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YoungsterPA said:
Been going through a rough time over the last few years but 2015 and 2016 have been the worst so far, parents just got up one day and walked out and left me and said never contact them again, was cheated on by 2 gf and I finally thought things were looking up I met this amazing girl at work and had the best time with her before she went away to Canada for 5 months. I kept in contact with her everyday and counted down the days till she was back, she came back and said it wouldn't work between us on the first day, I've probably never cried and been that crushed before in my life.

It was about 11:30pm when I left her place after she said it was over and slowly walked home took me 3 hours for what was a 10 min walk, still so hurt today and have no friends or family to talk to :(


Just want something to go right for once
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that sounds awful. The only thing I can say is that life is constantly changing so better times could just be around the corner. Hang in there
 
YoungsterPA said:
Is probably agree with you but I've only been alive roughly 21 years and the last 10 I've been on and off with depression

Been waiting a long time for something better to come
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Have you spoken to anyone, professionally, about how you feel? It makes it hard if you feel you don't have anyone to talk to about your issues so I suggest going to a GP. It's making that first step that holds back a lot of people, but in reality don't be embarrassed or overly anxious about talking to a GP about it.

For them they have seen and heard a lot worse, and deal with mental health issues on a daily basis. At least you're not whipping out your old fella and showing them some manky rash :)
 

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Yeah I'm not from now on

I didn't want to move with her to Tasmania a few years ago because I just started studying at uni and I said I couldn't go and she's been pretty cold to me since then. Few years later she said I had to move with her to mount gambier and I said no as I just got my position upgraded at work so she stopped talking to me or just said rude things
 
Anyone ever been bed ridden with it? I mean confined to bed like with the flu. Does it work. Am tempted myself just to get a Dr certificate/just say I have malaria/dysentery/the plague or some s**t and just hit the pause button for a week. What excuse can be used that can realistically put you out of circulation a week or 3? Otherwise life is just relentless and there is no escaping.
 
I've been suffering from depression on and off for a few years now. The past few months I've been going through a marriage breakdown which has intensified over the 2 weeks. On Thursday I finally sought help, I don't know why I didn't do it sooner. The doctor i saw prescribed me Pristiq 50mg which I've been on for 5 days now. I haven't really seen much in the way of improvement which I'm told is normal for the first week or two, but my appetite has been zero, and sleep has almost been impossible (averaging approx. 3 hours a night for the past 2 weeks)

Looking forward to getting back to normal, not sure if my marriage can be salvaged or not, but I'm hopefully on the right track to getting back to full health.

I'm seeing my dr again on Thursday this week to discuss psychology referral options, I actually hope this happens.
 
All those 7 years at uni to end up with an engineering degree and the last 3 years working in dead end jobs. Stuck living on s**t wages when i should be truly settled as a borderline senior consultant. Apply for jobs, deal with contacts given to me from contacts to look for work, nothing positive. Don't know how to get into other careers that ultilise my degree. After moving to Darwin 6 months ago I am at a loss. Would be naive to think its not contributing to my depression.

Have a significant financial problem and the w***ers in Adelaide that run my current Darwin workplace want to hire more people and cut everyone's hours. No guarantee i will be working for them past Wednesday.
 
Having very similar problems to what you're going through Borry..not entirely similar, but it's work related..

Even when I find work in my field I really struggle to fit into the company culture and struggle with shyness, lack of confidence, always have, even though I'm always trying to help people, i have ended up settling for lower paid work..

Meanwhile everyone else I know is doing great in their careers and are doing amazingly well.

Not just that.

Havent had any friends for years and dating just feels impossible..

It feels like a nightmare..
 

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Mootsy said:
Having very similar problems to what you're going through Borry..not entirely similar, but it's work related..

Even when I find work in my field I really struggle to fit into the company culture and struggle with shyness, lack of confidence, always have, even though I'm always trying to help people, i have ended up settling for lower paid work..

Meanwhile everyone else I know is doing great in their careers and are doing amazingly well.

Not just that.

Havent had any friends for years and dating just feels impossible..

It feels like a nightmare..
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Could've written that myself. Not much you can do but do your job (preferably find one you enjoy and are contributing and fulfil it to the best of your ability) and don't worry what everyone else is doing.

Dating just try and find someone you like and share common interests. Otherwise don't bother go on Tinder/Any website and go from there. I agree you can be that stuffed getting through weeks/days/life at times you don't have the energy to try and impress someone.
 
