Parent passing away

[cleveland]

Hi all

Just need some advice.

My father passed away at Xmas and I had 2 weeks off before he did and already had 2 weeks annual booked after he passed. Im now into my 3rd week back at work but I'm really starting to struggle mentally.

Do you think it's fair to ask for another 2-3 weeks off to clear my head as I'm starting to get quite stressed.

Cheers

 

[GreyWind]

Hi all

Just need some advice.

My father passed away at Xmas and I had 2 weeks off before he did and already had 2 weeks annual booked after he passed. Im now into my 3rd week back at work but I'm really starting to struggle mentally.

Do you think it's fair to ask for another 2-3 weeks off to clear my head as I'm starting to get quite stressed.

Cheers

I do. But try and use that time to talk to someone about your stress and mental health. See if your work provides any psychologists for employees, that sort of thing. It's important to grieve but you also have to look after yourself.

It's going to be hard, but it will get better.

 

[Cruyff14]

They won't deny you the leave.

It might be unpaid if you don't have any, but they won't deny it.

 

[CheapCharlie]

You could ask do to go back 3 days a week for 2-3 weeks to ease back into it

 

[FrankGrimes]

Hi all

Just need some advice.

My father passed away at Xmas and I had 2 weeks off before he did and already had 2 weeks annual booked after he passed. Im now into my 3rd week back at work but I'm really starting to struggle mentally.

Do you think it's fair to ask for another 2-3 weeks off to clear my head as I'm starting to get quite stressed.

Cheers

What will you do to clear your head? dont sit at home and watch TV all day...
When my mum passed away i went back to work after 2 weeks, just to get life back in routine etc..
they wont deny you leave but maybe ask for 4 days?

 

[Power Raid]

Hi all

Just need some advice.

My father passed away at Xmas and I had 2 weeks off before he did and already had 2 weeks annual booked after he passed. Im now into my 3rd week back at work but I'm really starting to struggle mentally.

Do you think it's fair to ask for another 2-3 weeks off to clear my head as I'm starting to get quite stressed.

Cheers

absolutely

call you boss and request a face to face meeting. Have prepared notes as you may loose your thoughts in the moment.

every decent boss will help find a solution that works for both.

good luck.

 

[Power Raid]

You could ask do to go back 3 days a week for 2-3 weeks to ease back into it

Hi all

Just need some advice.

My father passed away at Xmas and I had 2 weeks off before he did and already had 2 weeks annual booked after he passed. Im now into my 3rd week back at work but I'm really starting to struggle mentally.

Do you think it's fair to ask for another 2-3 weeks off to clear my head as I'm starting to get quite stressed.

Cheers

As cheapcharlie suggested, before you go in, know exactly what you want and why it will help.

5 hour days 5-days a week could be good to get you back into routine.

2-3 days a week might give you more days off but also more time to think which isn't always a good thing.


make sure you also explain to your boss what you plan to do to get into the right head space.......exercise, time with family, speaking to a professional etc etc but can I suggest don't just do nothing.

 

[perthblue]

Seek professional help if you're struggling

 

[cleveland]

Spoke to work and they gave me next 2 weeks off and told me to come back when I'm ready so if I wanted to take some long service after the 2 weeks I could.

Thanks all for your feedback

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

Spoke to work and they gave me next 2 weeks off and told me to come back when I'm ready so I I wanted to take some long service after the 2 weeks I could.

Thanks all for your feedback

I’m sorry for your loss

 

[Run n Spread]

Condolences. You have to do what is right for you. Pressures and work will always be there. You just do what you got to do.

 

[Fossie 32]

Sorry for your loss. Take care

 

[raskolnikov]

I'm surprised Gralin hasn't told you to get over it yet, or that grief is the purview of women only.

 

[MWPP]

Hi all

Just need some advice.

My father passed away at Xmas and I had 2 weeks off before he did and already had 2 weeks annual booked after he passed. Im now into my 3rd week back at work but I'm really starting to struggle mentally.

Do you think it's fair to ask for another 2-3 weeks off to clear my head as I'm starting to get quite stressed.

Cheers

I'm sorry for your loss
I think it's definitely fair to ask for more time off- and no reasonable work place could or would try to deny it
I second the suggestion above to ease back into it when you feel it's the right time
But I'm confident that you'll do what's best for you
Take care x