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Snake_Baker said:
I have seen some shadow people on a couple of occasions, but apparently this isn't that rare.

I was once so startled by one of these that I woke up and swung a roundhouse at it. It probably had as much to do with the 3 grams of Silver Haze that I had smashed earlier in the day.
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Probably your own shadow & you keep pushing it away.....Jung has much to say on this very topic.

In Jungian psychology, the "shadow", "Id", or "shadow aspect/archetype" may refer to (1) an unconscious aspect of the personality which the conscious ego does not identify in itself. In short, the shadow is the "dark side". ... Carl Jung stated the shadow to be the unknown dark side of the personality.

http://www.practicalphilosophy.net/?page_id=952

For Nietzsche, the shadow or 'irrational' side of the human personality he terms the Dionysian....An aspect of humanity he saw as regressing ever further into the background due to the advances of science, reason & societal structures overtaking our lives completely.
 

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I'm so scarred and traumatized by life, I don't think I can ever heal enough to even pretend a semblance of normalcy or adjustment. I'm simply not mean for this particular world, just don't belong in any situation. Everything human and innate of Earth just never sits well in me, like I'm an angelic being.
 
GG.exe said:
I'm so scarred and traumatized by life, I don't think I can ever heal enough to even pretend a semblance of normalcy or adjustment. I'm simply not mean for this particular world, just don't belong in any situation. Everything human and innate of Earth just never sits well in me, like I'm an angelic being.
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You may find you're not alone.
I just find that the more you open your eyes, the more disappointed one can become at being human.

Don't worry about it. It's not such a bad thing.
 
GG.exe said:
I'm so scarred and traumatized by life, I don't think I can ever heal enough to even pretend a semblance of normalcy or adjustment. I'm simply not mean for this particular world, just don't belong in any situation. Everything human and innate of Earth just never sits well in me, like I'm an angelic being.
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How are you doing GG.exe ?
Seriously! How are you?
 
GG.exe said:
See quote. But otherwise I'm dandy :rolleyes:

Hope you're doing well :thumbsu:
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You just don't know for sure whether people are being serious or just having a bit of fun.

Current life is funny in that we think we've learned so much and we mainly consider ourselves a highly intelligent species, yet we can't answer the most fundamental of questions. The joke's on us. :)
 

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HARKER said:
You just don't know for sure whether people are being serious or just having a bit of fun.

Current life is funny in that we think we've learned so much and we mainly consider ourselves a highly intelligent species, yet we can't answer the most fundamental of questions. The joke's on us. :)
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Life does suck for most of us though, we are never truly happy. A few years ago i had a severe depression, most of my "trustworthy" friends i started a successful business with threw me under the bus when the chance appeared, they made millions from it, while i went bankrupt. I didnt post on bigfooty for a long time, trying to get back up on my feet, locked myself in a dark room really now i back up on my feet and own a successful business again but my trust in people is forever scarred, i just dont any trust ****ing one outside of my family. Harsh realities of life! One lesson though, when you are successful, you will have many friends, but when you are struggling there's no one to help you. Now those people who stood by me during my dark days are my best friends, although i still don't trust outsiders by default. But i am not making the same mistake twice.
 
Total Power said:
Life does suck for most of us though, we are never truly happy. A few years ago i had a severe depression, most of my "trustworthy" friends i started a successful business with threw me under the bus when the chance appeared, they made millions from it, while i went bankrupt. I didnt post on bigfooty for a long time, trying to get back up on my feet, locked myself in a dark room really now i back up on my feet and own a successful business again but my trust in people is forever scarred, i just dont any trust ******* one outside of my family. Harsh realities of life! One lesson though, when you are successful, you will have many friends, but when you are struggling there's no one to help you. Now those people who stood by me during my dark days are my best friends, although i still don't trust outsiders by default. But i am not making the same mistake twice.
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We've travelled not too dissimilar paths then.
Funny thing happened to me is that I genuinely fell out of love for money. I thought a bit of cognitive dissonance was going on, but it actually wasn't.

Now this sounds silly but I can explain it; I've become happy not having to be happy. I'm glad I'm not happy, or at least the happiness most of us seek by way of material objects or personal status. Have always said I'd sooner live a difficult objective truth than to live a 'happy' lie and now I finally know what my own words mean. It's not nearly as bad as it may be perceived from the outside.
 
HARKER said:
We've travelled not too dissimilar paths then.
Funny thing happened to me is that I genuinely fell out of love for money. I thought a bit of cognitive dissonance was going on, but it actually wasn't.

