Health NSA and what being a FB/Booty Call means

[Sebastian Balboa]

No Strings Attached sex, **** Buddy, 'Booty Call'....whatever term you use, what's your experience?

Currently, I'm in one, and it has (also) blown my mind as to what's possible. While I would love to find someone for the long-term, a bit of action in between is the perfect tonic. My options are open for that special someone if they appear but in the meantime it's all systems go.

So my take on it is:
Both must be very clear about the arrangement.
There must be a sexual attraction for both of you to keep coming back for more.
If either of you can take it or leave it (the person and the arrangement) that helps.
If you can resist falling for them, it's a bonus.

Would be very interested in hearing what others have experienced.

* Those of you who've read what I've posted in other boards (Lifestyle) and who I've PM'd for advice, thank you, with your help I have turned the corner and life's great

 

[Caesar]

It always ends in tears for someone. Make sure it's not you.

 

[Poetic Justice]

Honestly never had a good ending to one of these stories.

Always starts well. Always.

 

[Tex_21]

Any women on BF* feel free to contact me. My services are on the table








*sif there are women on the internet.

 

[Hue_Jars]

Never ends well. I was in one with a chic who had a FIFO boyfriend. They went out for ten years. Then they broke up, all hell broke loose and I ended up getting no more sex. FML.

 

[IAMJUNGLEMUFFIN]

My housemate and I started falling for each other which led to shagging, sleeping together even when not shagging, etc.

Was all going well, then at some point I said I had to get out, because it was starting to get a little full on for me (and needed to not be living together to take it further), and for various reasons this flicked that woman switch which makes them put up the instant emotional brick wall.

She then asks me to stay until the lease finishes, and being the decent bloke I am, I stuck it out and looked after her. Only problem with that is, I was still into her. She then starts bringing around the **** buddy/ next guy she's interested in and wasn't overly tactful about it, which ****ing sucked.

Interesting experience. Major thing I learned from it was to make hay while the sun shines and then get the **** out when it turns stormy.

In the end, when/if things turn bad, this broad is going to be looking after #1, which can often mean you're copping the short end, so the best course of action from that point is to look after yourself first and foremost. Sure, if you can make it easy on her also, why not.

But yeah, go for your life, make the most of what can be a wicked situation, just be careful not to burn her or yourself unnecessarily.

 

[A Swallow]

Interesting and enduring concept.

It always seems a good idea in theory, but people change slowly when number of intimate occurrences start to add up.

From my experience, I can recall only one girl (out of maybe 8 or 9) that I've had this sort of arrangement with that it ended well with. With this one, it was because she was moving away from the area for Uni at almost the perfect time, as it did seem that she was getting as attached as all the rest of them prior to this. We are still friendly when we see each other, though she has had a boyfriend for a while now.
I literally have at least 8 others, who I could go through one by one and detail the varying levels of craziness these girls produced upon realising nothing serious was ever going to result from our arrangement. One had already told all her friends and family that we were in a committed relationship, and THREE MONTHS after the last time I saw her, her sister messaged me drunk asking if I had broken up with her yet. That is far from the craziest stories I've got.

All in all I wouldn't recommend it, as from what I've experienced one party always becomes more emotionally invested in the situation. Always the girl in my cases.

 

[BulletDrop]

It always ends in tears for someone. Make sure it's not you.

Exactly right.

Booty calls are just glorified wanks.

Sex is clearly a very intimate act. Emotional involvement is pretty much a given after a while.

 

[BulletDrop]

Interesting and enduring concept.

It always seems a good idea in theory, but people change slowly when number of intimate occurrences start to add up.

From my experience, I can recall only one girl (out of maybe 8 or 9) that I've had this sort of arrangement with that it ended well with. With this one, it was because she was moving away from the area for Uni at almost the perfect time, as it did seem that she was getting as attached as all the rest of them prior to this. We are still friendly when we see each other, though she has had a boyfriend for a while now.
I literally have at least 8 others, who I could go through one by one and detail the varying levels of craziness these girls produced upon realising nothing serious was ever going to result from our arrangement. One had already told all her friends and family that we were in a committed relationship, and THREE MONTHS after the last time I saw her, her sister messaged me drunk asking if I had broken up with her yet. That is far from the craziest stories I've got.

All in all I wouldn't recommend it, as from what I've experienced one party always becomes more emotionally invested in the situation. Always the girl in my cases.

Love how you need to add the out of 8 or 9 comment.

