Society/Culture Poor Parenting

[campbell]

http://www.theage.com.au/national/education/poor-parenting-alarms-schools-20091111-i9yi.html

''Is 'I just want my child to be happy' code for 'I don't want to do anything that might offend my children?' '' he asked.

excellent point. A lot of parents want to be their kids friend, not be responsible for the hard decisions as a parent you have to make. IMO this is causing a lot of next generational problems,this parenting style. Does anyone agree.
Kids need structure and boundaries, and learn right from wrong, cause and affect of their actions.

 

[DeanoT]

http://www.theage.com.au/national/education/poor-parenting-alarms-schools-20091111-i9yi.html

''Is 'I just want my child to be happy' code for 'I don't want to do anything that might offend my children?' '' he asked.

excellent point. A lot of parents want to be their kids friend, not be responsible for the hard decisions as a parent you have to make. IMO this is causing a lot of next generational problems,this parenting style. Does anyone agree.
Kids need structure and boundaries, and learn right from wrong, cause and affect of their actions.

I see no logical reason why a parent can't do both.

 

[skipper kelly]

It depends on the age of your children.

 

[Glasgow Celtic]

http://www.theage.com.au/national/education/poor-parenting-alarms-schools-20091111-i9yi.html

''Is 'I just want my child to be happy' code for 'I don't want to do anything that might offend my children?' '' he asked.

excellent point. A lot of parents want to be their kids friend, not be responsible for the hard decisions as a parent you have to make. IMO this is causing a lot of next generational problems,this parenting style. Does anyone agree.
Kids need structure and boundaries, and learn right from wrong, cause and affect of their actions.

yes they do..kids need the parenting role models. Unfotunately bad parentng is more common these days..no wonder the kids grow up angry with society and go down the road of crime

 

[Andre]

I see no logical reason why a parent can't do both.

I think every parent wants their kids to see them as friends as well. Which is fine, but it should be parents first, friends second if there's any conflict between being one or the other.

 

[Jumpin' Jimmy]

It depends on the age of your children

.... and the parents.

 

[The Grand Admiral]

Lets just say if you prefer to make your child sit in the "naughty corner" instead of giving them a swift belting*, then don't whinge to me when you son tells you he prefers men.

* within reason.

 

[darcytiger]

"My diagnosis... BAD BABYSITTING!"

 

[SS_Fury]

Lets just say if you prefer to make your child sit in the "naughty corner" instead of giving them a swift belting*, then don't whinge to me when you son tells you he prefers men.

* within reason.

yes because that will surely make them gay

 

[Dont be a lemon]

"My diagnosis... BAD BABYSITTING!"

Thanks Dr.

 

[JimDocker]

Lets just say if you prefer to make your child sit in the "naughty corner" instead of giving them a swift belting*, then don't whinge to me when you son tells you he prefers men.

* within reason.

My 2 year old gets sent to the naughty corner. He is told to sit down and calm down whenever he starts getting out of control. He is noticeably calmer after this happens.

Before you start saying I am yet to see the result of this sort of parenting, my 18 year old daughter is studying anthropology and linguistics on a scholarship at the University of Kansas. The naughty corner was the preferred choice of discipline for her too. My 14 year old son, same methods is a straight A student (with a girlfriend).

But if you want to breed just so you have somebody smaller than you to smack when you get angry......

 

[mantis]

My 2 year old gets sent to the naughty corner. He is told to sit down and calm down whenever he starts getting out of control. He is noticeably calmer after this happens.

Before you start saying I am yet to see the result of this sort of parenting, my 18 year old daughter is studying anthropology and linguistics on a scholarship at the University of Kansas. The naughty corner was the preferred choice of discipline for her too. My 14 year old son, same methods is a straight A student (with a girlfriend).

But if you want to breed just so you have somebody smaller than you to smack when you get angry......

Excellent post & a big for you, raising wonderful intelligent children, without the need to resort to violence.

 

[The Grand Admiral]

My 2 year old gets sent to the naughty corner. He is told to sit down and calm down whenever he starts getting out of control. He is noticeably calmer after this happens.

Before you start saying I am yet to see the result of this sort of parenting, my 18 year old daughter is studying anthropology and linguistics on a scholarship at the University of Kansas. The naughty corner was the preferred choice of discipline for her too. My 14 year old son, same methods is a straight A student (with a girlfriend).

But if you want to breed just so you have somebody smaller than you to smack when you get angry......

Well good for your children, you should be proud.

I was belted as a youngster when I stepped out of line, which was quite often mind you. I think it worked for me because I always had the potential to be a straight A student, but trouble always seemed to follow me around. I'm now a senior software engineer at age 26.

FWIW I disagree with your methods, but my comments were a bit tongue in cheek

 

[Dean3]

my 18 year old daughter is studying anthropology and linguistics on a scholarship at the University of Kansas.

So she's studying strange family customs and language, and couldn't wait to get away from you?

 

[Chief]

Lets just say if you prefer to make your child sit in the "naughty corner" instead of giving them a swift belting*, then don't whinge to me when you son tells you he prefers men.

* within reason.

Less of the trolling please.

 

[WCEforeverman]

I think if you are a good parent, then you will become a good friend once your children grow up. At least that is my experience with both my parents.

I still turn to them for advice, and respect their opinion on most matters.

 

[Chief]

The difference is that a friend can't make you do something you don't want to do. They are a peer in some way. Once they start trying to control you on small matters they stop being a friend.

A parent needs to have some level of distance so they can make better judgements and sometimes, yes, force the child to do something they don't want to do.

None of my son's friends can or should hold back privileges (like dessert) if he doesn't eat his vegies at dinner. It isn't their place. I can and should.

 

[WCEforeverman]

I more meant as adults.

 

[skipper kelly]

None of my son's friends can or should hold back privileges (like dessert) if he doesn't eat his vegies at dinner. It isn't their place.

I believe you would have some serious issues happening if they did. Your son is less than 10, isnt he? How old are the friends and are they in a position to decide what your son eats?