Family & Relationships Guide to picking up

[PP34]

We’ve got a thread about failed pick up attempts and another one about getting a girl you’re keen on to become attracted to you, but we don’t have a thread with advice on doing better with females.

I’ll be honest, I’m pretty shit with women. Going to an all boys school definitely didn’t help me and while a lot of my mates were getting confident with girls in their mid teens at parties, I was the quiet kid at home.

Without turning it into pickup artist like advice, what good advice have you received or come up with over the years?

Women of GD, what attracts you to a man?

 

[The Unforgiven]

We’ve got a thread about failed pick up attempts and another one about getting a girl you’re keen on to become attracted to you, but we don’t have a thread with advice on doing better with females.

I’ll be honest, I’m pretty shit with women. Going to an all boys school definitely didn’t help me and while a lot of my mates were getting confident with girls in their mid teens at parties, I was the quiet kid at home.

Without turning it into pickup artist like advice, what good advice have you received or come up with over the years?

Women of GD, what attracts you to a man?

The best advice I can give is to read social cues. There's no instruction manual on how to do that. Don't focus on executing a certain action if you don't understand the importance of good timing.

When you talk to women, try to be confident without being arrogant. Be bold but not domineering. Don't be awkward.

I've always had the motto "Every no is one closer to a yes" and it hasn't let me down. There's plenty of fish in the sea. Try to not let rejection get you down.

 

[exe ex machina]

Someone should tag GG.exe , he's a whirlwind of wisdom.

 

[GreyCrow]

GG.exe check this thread out

 

[Howard Littlejohn]

In my many, many, years - I am decades past when "picking up" was an age appropriate thing to be doing and long since retired from even thinking of making any effort; the only advice I can give is "don't be me".

Don't look like me, don't dress like me, don't act like me, don't speak like me. Follow that advice and you might occasionally be a remote chance of a woman not despising you on first glance.

 

[exe ex machina]

what good advice have you received or come up with over the years?

GG.exe check this thread out

Thread title -- how to pick up.

1. Gotta be supremely confident. I don't mean normal confidence, but like SUPREMELY confident. No fear, you'll walk up to any "chick" and hit on her calmly and purposefully. Guys are SCARED SHITLESS of doing anything like that (also due to the PC environment we're in now). But "chicks" still respond to a "real man" with "supreme confidence". It's not being loud and peacocking. But in that Han Solo kind of way, calm, sure, you're more of a catch than her, but also something endearing/sweet/cute about your manner.

2. Gotta be well-dressed (if you're not a muscle-man), not an accountant geeky looking attire, but like SHARP. Not the boring office worker type outfit. But a sense of style, a few things a LITTLE different, an air of having an edge to you in your fashion/look that is sharp-dressed.

3. Gotta have impeccable hygiene.

4. Sense of humor is very important.

5. Don't be pushy or coming on strong. The point of #1 (supreme confidence) does not mean being sleazy and dirty. When "picking up" "chicks" the idea of sex has to be HER idea (in her head I mean). You merely present yourself, supreme in confidence, got some style, an edge, and a sense of humor, cute smile, and you've MADE YOUR CASE, now kind of back off, you've made the impression, and let that roll around in her mind the course of the evening, whether she wants to have sex with you --- it might take her 5 minutes to decide or 3 hours, but decide she will in her head.

 

[Xtreme]

Give them a bit of the ol wink wink nudge nudge say no more schtick!

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

^^do not do this

 

[GreyCrow]

5. Don't be pushy or coming on strong. The point of #1 (supreme confidence) does not mean being sleazy and dirty. When "picking up" "chicks" the idea of sex has to be HER idea (in her head I mean). You merely present yourself, supreme in confidence, got some style, an edge, and a sense of humor, cute smile, and you've MADE YOUR CASE, now kind of back off, you've made the impression, and let that roll around in her mind the course of the evening, whether she wants to have sex with you --- it might take her 5 minutes to decide or 3 hours, but decide she will in her head.

This should be number 1

I would add that the plan should be that she doesnt think you are trying to pick her up until that moment she agrees to dinner/coffee

 

[Xtreme]

^^do not do this

It works when you have a good repertoire and personality (may or may not include dad jokes) to back it up

 

[exe ex machina]

It works when you have a good repertoire and personality (may or may not include dad jokes) to back it up

She meant my post. Because she always does this to my "sex/girls/guys" advice/suggestions. It's her schtick to decry anything the Exe says. But deep down she knows I know that she knows what I say is true.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

She meant my post. Because she always does this to my "sex/girls/guys" advice/suggestions. It's her schtick to decry anything the Exe says. But deep down she knows I know that she knows what I say is true.