Now this sounds silly but I can explain it; I've become happy not having to be happy. I'm glad I'm not happy, or at least the happiness most of us seek by way of material objects or personal status. Have always said I'd sooner live a difficult objective truth than to live a 'happy' lie and now I finally know what my own words mean. It's not nearly as bad as it may be perceived from the outside.
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Well, this is where my experience with "religion" occurred, and by religion i don't mean the bible or the quran, i travelling to india to get out of society, couldnt stand the sight of people. Camped in the Himalayas i took refuge in a Buddhist monastery and learned to meditate. There i learned about suffering and causes of suffering in human life, as we associate our happiness with impermanent things, like money or material stuff. We are very similar even now, i am not surprised, money doesn't come first for me anymore, relationships do, i am friends with with very "few" people (more like a couple of them), while i socialise with millions. You have found our own path, although i have taken a different path, but we arrived at the same conclusion. I am smiling reading your post, this actually made my day, believe it or not :)
 
Total Power said:
Well, this is where my experience with "religion" occurred, and by religion i don't mean the bible or the quran, i travelling to india to get out of society, couldnt stand the sight of people. Camped in the Himalayas i took refuge in a Buddhist monastery and learned to meditate. There i learned about suffering and causes of suffering in human life, as we associate our happiness with impermanent things, like money or material stuff. We are very similar even now, i am not surprised, money doesn't come first for me anymore, relationships do, i am friends with with very "few" people (more like a couple of them), while i socialise with millions. You have found our own path, although i have taken a different path, but we arrived at the same conclusion. I am smiling reading your post, this actually made my day, believe it or not :)
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My ignorant father used his death-bed to announce something it took his whole life to say, to my mother.
I wasn't there at that time, as I was on my way there from work, but they were, if not the last, then just about the last words he ever uttered.
He said; "(mums name) If I had my time again, everything would be different."

It's always different when our time comes. If we lived the way we'll feel in our last moments, this would indeed be a wonderful world.
 
Total Power said:
Well, this is where my experience with "religion" occurred, and by religion i don't mean the bible or the quran, i travelling to india to get out of society, couldnt stand the sight of people. Camped in the Himalayas i took refuge in a Buddhist monastery and learned to meditate. There i learned about suffering and causes of suffering in human life, as we associate our happiness with impermanent things, like money or material stuff. We are very similar even now, i am not surprised, money doesn't come first for me anymore, relationships do, i am friends with with very "few" people (more like a couple of them), while i socialise with millions. You have found our own path, although i have taken a different path, but we arrived at the same conclusion. I am smiling reading your post, this actually made my day, believe it or not :)
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By the way TP. Thanks for sharing that story. :thumbsu:

Is there something in that some who have had it hardest in life, become the most interesting people?
Would have they been just as interesting should they be compiling a vast real-estate portfolio, doing coke daily and playing up on the missus?
 
HARKER said:
By the way TP. Thanks for sharing that story. :thumbsu:

Is there something in that some who have had it hardest in life, become the most interesting people?
Would have they been just as interesting should they be compiling a vast real-estate portfolio, doing coke daily and playing up on the missus?
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I am really happy i made this post and i got to talk to you, it's not PM i know, but its great, other people can see it as well.

I truly believe that happiness is not found in material world. Case in point, Hawthorn wins 3 flags in 5 years and their fans want more. My team hasn't won a flag in 13 years and i genuinely think that winning a flag will make me happy yeah temporarily then back to the same old bitching about clangers and shanks. Taking refuge in sensory pleasures are always "temporary". Be it coke, sex, going to a michelin star restaurant and treating yourelf with a steak that costs 500 quid etc. We forget that tomorrow that steak will come out of your arseh*le all ********. When we had the discussion about religion i told you something : To quote myself

In essence, in our current environment, we are a combination of both giving and taking forces. We do act for others, but more often than not, we do things for ourselves.

When we do things for ourselves, we are trying to establish permanent happiness, by associating with things which are impermanent. As such, we suffer, as we lose that which we cling onto, or alternatively we desire more of what we crave. We are never truly happy in this state of consciousness.

By incarnating the Christ, we intentionally turn our nature from one of duality, into one of pure giving. we do this through meditation and right actions. If we can truly change our nature to allign with the giving spirit of the Universe, which is in essence love, then we experience true happiness.

Therefore the path of the person wishing to attain Krishna consciousness is one who learns to alter their spiritual nature from one of receiving, to one of pure giving.
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You do not necessarily need to meditate, if you have self-realisation, but we are pretty much talking about the same thing! But this is from experience, i am not uttering indoctrinated crap from any religious book! experience!