Mootsy said:
Having very similar problems to what you're going through Borry..not entirely similar, but it's work related..

Not just that.

Havent had any friends for years and dating just feels impossible..

It feels like a nightmare..
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Have got quite a history of struggling to make friends and socialising, dating back to high school, which was the start of my run of on and off depression.

I have gotten to the point where I am just staying away from starting proper relationships until I can get a proper career settled.
 
Borry said:
Have got quite a history of struggling to make friends and socialising, dating back to high school, which was the start of my run of on and off depression.

I have gotten to the point where I am just staying away from starting proper relationships until I can get a proper career settled.
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There are many people around who are exactly like yourself. These are the people you should try and connect with, people who can understand how you feel. Even dating, you'll find many girls who may be really shy, introverted until they meet someone they feel comfortable with. If you do start a dating profile don't shy away (pardon the pun) from mentioning that you're pretty shy when first meeting people until you feel at ease. I know even the most socially awkward guys who have met great girls, secret is you just have to be yourself. No point pretending your some alpha tough guy if you're not.

Joining a sporting team is another great way of meeting people where there really is no pressure to be overtly social.
 
Borry said:
Really getting sick of the mandatory "What do you do for a living? " questions.
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* those questions! Seriously, next time you are driving or training it to work, have a look at the people around you. Chances are, 95% of them will be heads down, frowns on as if they are going to the gallows.
Your job does not define who you are. Concentrate on your relationships and build them before you build a career is my advice. Talk to people openly and honestly and you will find that many of them have the same (or even worse) struggles than you.
 
Well I've really hit a low point in my life. Was meant to be moving out of home and starting the new phase in my life living near uni, instead I'm more depressed and more socially alienated then I think I've ever been. Can't even go out and attempt to socialise because I've been unemployed since January and can't find work, so I sit at my place on my own all day, or go to uni and back to my place. Either or. Nothing else. I'm really starting to struggle, but don't know who to reach out to any more, all my past anchors of sanity; my friends and family are all down south, and I can't reach out to any of them. At least it doesn't feel like it. To top it off I've recently lost my girlfriend too, and all her friends were my friends up here. So yeah, that's swell.

Really struggling at the moment. Don't know what my avenues are, but there's a dark one looming above me.
 
Run n Spread said:
From who exactly? Women? You have a problem and need a different approach. Honestly don't know.

Others? Who gives a fu**?
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If someone held a gun to my head I honestly couldn't tell them what half my friends do for a living, because I don't care. They don't care. I don't ask. No one cares.

People just ask as an ice breaker/for conversations sake. they're just trying to make conversation. Try to relax and cut them some slack (not directed at you Run n Spread).
 
_MKMatty said:
Well I've really hit a low point in my life. Was meant to be moving out of home and starting the new phase in my life living near uni, instead I'm more depressed and more socially alienated then I think I've ever been. Can't even go out and attempt to socialise because I've been unemployed since January and can't find work, so I sit at my place on my own all day, or go to uni and back to my place. Either or. Nothing else. I'm really starting to struggle, but don't know who to reach out to any more, all my past anchors of sanity; my friends and family are all down south, and I can't reach out to any of them. At least it doesn't feel like it. To top it off I've recently lost my girlfriend too, and all her friends were my friends up here. So yeah, that's swell.

Really struggling at the moment. Don't know what my avenues are, but there's a dark one looming above me.
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I'm in a very similar spot. It doesn't help at the moment and I know it sounds cliche but I'm guessing there are lows you've reached earlier in life and made it out of. It doesn't make it easier, it's not a solution, but at the very least I find it helps knowing I've done it before and can do it again.

It's ****ed, but you've just got to keep going. Day-by-day, baby steps. And when you achieve something or do better at trying be proud of yourself.
 
Hayes4PM said:
I'm in a very similar spot. It doesn't help at the moment and I know it sounds cliche but I'm guessing there are lows you've reached earlier in life and made it out of. It doesn't make it easier, it's not a solution, but at the very least I find it helps knowing I've done it before and can do it again.

It's stuffed, but you've just got to keep going. Day-by-day, baby steps. And when you achieve something or do better at trying be proud of yourself.
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I'm nowhere near the levels of depression I felt when I was in my teen years, but I'm closer then I've been since I got myself out of that spot.

I take the encouragement though. Trying to push through and make myself happy. Don't want an extended period of feeling like I am now again.
 
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