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Off-topic so I guess we should move this somewhere more appropriate if either of you two know where?
That might sound provocative, but as with any dicussion, being 'one-eyed' will provoke criticism. You just won't get far in any issue without taking into account what other people are saying or might be feeling.
I've noticed a bit of grief about supposed anti-MRA bias. I think what you need to understand is not that people don't care that men are abused or disadvantaged in the family courts, it is that there is a never-ending refrain whenever a woman speaks about domestic abuse, that 'it happens to men too'. Generally the first two or three comments after such an article will have someone saying that defensively. DV is a complex issue as it mostly involves intimate relationships, but it is undeniable that men attacking women is the vast majority of cases and a key part of the problem due to them often being both physically and economically superior. That isn't all cases, no, but its a huge part of the problem and if men find themselves in the same situtation they will benefit if women find solutions to that major, major problem. It's not some ghastly sexist thing. It is a reflection of reality. Men do have major problems when trying to get access to their kids. It is a big issue, but women talking about domestic abuse is not a backhander to those men. They are putting forward their perspective and men can put forward there's too. The blowback I've seen comes when men, some of whom are no doubt angered by court decisions, react negatively and aggressively to women having their say. It's not "healthy debate" but men claiming women are 'hijacking' an issue.Nah, I am, that is why I added that. I actually didn't mind some of his articles. He adds a different perspective - and a necessary one IMO. But I think his writings come from a bad place, he tends to have a lot of hate in his heart - which isn't good. But if you put that aside and focus on the content, I thought he raised some valid arguments in some of his articles - especially those on domestic violence. Latham highlighted that domestic violence is also a socioeconomic issue, and I think that discussion needs to be had. Regardless of what I think of Latham, I also think the discussion of domestic violence has been hijacked and made into a gendered issue, and that anyone who talks otherwise - gets ridiculed. Complex issues need alternative perspectives, it creates for a healthy debate, I don't just want to flick on channel 9 all the time and get told that I am an animal for just being a bloke.
Plenty of people talk about it. The problem is they do so with such anger that they're hard to put to air. Wasn't there an MRA group running around in all black covering their faces? Maybe that's why they get angry - women do get to go to air, because they can speak about it without getting too personal or worked up. And given male anger is a big part of the problem, it's not surprising women might react poorly to angry men telling them what to do.Latham is a flawed character but he is needed in some form in the media to provide a voice for this issue as he seems like the only one who has the cojones to speak up about it.
That might sound provocative, but as with any dicussion, being 'one-eyed' will provoke criticism. You just won't get far in any issue without taking into account what other people are saying or might be feeling.