What a hero!!!

 

[Sebastian Balboa]

Exactly right.

Booty calls are just glorified wanks.

Sex is clearly a very intimate act. Emotional involvement is pretty much a given after a while.

If having a hot woman at the end of my wang is a glorified wank then I'll go for the glorified wank every time!

We're both pretty switched on in regards to what we're doing and are mature enough to keep it in check. I can take it or leave it, and she feels the same but for now, this is what we're doing. It's been a few weeks already.

 

[A Swallow]

Love how you need to add the out of 8 or 9 comment.

What a hero!!!

If I'd just said about the one girl who it has ended well with, it could well have been taken as one girl out of one. Or one out of two. I was trying to prove that it never ends well, so I had to put the sample size in to show the small percentage that, by mitigating circumstances, did actually end okay. I wasn't bragging, those are just the girls I've had a sort of f*ck buddy arrangement with.

 

[policegetthatman]

What kind of girls are we talking about here? 5/10's?

 

[Ed_Gein]

i had one that was a solid 7. and it didn't end well....

 

[A Swallow]

I have fairly high standards, but it's not as if anyone on BF will believe me anyway...







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[Impunity!]

Any women on BF* feel free to contact me. My services are on the table








*sif there are women on the internet.

Tex, I have PMed Sooz your email address, she will be in touch shortly.

You're near the 'Rat, right?






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[Tex_21]

Cheers Reep. I will be visiting the Rat this weekend, and I hope Sooz can help me get a load away.

 

[Sebastian Balboa]

I have fairly high standards, but it's not as if anyone on BF will believe me anyway...

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This one would be an 8, not taking into account her mind, very sharp lady, adds much to her overall character.

 

[A Swallow]

This one would be an 8, not taking into account her mind, very sharp lady, adds much to her overall character.

Yes, intelligence definitely raises the rating. Though usually the girls I sleep with are of a decent standard, but are lacking in personality, intelligence or some other area that deters me from wanting anything more than the physical arrangement. So, if this girl is an 8, and quite intelligent, is there another reason you don't want anything other than a FB relationship with her?

 

[Sebastian Balboa]

Yes, intelligence definitely raises the rating. Though usually the girls I sleep with are of a decent standard, but are lacking in personality, intelligence or some other area that deters me from wanting anything more than the physical arrangement. So, if this girl is an 8, and quite intelligent, is there another reason you don't want anything other than a FB relationship with her?

Good question.
I guess we're at the same point in our lives where we haven't found that someone who we consider long-term r'ship material, or even want that right now. What we have found is someone who we're both compatible with and who is keen to just get it on.

 

[A Swallow]

Good question.
I guess we're at the same point in our lives where we haven't found that someone who we consider long-term r'ship material, or even want that right now. What we have found is someone who we're both compatible with and who is keen to just get it on.

Seems great then. You'll have to resurrect this thread if it goes pear-shaped and explain why/how. Hopefully it stays simple and satisfying though.

 

[Vecto]

In a situation like this at the moment and all is going well. Slept together a fair bit now so not sure how serious she thinks it is. Very risky imho

 

[A Swallow]

Gotta risk it for the biscuit.

 

[Sebastian Balboa]

In a situation like this at the moment and all is going well. Slept together a fair bit now so not sure how serious she thinks it is. Very risky imho

It depends on your situation, but it can be risky spelling everything out, i.e. "This is just NSA sex, Ok." "I'm/Your a booty call, right." etc. Could be a deal breaker.

Sometimes in life, some sort of 'mystique' with the opposite sex can take you a long way.

 

[wce4premiership]

Can work out well if you both see it going south and bail.

Never agree to it if you secretly like them, let them know you like them. I have never had a problem with any FB's because I have never done it with someone I was interested in, therefore making it easy to break it off.

Also, only see each other for sex, no 'hanging out' prior or after.
Can be done

 

[Sebastian Balboa]

Had a post-coital conversation last night about things. The up-shot of that talk was that we're both available to each other, happy to continue sleeping together and the present situation shall remain.

She still has her dating profile up, and getting requests from dudes, she's actually going to meet one on Thursday for a coffee. Doesn't faze me. She had a movie date with another fella two weeks ago. Again, this doesn't bother me, because I'm the one she's sleeping with.

Like I said before, even if she doesn't want to continue, or she might click with another fella, I'm Ok with it. I have my confidence back, totally at ease with who I am, etc, and another babe is just around the corner