Need some advice everyone...

[pazza]

I've just met a girl online about 3 weeks ago now and we have been emailing over that time. It appears we have a lot in common (musical tastes, enjoying a drink etc) and things I hope are going to go well from here on in.

Howewver, having never done this sort of thing before, I feel I need to ask how to handle the next step..the physical meeting up.

Sounds wishy-washy I know, but, I feel that it might be different to how I've gone about commencing relationships in the past.

Thoughts?

 

[Docker_Brat]

Run, Forrest, run!

If you ignore the first piece of advice, just meet her somewhere public where she cant get away with inserting an icepick in your jugular.

 

[pazza]

Originally posted by Docker_Brat
Run, Forrest, run!

If you ignore the first piece of advice, just meet her somewhere public where she cant get away with inserting an icepick in your jugular.

Hahahahahahaha

 

[Magpira]

Never say never!

If you want to meet up with her, just make sure it's somewhere public, with a few people around as Docker_brat said.

Have you seen each other yet? I mean as in pictures? Cause I have heard a few horror stories where people have met people off the net in that sense and have found out too late that the person doesn't look at all like they described lol!

I think you should go out and have a few drinks together firstly or perhaps grab a bite to eat, nothing too major. A bar would be the best place to have a first meeting me thinks.

 

[Maddog1980]

Having never met a chick on the net the first question i would ask would be:

Have u seen a pic of her at all yet?

then:

What do u look like?

Chances are yor both fat and ugly and youll get along fine. Eventually get married cause you both think that u will never b able to meet any1else again.

Go but dont tell her your real name incase she's a freak. She's probably gonaa do the same cause u might bt 2.

U can take her to a movie and use with our dole money u slack unemployed no hoper.

 

[pazza]

In answer to the questions, yes we have sent each other photos and not a bad word spoken so far.

Good idea about a bar etc. Was probably where I was thinking initially anyway.

I'll ignore the jibes.

 

[Nandoz]

Just hope to god she's your own age.

 

[Nic]

3 weeks? You're a quick mover, aren't ya.

Anyways, good luck.

 

[pazza]

Originally posted by Nandoz
Just hope to god she's your own age.

Fair point! Safe there.

Thanks Nic as well.

 

[Bomber Spirit]

Good luck Pazza.
I've met friends over the net - never gone out with anyone I've met over the net but it could work, it's just as legitimate a way of meeting as any other. And it's a good thing you're meeting up in person straight away so you'll know what she's like rather than getting too many ideas which may or may not be right.
Like D_B said, meeting up in a public place is a good idea. There are horror stories of people who seem nice on the net turning out to be homicidal axe-weilding maniacs, but they're the exception rather than the rule.
Hopefully she lives locally. Long distances can be a relationship-killer, especially someone overseas - then you'd have to jump through all sorts of bureaucratic red tape if she wanted to move here.

 

[Renegade]

good luck bro.

I'll agree with what everyone is saying about meeting in a public place. Have you spoken to her on the phone or anything? Might be another consideration before a physical meeting....hope it all goes well

 

[pazza]

Thanks BS.

Thankfully she is in Melbourne!!

 

[pazza]

Originally posted by Renegade
good luck bro.

I'll agree with what everyone is saying about meeting in a public place. Have you spoken to her on the phone or anything? Might be another consideration before a physical meeting....hope it all goes well

Working on it

 

[dees_best]

Good luck Pazza!!!

 

[Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk]

don't do it unless you've got time to waste

 

[demon_69]

Originally posted by dees_best
Sounds like another www.desperado.com.au case to me

Just don't leave it too long.If she was to meet some new guy in person, I'm sure she would pick him if sparks flew.

Your window of opportunity is growing smaller by the day.Soon you will have to pay for these types of girls

At 28 years old, you aren't exactly getting better looking.You are not exactly the ladies man you once were

Nah seriously, Good luck Pazza!!!

Pazza the ladies man, surely he could get any women he wants. But no, he settles for an internet women. Mate, aim high, go for Llyods' sister, she's not bad.

 

[EssJayW]

Did you not learn about Stranger Danger.

 

[beckybiglands]

3 weeks... sheesh...
but def the public place, beer always makes it easier to handle *giggles*
i've never met anyone off the net, i mean i've seen people from here, but like you know...
i'll be meeting one guy i've been chatting to forever in feb when he gets here from england... so let me know how yours goes and i'll figure how to meet this guy...

 

[lozstar]

good luck with it pazza!
hope it goes all good

 

[marcuz]

Meet at a nightclub pazza. Least if it doesnt work out you can drive a different girl home

 

[lioness]

I met my boyfriend from talking to him on the internet, we met a few weeks after we first talked, and yeah 15 months later we still talk. And we know pretty much all there is to know about each other. We're long distance at the moment which is a killer, but it's ok as long as you see each other as much as possible.

I think the more you worry about it, the worse it's actually going to be to meet because you'll have spent all this time stressing about it and probably not enjoy it, OR look for all her faults straight up. All I can say is, just meet as friends. No pressure. Then if things work out you can work on more, but off the net. If you both live in the same city it isn't hard to catch up regularly. But you DO have to be aware that sometimes people use the net to find someone to mess around with, while having a 'real' relationship, so if there's stuff that doesn't add up about her, like if she won't see you away from the net much..........BEWARE.

But I'm sure it'll be fine good luck with it.

 

[carn_the_nmfc]

One thing when it comes to relationships with ppl online, paz and that is, ask yourself do you really love her? If you do then go for it. If you don't then ignore her.

 

[Syd]

Originally posted by goaldrush
One thing when it comes to relationships with ppl online, paz and that is, ask yourself do you really love her? If you do then go for it. If you don't then ignore her.

Oh Good Grief Soozi!

They've been talking via emails for 3 whole weeks, never met face to face and you ask "do you really love her".

You really struggle with reality don't you ducky?

 

[Thewlis Dish]

Originally posted by goaldrush
One thing when it comes to relationships with ppl online, paz and that is, ask yourself do you really love her? If you do then go for it. If you don't then ignore her.

Surely meeting her in person would be one of the steps towards finding out if he really loves her? One thing when it comes to relationships online is you have no idea what you feel until you meet them, because people can be anyone online.

That said, good luck Paz!

 

[EssJayW]

Originally posted by goaldrush
One thing when it comes to relationships with ppl online, paz and that is, ask yourself do you really love her? If you do then go for it. If you don't then ignore her.

ffs