Same with money, the best things in life don't come in government printed notes (yes it leads to temporary happiness), i realised that when i had no money, all my friends were gone! people i helped always, found an excuse not to talk to me! i did something wrong, not sure what was wrong maybe i was unlucky with people? but having the best people around you is far more important than having money. But i still help people out, i keep giving them, knowing that they might **** me like i was ****ed before, but i don't trust them, but that doesn't stop me from helping them. My wife reckons I will never learn my lesson. LOL.
 

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HARKER said:
Funny thing happened to me is that I genuinely fell out of love for money. I thought a bit of cognitive dissonance was going on, but it actually wasn't.
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I used to make heaps of money.

I bought at least one new pair of sneakers a month (often more) & spent thousands on clothes. I had a beautiful house in a rich area and a botox faced next-door neighbour with a sixteen year old daughter who'd match a Gucci dress with Jimmy Choo heels when she took her dog for a shit. As soon as I was eligible I took long service leave to invest in a coke habit abroad. I spent everything on a ludicrously expensive wardrobe and parties with friends: that bit was ****in' awesome.

The other side was not so awesome- my diet was shit (no time to cook, replaced water with energy drinks, boozed constantly). **** all sleep, shitloads of ciggies; health ****ed basically. I often worked 6 days a week, occasionally more. I spent more time with colleagues (who i hated) than friends (who i loved). I barely saw my family because the free time I did have was usually nursing a hangover, stressing about work, or trying to make up to my partner for being a total shit when I was around her. It was nice having financial stability, but not at the expense of creative passions and my relationships. So I quit.

Now I work 4 days a week in a shit-tier admin job and invest my time in creative pursuits instead of mindlessly buying crap I don't need; all the money I spent on expensive clothes/sneakers/etc. goes to (cheap!) travel/a house deposit instead. I make a conscious effort to spend time with my partner (even if it we're just lying in bed on our laptops) and reaching out to friends who are slipping away.



For some people a successful career, a big house and lawn, bangin' wife (and a little on the side) and 2.4 kids are critical to their happiness; that's fine, I don't judge. Personally I just want to spend the rest of whatever time I have left the planet hanging with my dog, getting high with friends, making the tail end of parents life as enjoyable as possible and painting/drawing/making music etc.

People say that your quality of life is better when you've got a bunch of money. There's some truth in that: investing in health is costly and you need a roof over your head- but beyond that basic shit if you're life is better because you're drinking a $100 bottle of wine instead of a $10 bottle of wine or you had twelve pairs of cons to pick from instead of three, I reckon you're a ****in' loser.

No idea what this thread is about but thought I'd offer my 5 cents.
Total Power said:
I realised that when i had no money, all my friends were gone! people i helped always, found an excuse not to talk to me! i did something wrong, not sure what was wrong maybe i was unlucky with people? but having the best people around you is far more important than having money. But i still help people out, i keep giving them, knowing that they might **** me like i was ****** before, but i don't trust them, but that doesn't stop me from helping them. My wife reckons I will never learn my lesson. LOL.
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That's shit.

I've always been attracted to people with empathy and a strong sense of social justice, an interest in art and propensity to engage in a week-long bender at the drop of a hat. Served me well so far.
 
Toump Ass said:
**** that's a long post. Sorry 'bout that
tl;dr I was rich, now I'm poor and I'm shitloads happier.
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Some interesting stories here and I thank you all for relating them......real experiences. :thumbsu:

I'm not sure that being poorer alone makes you happier.....it may though....but I feel it can bring about some realisations and force one to be honest.
I have all the time in the world for honest people. Honest by way of expressing their feelings, their insights and even their depressive states.

I also once had too much of everything. Spent each Sunday going out and spending up to $1K and on what?.....stuff....shit....but I was too gutless to admit that it didn't make me happy. Not the smiling face happy, but the real happiness we all seek by way of understanding and self-aware.
It took me until I finally learned to ask myself one simple but important question that things started coming together as much as from the outside, it may have looked as though my life was falling apart. That questions was and still is; If I was the only person on earth, would I really want that?

It's fascinating that when we see the signals we realise just how much we do things just because others do and for the way others may view us.
Think about how ridiculous that is. It defies logic, unless you post it to simply being an inherent human behaviour, but what a silly behaviour. :)

Total Power says that he's still helping people. Well, good on him, because he hasn't been drawn into the tit-for-tat world that abounds, but for one that that doing what he believes (knows) to be right. Hats off to him.
 
Having more money just meant I spent more money. It didn't make me any more or less content with life, until I realised the cost of it all. And part of that cost was wasting time and money on things that I didn't even want; whether that's a lack of discipline, immaturity or as a distraction from the dissatisfaction with my working life, I really don't know.

I can't speak for everyone, but I'm glad I found my own path. I mean I know people that moved overseas and left partners behind for the sake of their career. To me that's just totally mental.
 

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