Family & Relationships How should i feel...

[Rooz90]

Hey Guys,

I haven't posted a thread on here before, but i'd thought i'd start with a question that you folks might be able to help me out with.

Recently i found out my ex girlfriend (Who i was briefly engaged too) has just been knocked up, and is expecting a kid. We've been broken up for about a year or so now, but we last spoke earlier this year before i went on my trip to Europe. Last thing we spoke about was my trip and i was honest with her and said yeah i did get lucky overseas. While she was still apparently single, thus being angry at me for getting with someone else. Months have passed and were not on speaking terms but knowing less than a year from that she's already expecting, baffles me. (ps i don't know who the other bloke is)

Should i feel lucky that I've dodged a bullet in my life? By the way I'm 23.

Please share.

 

[The Passenger]

at first glance this seems like serious bullet dodged.

the first time you find out about an ex being with someone else, especially when it's a serious relationship, is always a tough feeling. there have been times when that is worse than the actual break up because the reality sets in that she really has moved on.

i've never experienced a situation where an ex has got knocked up so soon after breaking up. i can't imagine it would be much fun.

at 23 mate there is a long long time ahead of you, plenty of other's out there and good times ahead.

 

[Rooz90]

at first glance this seems like serious bullet dodged.

the first time you find out about an ex being with someone else, especially when it's a serious relationship, is always a tough feeling. there have been times when that is worse than the actual break up because the reality sets in that she really has moved on.

i've never experienced a situation where an ex has got knocked up so soon after breaking up. i can't imagine it would be much fun.

at 23 mate there is a long long time ahead of you, plenty of other's out there and good times ahead.

Yeah it was hard, finding out someone else had moved in on her so to speak, but at the same time makes me feel like its a wasted life on her part. Being so young and expecting a kid is serious, for all i know her relationship with this chap might not even last.

Well said with the good times ahead, just feel blessed that if i had of stayed with her i would of not been able to do half the things I'm doing now.

Cheers

 

[little graham]

About 2 month ago a neighbor got real friendly with me, pretty young red head from the bush. She quite open about what she wanted. I didn't go there, but the bloke who did got her pregnant.That is dodging a bullet. The reason I didn't go there was during the flirting that was leading up to a daylight encounter, she said she wanted 6 kids. She already had three under two, is younger than you.

Sounds like , from your OP, she carries a flame for you, possibly either your a soft touch or you do as well.

 

[Rooz90]

About 2 month ago a neighbor got real friendly with me, pretty young red head from the bush. She quite open about what she wanted. I didn't go there, but the bloke who did got her pregnant.That is dodging a bullet. The reason I didn't go there was during the flirting that was leading up to a daylight encounter, she said she wanted 6 kids. She already had three under two, is younger than you.

Sounds like , from your OP, she carries a flame for you, possibly either your a soft touch or you do as well.

She's just about my age 22. We were pretty serious for the time we spent together almost did the whole 9 yards, moving out, house hunting, talking about kids even ironically, so we weren't just playing around with "puppy love" certain things happened and well "trust issues" got in the way and we broke up.

I still care for the person, i wish her well, although at 22 having a kid, just makes me think did i just date a "****" etc.

Just really shocked to find out- mind you i found out via her mothers and brothers Facebook, after it piped up on my news feed.

 

[Colin D'Cops]

...so we weren't just playing around with "puppy love" certain things happened and well "trust issues" got in the way and we broke up.

This gives me an indication you were already aware (re: sl00t). Yet a thread made about it indicates a surprise or shock?

Can't leave us hanging there.

 

[little graham]

I still care for the person, i wish her well, although at 22 having a kid, just makes me think did i just date a "****" etc.

You were screwing in Europe weren't you, at her age? maybe she was the one dating a '****"? I'm only posting that in case your feeling gets in the way of you being a friend to someone who might need old friends back in thier life.

 

[Rooz90]

This gives me an indication you were already aware (re: sl00t). Yet a thread made about it indicates a surprise or shock?

Can't leave us hanging there.

Honestly I'm not shocked... i always thought id end up like this. I even mentioned it to her before we stopped talking i pretty much said word for word "If we don't end up sorting it out, you know you'll find some else right, and have kids without me" to which she replied- "If its not you, then its none"

That comment i laughed of, didn't bring it up again.

Not surprised just feel odd knowing i was right.

 

[Rooz90]

You were screwing in Europe weren't you, at her age? maybe she was the one dating a '****"? I'm only posting that in case your feeling gets in the way of you being a friend to someone who might need old friends back in thier life.

We were broken up for months on end when i was away, shed text me a couple of times leading up to the time i went away and again when i got back. So i was single when i left.

 

[Rooz90]

You were screwing in Europe weren't you, at her age? maybe she was the one dating a '****"? I'm only posting that in case your feeling gets in the way of you being a friend to someone who might need old friends back in thier life.

For all i know, she could of been doing some on the side too, i just didn't know/find out.

 

[little graham]

if you were friends as your posts suggest mate, go be one. Specially if the father is not around. But keep up your boundaries.

 

[Rooz90]

if you were friends as your posts suggest mate, go be one. Specially if the father is not around. But keep up your boundaries.

Thats just the thing, the talking dried up completely- where not on speaking terms nor on seeing terms. Nothing between us. It was that brief few weeks that we had the odd text. Then nothing.

I only found this piece of new days ago. Hense the mixed emotions i guess.

 

[checkraiseulite]

don't think about it, it's not your problem. live your own life.

 

[exe ex machina]

How is it a bullet dodged? A man can't be proud until he's impregnated dozens/hundreds of women. Added more little "you's" to the world. You missed the boat, not dodged a bullet.

 

[edgie]

If you still like her/would take her back PRIOR to learning the latest developments, feel dirty at yourself but also betrayed by her.

If not, feel relieved

 

[Catsmaninamerica]

I've said it before but here it is again for you. There are THREE BILLION women on this planet. Seriously. Go find another one and play cocinvag with her. That will help you forget that you had a relationship with someone else who has now been knocked up.

 

[Shupe]

There are THREE BILLION women on this planet.

Shit, I'm only a fraction of the way through. Time to pool our resources, I think.

 

[Rooz90]

No way i could ever go back, knowing all this now, nor could i go back even if i didn't know. Just so relieved its not me now with this massive responsibility at my age, when i could just continue to live my life.

Whether this works out for her for the better, that ill never know.

 

[pantskyle]

Sorry for knocking her up.

 

[Stratton_Gun]

How is it a bullet dodged? A man can't be proud until he's impregnated dozens/hundreds of women. Added more little "you's" to the world. You missed the boat, not dodged a bullet.

I hear child support can be a drainer though.....

 

[exe ex machina]

I hear child support can be a drainer though.....

The more you have the easier it is. If you have one or two, or with one woman, you get hammered up for more.

 

[phantom13]

How is it a bullet dodged? A man can't be proud until he's impregnated dozens/hundreds of women. Added more little "you's" to the world. You missed the boat, not dodged a bullet.

God damn i love reading your posts GG when i see your avatar i get genuinely excited.

 

[Rooz90]

I hear child support can be a drainer though.....

Hense the sense of relief... my hard earned bucks won't go to child support; nor will it go too;
-Baby clothes
-Medical
-Baby furniture
-Women's eating fund etc


Well for the time being that is.. i may have a kid at an older age.