Family & Relationships Weddings

[the_interloper]

Very well played

 

[FRUMPY]

So yeah the pressure got the better of me, we are getting married early next year. While it doesn't mean much to me (being married, as the step kids said, you've been together for ever it doesn't change anything) it means the world to her and I thought, **** it, why not. Doesn't matter if I get married and it'll be a fun day.

It has gone from just a covid wedding, barely anyone there, to close family to now probably about 60 people.

And that's all because of me......she doesn't care, she just wants to be married. But every time we talk about it, I want more, I want to have fun with family and mates....I'm such the woman in this [emoji1787][emoji1787]

We've settled on a local pub that has been done up and has a really nice spot for pictures. All I want is a quick ceremony and then cocktail style drinks with family and mates. No over the top wedding parties (just me and the missus and the step kids) , no first dance or speeches, just have a good time.

Told a few mates and family and all of them are [emoji108][emoji108], perfect wedding [emoji1787][emoji1787]

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[kickazz]

So yeah the pressure got the better of me, we are getting married early next year. While it doesn't mean much to me (being married, as the step kids said, you've been together for ever it doesn't change anything) it means the world to her and I thought, fu** it, why not. Doesn't matter if I get married and it'll be a fun day.

It has gone from just a covid wedding, barely anyone there, to close family to now probably about 60 people.

And that's all because of me......she doesn't care, she just wants to be married. But every time we talk about it, I want more, I want to have fun with family and mates....I'm such the woman in this [emoji1787][emoji1787]

We've settled on a local pub that has been done up and has a really nice spot for pictures. All I want is a quick ceremony and then cocktail style drinks with family and mates. No over the top wedding parties (just me and the missus and the step kids) , no first dance or speeches, just have a good time.

Told a few mates and family and all of them are [emoji108][emoji108], perfect wedding [emoji1787][emoji1787]

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Yeah good stuff. It's basically a party for family and friends and everyone will love it.

I got married recently, and had a similar approach - perhaps a few more formalities - but overall we kept it simple and let people have fun with good food, drinks and music.

On the day I didn't stress about everything going to plan, I just wanted to enjoy it just as if I was a guest myself.

Everyone loved it and I wish we could do it all again!

 

[Syd]

So yeah the pressure got the better of me, we are getting married early next year....

 

[mr bagcroft]

Baby showers, another name for 'give me presents'

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and attention! maybe even more so than presents.
Just like the ridiculous amd embarassing gender reveal bullshit.
I mean seriously, howd that shit ever get off the ground ?

 

[mr bagcroft]

What you can afford.

half a pack of twisties and an I owe u...?
I mean , should I not go otherwise?

 

[Cruyff14]

So I'm getting hitched and we've just started researching options for our wedding day.

We're not sure if we'll go big(ish), small or even elope at this stage but thought it would be interesting to hear what have been some of the best/worst weddings you've been to and why?

Would also also appreciate any advice and suggestions from posters from their own wedding experience and if you would do anything differently?

If there's a thread already that's great but couldn't find one.

My wedding day was the best day of my life.

All up it probably cost around $40-$45k and we probably contributed $30k-$35k of that. Have the wedding you want within your means. We had 110 people (with the only kids except being the flower girls and their siblings). The guests from work were slim, I have more friends than my wife, but she has a larger family. Her bridesmaids were here sisters and my groomsmen were my mates (only child), I paid for their entire outfits.

I highly recommend getting a videographer, it cost us $4000 but it was more than worth the money considering the final result.

The only thing we probably regret was jumping in so quickly with a photographer. The photos turned out great, but there was a bit of a language barrier at times and his personality didn't really suit ours, but the photos were still excellent.

We did reception and ceremony at the same place which made it easier for us, and all our guests.

Happy to help with any other queries you have.

 

[Cruyff14]

I'm going to a wedding with a wishing well soon. How much is a reasonable amount to put in, my fellow bigfootyers?

How well do you know them? Is it a nice place? $200 minimum I think. $250 is the lowest we would contribute for good friends etc.

