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I’ve been through two of these in the past year, and they bloody suck! I’ve coped better after the most recent one as I know we just aren’t right for each other, but losing someone you care about isn’t easy.

What’s the worst breakups you’ve been through, and how did you deal with it?
 
Had a year long relationship devolve into jealousy and paranoia on my part and left me in a huge hole emotionally. I had the fortune of having only just left high school and so I turned myself around by getting a job and generally keeping quite busy.
 
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My 34 year marriage ended late last year, emotionally traumatic and draining to say the least. Makes it very hard that you have built up a lifetime of connections with both sides of the family and friends, it affects them as well. We have 2 adult children and 3 grand children so we still see each other, it's awkward but getting better as time goes by.

I'm in a very good place now, really like being by myself and doing whatever I like whenever I like.
 

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jason pm said:
My 34 year marriage ended late last year, emotionally traumatic and draining to say the least. Makes it very hard that you have built up a lifetime of connections with both sides of the family and friends, it affects them as well. We have 2 adult children and 3 grand children so we still see each other, it's awkward but getting better as time goes by.

I'm in a very good place now, really like being by myself and doing whatever I like whenever I like.
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I too am divorced as of many years ago. And it was very difficult as I had lost a job/ Then her/ Then the house. Anyway eventually got a new job, Had the settlement and traveled and got on with life. I've had about 7 relationships since over the years but just love doing what i want in my own time in my own Place. Can't beat it.:)
 
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I too am divorced as of many years ago. And it was very difficult as I had lost a job/ Then her/ Then the house. Anyway eventually got a new job, Had the settlement and traveled and got on with life. I've had about 7 relationships since over the years but just love doing what i want in my own time in my own Place. Can't beat it.:)
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WOW! 7 relationships since. I can't imagine myself with anyone else at all, something extraordinary would have to happen to do the whole cohabitation thing again.

But if anyone knows where a balding, skinny, retired although fit and healthy 58 year could get some NSA action that would be good:shoutyoldman:. Note- I don't do lawn bowls or bridge.
 
Only really had one proper one. We were together about 3 years and split just as I fished Uni. Was good timing actually as I organized to move overseas. Lost touch completely but was happy to hear years afterwards that she followed the path she wanted, got married, had kids etc.
 
my 15 year relationship/marriage ended 2.5 years ago. it was about 10 years past when it should have happened

only advice I can offer people is don't wait until you're ready to kill yourself to get out of a horrible relationship

i'm in a very good place now thankfully
 
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Says this woman who **** teased a kind hearted bloke consistently and never once gave a shit about his world being confronted with a kid he never knew about. And a woman who eats like she's on a slumber party and stays thin. And who encourages her daughter to be a side-hoe to some successful dude?

Two of the most selfish, spoilt, smug bitches ever. And who aren't intended to be arseholes but some cool advertisement of what women could and should be. The way it makes men everything in their life, but they have this 'they come, they go, don't worry sis' approach to it is terrible.

****in hell I hate these bitches.

Rory was cute tho.
 
Study after study shows that women move on from breakups significantly faster than men.

It is also a statistical fact that ~2/3 divorces are initiated by the woman in the marriage.

So my advice for getting over breakups quickly is to be a woman.

Or if you cannot do that, perhaps ask yourself why you believe you need a 'partner' in your life to feel complete.

It probably goes back to childhood experiences. What kind of upbringing did you have?

Were you encouraged to share your emotional difficulties with others, or encouraged to be self-driven and self-supportive?

Seems to me that the men who fall hardest after breakups are the ones who truly believed their 'partner' was their emotional support.
 
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Says this woman who **** teased a kind hearted bloke consistently and never once gave a shit about his world being confronted with a kid he never knew about. And a woman who eats like she's on a slumber party and stays thin. And who encourages her daughter to be a side-hoe to some successful dude?

Two of the most selfish, spoilt, smug bitches ever. And who aren't intended to be arseholes but some cool advertisement of what women could and should be. The way it makes men everything in their life, but they have this 'they come, they go, don't worry sis' approach to it is terrible.

****in hell I hate these bitches.

Rory was cute tho.
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jason pm said:
WOW! 7 relationships since. I can't imagine myself with anyone else at all, something extraordinary would have to happen to do the whole cohabitation thing again.

But if anyone knows where a balding, skinny, retired although fit and healthy 58 year could get some NSA action that would be good:shoutyoldman:. Note- I don't do lawn bowls or bridge.
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Depending on how much money you have --> EasternEuropeanWives.com
 

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Have had a few different break ups. Would put that down to my immaturity, their mental health and poor communication at times on my behalf.

I am now with a wonderful women bit sometimes its challenging for me. But having had the other 3 end so differently makes me such a better person in this relationship.
 
mouncey2franklin said:
Study after study shows that women move on from breakups significantly faster than men.

It is also a statistical fact that ~2/3 divorces are initiated by the woman in the marriage.
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Yeah this makes sense. Women check out emotionally long before the relationship is officially over.

Were you encouraged to share your emotional difficulties with others, or encouraged to be self-driven and self-supportive?

Seems to me that the men who fall hardest after breakups are the ones who truly believed their 'partner' was their emotional support.
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Dips said:
my 15 year relationship/marriage ended 2.5 years ago. it was about 10 years past when it should have happened

only advice I can offer people is don't wait until you're ready to kill yourself to get out of a horrible relationship

i'm in a very good place now thankfully
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I can relate Dips, my 34 year relationship was dead emotionally and physically for around 5 years before it ended, I never quite got to the ready to kill yourself stage but awfully down and felling like I was in a rut and could see no way out of.
 
Just don't be a girlfriend guy.

If you're lucky enough to find a great girl a few months after your last, great. But it's not that likely.

A heap of blokes I know who have something end, two months later are with someone else and go through this one-year-on two-months-off thing are generally nice dudes but fmd they can eat some shit/get into things too fast. Maybe it's important to step away and not rush into things. I don't think 'go out and get a root' is a great idea but then again it works for some people (read girls) so eh, I dunno.

Just do not think you need another person to validate yourself.
 
perthblue said:
Yeah this makes sense. Women check out emotionally long before the relationship is officially over.



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When they start becoming distant and not messaging as much, making it seem like catching up is more an obligation than really wanting to, it's time to end it.
 

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