Work Relationships?! Do or Dont?

[BluesBabe666]

What are your views on having personal relationships with a person that you work with? Here is the situation!

My friend, a Personal Assistant in Melbourne, is attracted to one of the General Managers in her company, who is based in Sydney office in a totally separate department, and is on the executives board. The attraction is mutual, and neither are involved in any other relationships.

She just wants to catch up for a drink (although he makes her extremely toey so she knows it would end up being a tad more than just a drink), but he wont, because he is worried about his boss and her boss finding out. He is in Melbourne often, they dance around the topic on the phone and via email quite often, but he is yet to have a drink with her alone, out of work hours, even if its kept just between themselves.

What do you think the go is? The attraction is deifinitely on both ends!

Does he just want a one night thing so therefore isnt wanting to mix business and pleasure?

Does he not trust her and maybe think she is after him to help further her career, or does he not trust her in that she will tell someone whats going on?

And even if others in the business know, and she instigated the whole thing, does it really matter, or do any damage?

 

[Mcchawk]

I say go for it and enjoy love making and the other while getting paid at work!

P.s- I work for a very large company two bosses caught on the board room table going for it!! Woman lost her job and the guy didn't. Go figure?

 

[BluesBabe666]

As far as i am concerned, if the parties arent married, there is no moral issue, they should just go for it!!!

(Unlike our Queensland PA who got busted giving one of her married store managers a head job by the CEO!! - she has been branded the biggest **** out and he seems to have gotten away with it - and he was the married one!! Makes sense, not!)

 

[Bee]

All's fair in love and war, BB. Go for it.

 

[Mcchawk]

Originally posted by BluesBabe666
As far as i am concerned, if the parties arent married, there is no moral issue, they should just go for it!!!

(Unlike our Queensland PA who got busted giving one of her married store managers a head job by the CEO!! - she has been branded the biggest **** out and he seems to have gotten away with it - and he was the married one!! Makes sense, not!)

CEO sounds jealous

 

[BluesBabe666]

Heh heh... methinks the CEO was rather horrified!!! I think it rather amusing!

 

[PrincessPark]

Your "friend" eh, BB666!!



Well, speaking from personal experience from someone who has had a few of these sort of encounters . . . if all parties remain mature and discreet then no problem if both understand exactly the situation, ie: a bit of fun and a fling. A relationship though might be a different story.

Much easier that the other bloke is in Sydney . . . easier to avoid if you feel a little awkward after . . . so you, I mean, your friend, should just go for it!!

 

[BluesBabe666]

Hey PP, stop followin' me ya dumb ho!!!

And thanks all for your advice - i think the issue here is convincing the other party that he has nothing to worry about except serious attachment on my, oops, my friends part and a bloody good time!!! Cos the lips are sealed!! Its the convincing him to take the chance! He wont even chance the drink for fear of where it will lead!

 

[PrincessPark]

I'm gonna bust a cap in yo' skanky ho ass one of these days, biatch!!

If your lips are sealed though it might make for a fairly boring sort of a night though

 

[BluesBabe666]

YOU is such a dirty minded ho, girlfriend!!!!! I does wanna marry this one ya know, to give a father for me eight kids from their nine different fathers that is all in jail, biatch!!!

*s******* You're right though. Lips will be wide open then!! But no talking!

 

[PrincessPark]

Heh heh, BB666 - that reminds me of a joke I got yesterday.

A 17 year old single mother of 10 walks into her local Centrelink in Salisbury* and signs on for benefits. The Centrelink official asks her to list the names of her dependents.

"Craig, Craig, Craig, Craig, Craig, Craig, Craig, Craig, Craig and Craig," she says.

"Doesn't that get confusing?" asked the Centrelink official.

"Naw, if they're all out in the street playing and I yell 'Craig!! Get inside now b'fore I flog ya" or I want 'em to go to bed or somefink, I just say 'Craig! Get in bed now' and they all do it"

"I see," said the Centrelink official, "but what if you want to talk to them individually?"

"Oh that's easy," she said. "Then I just use their surnames"

* please substitute dodgy suburb in your own city

 

[BluesBabe666]

*s******* Good one Prin, i like it alot!!!

 

[kaysee]

Here's my take on it...

It is logical that a person is going to meet a work collegue they are attracted to because they see them often and get to know them better.

I met my current Wife through work and we worked together whilst dating for the last 3 months before my Wife finished her studies and switched career paths. We had no problems at work all though admittedly both of our positions weren't as far up the hierachial ladder as those you mentioned.

Still it comes down to what is important to the individuals. If they both think that they could build a strong relationship together then go for it. If questions arise at work about it then both should be open and honest (without giving away personal details) about the relationship.

For me finding the right partner in life and raising a future family /was/is paramount above everything else, and if my employees had any problems with it then too bad (as long as my isn't effected by it).

However if the 2 people are after a bit of a steamy sex based relationship simply for sex then it would be expected that fellow work collegues would most likely see it in a poor light.


not sure if any that makes sense to you or helps but thats my say.

All the best
SKC

 

[BluesBabe666]

THanks, it certainly does put things into perspective!!

 

[kristin5]

I'd have a relationship with someone I worked with, I don't see a problem with it. Unfortunately, all the guys at my work are repulsive! I often say it must be one of the ugliest work places in Melbourne.

 

[Rohan_]

Originally posted by kristin5
I'd have a relationship with someone I worked with, I don't see a problem with it. Unfortunately, all the guys at my work are repulsive! I often say it must be one of the ugliest work places in Melbourne.

Uglier than the Cricketers?

 

[kristin5]

Originally posted by Rohan_


Uglier than the Cricketers?

Lucky I don't work there, cos that'd rival it! Fortunately though, the Cricketers has something going for it - it's filled with Collingwood supporters, which can only be a good thing