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Originally posted by GOALden Hawk


Just out of interest do you tell your partner before hand that you are going to sleep with someone else? Or do you tell them after?
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Definately after. I don't usually know when I'm going to cheat. I'll be out, the situation will present itself, I'll take it, then tell my partner at some later stage i.e. when she asks. When she cheats, she usually tells the next day - she has a guilty conscience - something I don't have, thankfully.
 
I have done it ONCE when I was about to break up with my girlfriend anyway. I felt REALLY bad about it. This was around three years ago.

Would shoot myself if I cheated on my current girlfriend! She means far too much to me for that thought to even register. :)
 
If I find myself feeling ANYTHING for someone else, I leave the one I'm with. Even if nothing happens with the other person, if you have feelings for someone else there is something wrong with your current relationship and it's unfair to everyone to go on.

I am very happy with the one that I'm with and I know I'd never cheat on him. :) Awwwwwies. And NO he won't read this. :rolleyes: lol
 
Originally posted by lioness22
If I find myself feeling ANYTHING for someone else, I leave the one I'm with. Even if nothing happens with the other person, if you have feelings for someone else there is something wrong with your current relationship and it's unfair to everyone to go on.

I am very happy with the one that I'm with and I know I'd never cheat on him. :) Awwwwwies. And NO he won't read this. :rolleyes: lol
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This is precisely where I differ. If I feel something for someone else, I can distinguish whether it is love or lust. If it is lust, then there isn't a problem, if it is love, then yes, there is a problem, and yes, I would most probably leave my partner.

I am very happy with the one that I'm with and I know I'd sleep with other girls whilst I'm with her.
 

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Originally posted by bunsen burner
This is precisely where I differ. If I feel something for someone else, I can distinguish whether it is love or lust. If it is lust, then there isn't a problem, if it is love, then yes, there is a problem, and yes, I would most probably leave my partner.

I am very happy with the one that I'm with and I know I'd sleep with other girls whilst I'm with her.
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I think lust is a problem anyways and if I lust after someone else it means I'm not happy.

Trust me, I know myself pretty well. ;)
 
Originally posted by lioness22


I think lust is a problem anyways and if I lust after someone else it means I'm not happy.

Trust me, I know myself pretty well. ;)
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Do you think you will get married one day?
 
Have kissed someone else while with my first girlfriend. Felt like crap afterwards and have always regretted it. Would never have sex with another person while with someone else tho. If i was gonna do that, id break up with the girl first.
 

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Originally posted by lioness22
No because I'm with him and I know I won't want anyone else. :)
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Unfortunately, this is where the stupidity begins. I think you are a bit naive to think that you will definately want to be with the one person your whole life. I think you may have read too many fairy tales.

I'm never surprised at how many people think that they will be married for life - not to mention people who think they will be monogamous for life. The statistics just don't add up.

How about I put this to you:

When you were a little kid, what did you want be when you grew up? The chances are (as with most people) that as time went on, you changed your mind. Come to think of it, if you look back ten years ago, you will discover that you have changed a lot of things that at the time you never would have picked.

So what makes you so sure that you won't change over the years to come? What makes you sure that your partner won't change over time?
 
Originally posted by bunsen burner
Unfortunately, this is where the stupidity begins. I think you are a bit naive to think that you will definately want to be with the one person your whole life. I think you may have read too many fairy tales.

I'm never surprised at how many people think that they will be married for life - not to mention people who think they will be monogamous for life. The statistics just don't add up.

How about I put this to you:

When you were a little kid, what did you want be when you grew up? The chances are (as with most people) that as time went on, you changed your mind. Come to think of it, if you look back ten years ago, you will discover that you have changed a lot of things that at the time you never would have picked.

So what makes you so sure that you won't change over the years to come? What makes you sure that your partner won't change over time?
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Does that basically mean love doesn't exist? I wasn't aware one could love more than one person in that way in a lifetime. But I'm 18 so I know SFA. :)
 
I believe that if you have really met your soulmate, then you love that person so much that the thought of having sex with someone else doesn't even cross your mind, if you feel the need to have sex with someone else other than your partner, then obviously the person you are with is the wrong one for you.

p.s. BB, if you don't have a problem with you or your partner having sex with other people because it means nothing, then why are friends excluded if it is just sex as you say, if you are going to cheat I don't see the difference between a friend or a stranger. :confused:
 

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Originally posted by Squeak
Does that basically mean love doesn't exist? I wasn't aware one could love more than one person in that way in a lifetime. But I'm 18 so I know SFA. :)
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Does that basically mean love doesn't exist?
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Love definately exists.
I wasn't aware one could love more than one person in that way in a lifetime.
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People get divorced and remarried, right?
 
Originally posted by bunsen burner

How about I put this to you:

When you were a little kid, what did you want be when you grew up? The chances are (as with most people) that as time went on, you changed your mind. Come to think of it, if you look back ten years ago, you will discover that you have changed a lot of things that at the time you never would have picked.

So what makes you so sure that you won't change over the years to come? What makes you sure that your partner won't change over time?
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I always wanted to work in child care. :) Or be a designer but that was blown coz I suck at drawing things. lol

And guess what? I'm a child care worker. :)

Just because you don't agree doesn't make it wrong.
 
Originally posted by mantis
I believe that if you have really met your soulmate, then you love that person so much that the thought of having sex with someone else doesn't even cross your mind, if you feel the need to have sex with someone else other than your partner, then obviously the person you are with is the wrong one for you.

p.s. BB, if you don't have a problem with you or your partner having sex with other people because it means nothing, then why are friends excluded if it is just sex as you say, if you are going to cheat I don't see the difference between a friend or a stranger. :confused:
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I believe that if you have really met your soulmate, then you love that person so much that the thought of having sex with someone else doesn't even cross your mind, if you feel the need to have sex with someone else other than your partner, then obviously the person you are with is the wrong one for you.
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I know myself, and for me, that is just not true. That might be true for some people, but for me, it definately isn't.

p.s. BB, if you don't have a problem with you or your partner having sex with other people because it means nothing, then why are friends excluded if it is just sex as you say, if you are going to cheat I don't see the difference between a friend or a stranger. :confused:
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Do I really need to explain?

Same reason why the whole reason the Wayne Carey thing was such a problem. If he had cheated with someone outside the Kangaroos, he wouldn't have had to quit.

Apart from that, it makes no difference as to why. That is how I feel about it, just the same as how you feel about cheating. The way we both feel guides us to take the actions we take.
 
BB

The WHY is important, because you are judging people by saying they are insecure in their relationship if they can't accept their partner having sex with someone else, to me that reeks of double standards, if it is only sex as you say, then why does it matter who it is with? I would be equally upset if my partner had sex with a friend or stranger.
 

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