I actually am) you don't understand how some guys get when relationships end".

She then pointed out (I'd never really thought about it) that she didn't use her real name on Facebook, again because guys, not even exs, just like people from work or friends, would effectively stalk her on that too.

Most blokes have no idea the level of shit women deal with in terms of sex and relationships on a daily basis.

 

[brett15]

great post above.

insecure guys are prone to creepy, weird and 'floater' type behavior when they are infatuated with a girl. In fact its usually the clingy, needy, desperate type behaviors that end up causing girls (and sometimes guys) to break up with someone.

A simple example:
Girl says: "Hey it's late so I'm going to head off to sleep"
Guy says: "that's ok sweety, I'll just watch you while you sleep then"

^^ That's creeepy weird and will completely freak the girl out, but the guy stupidly thinks he saying something that's nice and cute.

Also, look up the clingly girlfriend on facebook, now that's a guide on not what to do.

 

[crownie]

A mate of mine in high school had an older sister who had a stalker. We lived near each other and sometimes when we walked home from school he would appear just walking the streets around their house and he always use to turn up to where she worked.

 

[Cruyff14]

I've had someone make up a facebook profile of myself and add myself and all of my friends on it. They had all of my info as well, plus other photos I don't have up on facebook. They were constantly sending me messages and stuff, then had heaps of random messages from people who were constantly creating new accounts just harassing me, was pretty weird. Add that and a heap of phone calls (20 a day for about 2 months or so) and shit got really really annoying.

Why would you not report this immediately?

 

[d0gs]

Why would you not report this immediately?

I did, I had the account made up of myself deleted within 20 minutes or so, but I was getting heaps and heaps of people trying to add me which was from accounts made that day. Luckily that has pretty much stopped now.

Started getting calls again from a private number, answered once and there was a voice but they shut up straight away. Started last week and have been getting 8-10 calls a day from it. Bloody annoying.

 

[Cruyff14]

I did, I had the account made up of myself deleted within 20 minutes or so, but I was getting heaps and heaps of people trying to add me which was from accounts made that day. Luckily that has pretty much stopped now.

Started getting calls again from a private number, answered once and there was a voice but they shut up straight away. Started last week and have been getting 8-10 calls a day from it. Bloody annoying.

I used to get prank calls on private. You don't answer and they get bored and stop.