No I meant Xtreme's post. I actually agree with you that men should channel their inner Han Solo.

 

[exe ex machina]

No I meant Xtreme's post. I actually agree with you that men should channel their inner Han Solo.

Wow. Just wow. You agreed with me. I'm lost for words now. Except.....sorry

 

[exe ex machina]

This should be number 1

I would add that the plan should be that she doesnt think you are trying to pick her up until that moment she agrees to dinner/coffee

Very true. I mean, just treat women like human beings. Instead of putting up this invisible fence of objectifying them in your mind, because that pours out of a person, easily detectable. Supreme confidence is treating them like a person. Nor giving off this scent that you're not to their level or something. Just go up and win them over with natural charm -- where you're just talking to them as a person, having a laugh, talking about stuff, like there's nothing awkward. And don't check out their assets. That gives off the objectifying thing. BUT...somehow you still show you're a "sexual" man, not a friend-zone type of person. The idea is showing how YOU have innate sex appeal. So it's in their minds, not on your mind, or in your words/actions. They're just like, "wow this guy's so sexy (in his own way), I wonder what he'd be like in bed". During the course of an evening, or several get-togethers, she'll have countless men who have put their case forward or not, and that she's previously had in her mind. So you're just putting yourself there and it's really up to her to sort thru her priorities and choices. There's really nothing you can do like snap your fingers.

Unless you're just a male model greek god type body and face -- I've seen how women go nuts inside themselves, unable to contain themselves, or even overtly hit on the man or try to do the same that we do -- putting themselves "out there" for him to notice, hoping they notice/pick them by pretending to be confident and slightly aloof but positioning themselves in his line of sight.

 

[Smeg Head]

Bend at the knees.

 

[ash_1050]

Have a personality, be someone who is perfectly capable of succeeding in life without a partner. Nothing worse than a clingy co-dependant person who has no real ambition or desire other than to be in a relationship.

 

[Reynolds Number]

Someone on here said that Spotlight stores are a good location to pick up a few years back.

 

[exe ex machina]

Someone on here said that Spotlight stores are a good location to pick up a few years back.

That was a few years ago....the NOW place is Lincraft.

 

[HairyO]

Thread title -- how to pick up.

1. Gotta be supremely confident. I don't mean normal confidence, but like SUPREMELY confident. No fear, you'll walk up to any "chick" and hit on her calmly and purposefully. Guys are SCARED SHITLESS of doing anything like that (also due to the PC environment we're in now). But "chicks" still respond to a "real man" with "supreme confidence". It's not being loud and peacocking. But in that Han Solo kind of way, calm, sure, you're more of a catch than her, but also something endearing/sweet/cute about your manner.

2. Gotta be well-dressed (if you're not a muscle-man), not an accountant geeky looking attire, but like SHARP. Not the boring office worker type outfit. But a sense of style, a few things a LITTLE different, an air of having an edge to you in your fashion/look that is sharp-dressed.

3. Gotta have impeccable hygiene.

4. Sense of humor is very important.

5. Don't be pushy or coming on strong. The point of #1 (supreme confidence) does not mean being sleazy and dirty. When "picking up" "chicks" the idea of sex has to be HER idea (in her head I mean). You merely present yourself, supreme in confidence, got some style, an edge, and a sense of humor, cute smile, and you've MADE YOUR CASE, now kind of back off, you've made the impression, and let that roll around in her mind the course of the evening, whether she wants to have sex with you --- it might take her 5 minutes to decide or 3 hours, but decide she will in her head.

You forgot:

Be rich.

 

[exe ex machina]

You forgot:

Be rich.

That's more -- how to snag someone long-term.

But for short-term sex -- the simplistic ideals are: tall, handsome, big dick.

Otherwise, for the everyday gentleman: channel the inner Han Solo.

 

[perthblue]

Give them a bit of the ol wink wink nudge nudge say no more schtick!

waddle waddle

 

[perthblue]

anyway picking up a fair maiden from a local night-time establishment is simple: go to the gym every single day for 8 months only working on chest and biceps, buy a Ralph lauren button-up a size too small and unbutton the top 2 buttons, absolutely SOAK yourself in YvesSaintLaurent L'Homme, put on gold chain (or silver if it's Friday, be respectful), slam voddy red bulls with the boys all night long, grab some drunken floozy a half hour before the club closes and beg her for a taste of her sweet summertime lips, get rejected, cry, punch on with security staff, get kebab, punch on with people at taxi rank, get taxi, go home. Rinse AND REPEAT

 

[wal]

treat em mean, keep em keen.

 

[Gralin]

I just show them my bigfooty badges

 

[The Dice Man]

Learn guitar, sing.