Do you ever really 'move on'?

[I bleed Blue]

Word of advice: As much as you want to, do not kill him. Or her.

We already have one killer on the GD board.... we don't need another.

 

[woopedazz]

Took me 3 years to move on properly from one break-up. I saw her and she had ballooned into a whale... Moving on complete.

 

[placebo]

Word of advice: As much as you want to, do not kill him. Or her.

I disagree.

Slit both their throats, cut them into little pieces, put them in some warm broth and them eat their scorched flesh.

 

[Yabba]

I hope so -
6 year relationship only ended this week - We had 'broken up' or been 'on a break' for a couple of months, and we had seen other people, but we were still seeing each other - That has all changed now and it finally has come to a complete finish -

I clearly have been in denial for the past couple of months because it suddenly hurts real bad - Haven't been able to eat dinner this week at all whenever I am home, and have been staying at Uni until past 8 or 9pm each day because atleast there I don't think about her...

at home I do...

and it sucks -

It gets a lot easier, my ex of almost 7 years broke up with me just before Christmas, and I was a mess for a while, while you may not forget I have found that you can move on, I set myself goals for the year to focus my energies on. Which leads me to a question I want to put out there for GD's collective wisdom.

We were in a long distance relationship, and she ended it over the phone, haven't seen her since it happened. I have recently started going out with a new girl, but in someways am a bit damaged because I still feel like I am lacking a bit of closure on the old relationship. I have attempted to see the ex a couple of times but was shut down everytime.

My new GF wanting to help put it out that I should try see the ex to help get that closure, so I can move past it. Is it worth trying to see the ex tp get that closure or just ignore it? FWIW I don't want to ever get back with her, I am happier now than I have been in years.

I don't think there is any point in trying to see her, but the thoughts have just been on my mind.

 

[woopedazz]

If you have any lingering feelings at all going to see her is probably a bad idea. You'll only think of her more than you do now. If you don't have any feelings, then why go see her?

 

[GreatBradScott]

Just going to end in deeper heartbreak. Leaving it alone is your best course of action Yabba.

 

[vealesy]

Ive always thought the love experience is just like a drug experience. Nothing ever compares to that first high no matter how much you chase it.

I dont think theres anything meaningful to it. Its a chemical rush to your brain that loses its impact once youve had it.

Moving on becomes easier once you realise love is not an emotion. Its a verb.

 

[fairdinkum]

It gets a lot easier, my ex of almost 7 years broke up with me just before Christmas, and I was a mess for a while, while you may not forget I have found that you can move on, I set myself goals for the year to focus my energies on. Which leads me to a question I want to put out there for GD's collective wisdom.

We were in a long distance relationship, and she ended it over the phone, haven't seen her since it happened. I have recently started going out with a new girl, but in someways am a bit damaged because I still feel like I am lacking a bit of closure on the old relationship. I have attempted to see the ex a couple of times but was shut down everytime.

My new GF wanting to help put it out that I should try see the ex to help get that closure, so I can move past it. Is it worth trying to see the ex tp get that closure or just ignore it? FWIW I don't want to ever get back with her, I am happier now than I have been in years.

I don't think there is any point in trying to see her, but the thoughts have just been on my mind.

You sound like a Boyfriend Man.

 

[Glacier]

Yabba
In a word , no
Move on and let it be

 

[Glacier]

You sound like a Boyfriend Man.

Unbelievable, you start these threads and then act like a dick
Some chick must have done a complete number on you at some stage.
Your hatred if all things to do with marriage, women and kids shines through
Sad

 

[Yabba]

You sound like a Boyfriend Man.

Roff, not by reading your definition in your other thread. I noticed that you had nothing to add to my query though...

Why do I need to justify myself to you? It is possible to lead a balanced life while having your own interests, been able to see your friends and have a GF at the same time. You know what my life is pretty awesome at the moment, even before meeting the girl, maybe thats why I was able to find someone, because I am actually happy with everything else in my life.

To those that actually helped, I knew not seeing her was the right decision just needed the reinforcement.

 

[fairdinkum]

Roff, not by reading your definition in your other thread. I noticed that you had nothing to add to my query though...

Why do I need to justify myself to you? It is possible to lead a balanced life while having your own interests, been able to see your friends and have a GF at the same time. You know what my life is pretty awesome at the moment, even before meeting the girl, maybe thats why I was able to find someone, because I am actually happy with everything else in my life.

To those that actually helped, I knew not seeing her was the right decision just needed the reinforcement.

I'm glad to hear your life is awesome and hope that is the case.

Mind if I ask though how many girlfriends you have had since, say, 16, and how long the breaks have been in between each?

I'm genuinely curious.

Unbelievable, you start these threads and then act like a dick
Some chick must have done a complete number on you at some stage.
Your hatred if all things to do with marriage, women and kids shines through
Sad

Ease up, tiger.

 

[Yabba]

2 girls, 8 months apart.

 

[fairdinkum]

2 girls, 8 months apart.

So you've only been a single man for 8 months of your adult life?

I hope things work out for you with the new chick but if they don't, I strongly recommend you promise yourself at least one year on the single scene before diving into an LTR again.

The world looks different when you are no longer either chained down or longing for the days of the previous chain, my friend.

 

[Duffman95]

So you've only been a single man for 8 months of your adult life?

And what an eight months it was.. so many peppermint patty's.