 

[Thistle]

My wedding day was the best day of my life.

All up it probably cost around $40-$45k and we probably contributed $30k-$35k of that. Have the wedding you want within your means. We had 110 people (with the only kids except being the flower girls and their siblings). The guests from work were slim, I have more friends than my wife, but she has a larger family. Her bridesmaids were here sisters and my groomsmen were my mates (only child), I paid for their entire outfits.

I highly recommend getting a videographer, it cost us $4000 but it was more than worth the money considering the final result.

The only thing we probably regret was jumping in so quickly with a photographer. The photos turned out great, but there was a bit of a language barrier at times and his personality didn't really suit ours, but the photos were still excellent.

We did reception and ceremony at the same place which made it easier for us, and all our guests.

Happy to help with any other queries you have.

Thanks mate, sounds like an incredible day and this is what we'd ideally like to do if we had more money available to us.

In saying that, we could afford it but it would mean sacrificing other plans so we're probably leaning towards more elopement style. The lack of stress in the lead up is also becoming more appealing as we learn more about all the things involved with planning a traditional celebration.

 

[Cruyff14]

Thanks mate, sounds like an incredible day and this is what we'd ideally like to do if we had more money available to us.

In saying that, we could afford it but it would mean sacrificing other plans so we're probably leaning towards more elopement style. The lack of stress in the lead up is also becoming more appealing as we learn more about all the things involved with planning a traditional celebration.

We were married at a winery, neither of us are churchies and wanted something more chilled/laid back than in a more traditional manner.

Yeah, do what is within your means, and what you both want. Just make sure you're both happy and you won't look back with regret etc. Weddings are great, if you can afford to do something under 100 people and still afford your future plans, it may be worth a consideration.

We already had our place, and had substantial savings behind us which allowed us to have more flexibility with what we wanted.

 

[Catfish Alley]

We had a garden wedding with only 50-60 people. We were living in Australia but got married in Canada so really only my parents came from my side. Was great. I found some things were stupidly expensive that you could work around. The cake or bomboniere for example. You can use contacts to get some good deals. We had an awesome 1933 Packard for our car that was owned by a friend of a friend. The day goes quickly. Take it in. Enjoy it. I still have fond memories of little things like a quiet morning coffee and chat with my Dad.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

So yeah the pressure got the better of me, we are getting married early next year. While it doesn't mean much to me (being married, as the step kids said, you've been together for ever it doesn't change anything) it means the world to her and I thought, fu** it, why not. Doesn't matter if I get married and it'll be a fun day.

It has gone from just a covid wedding, barely anyone there, to close family to now probably about 60 people.

And that's all because of me......she doesn't care, she just wants to be married. But every time we talk about it, I want more, I want to have fun with family and mates....I'm such the woman in this [emoji1787][emoji1787]

We've settled on a local pub that has been done up and has a really nice spot for pictures. All I want is a quick ceremony and then cocktail style drinks with family and mates. No over the top wedding parties (just me and the missus and the step kids) , no first dance or speeches, just have a good time.

Told a few mates and family and all of them are [emoji108][emoji108], perfect wedding [emoji1787][emoji1787]

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That's pretty close to what we did. 15 minute ceremony, no bridesmaids or groomsmen (just both of our brothers), then a good party. It was awesome! Much less pressure.

 

[viesun]

I got married at the beginning of May, we had a wedding for 70 people in the UK. We had an out-of-town ceremony in a marquee.
We spent a lot of time thinking through the details and decided that we wanted to start the wedding at sunset and have the banquet at the exact location. So we needed good evening lighting, so we turned to ontourevents.co.uk . We ordered lighting for the dance floor inside the marquee and a small wedding stage. We booked an expensive photographer, so we really hoped the lighting would work properly. It did, all the guests were thrilled, and the photos turned out magical. Some pictures remind me of shots from Twilight. I'm a big fan of the movie, making me very happy.

 

[Catfish Alley]

Haven’t seen this thread for a while! 15th anniversary is next week.