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Originally posted by dees*gal
dont go there!! :( ;)
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Originally posted by Catgirl
At 23 you should be well on... laying down roots.
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I think that is what Rohan is eluding to.

What do I think? I don't see much difference to being married at 23 and to being in a long term relationship at 23, except that's it easier to break up. A house is fine as long as you can afford it. Negative gearing and renting houses at that age is fine, it's a great investment.

I'm in an almost sx month relationship and I'm almost 18. I'd be lying if I said that I didn't want to be with my girlfriend when I'm 23, although I don't want to be married at that stage. I'm looking to travel in 2006 to Europe as I want to go to the World Cup and I want to be able to travel while still young and not tied down with a career. However, I see myself travelling with my girlfriend, not as a single who tries to get laid in every city.

It all depends on what you want. I'm extremely happy now. I'd imagine I'd be extremely happy in three-four years time when I want to travel, and if I'm still with her when I'm 23, I'd be happy. If I weren't happy, why would I still be with her?

The Hitman
 
Originally posted by The Hitman
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I see myself travelling with my girlfriend, not as a single who tries to get laid in every city.

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Originally posted by you_idiot
As for what you say about wanting to see the world and discover one's self at 23, that's really something one traditionally does at 18, not 23.
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Discovering the world generally is at 18 or around 22/23. Most people I know (and myself included) had the choice of seeing the world when they finished school (at 18) and that's why you get a lot of people who defer their studies.

Alternatively at 22/23 when you've finished your studies you embark on travel before getting stuck in your chosen career.
 

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Originally posted by Rohan_
Discovering the world generally is at 18 or around 22/23. Most people I know (and myself included) had the choice of seeing the world when they finished school (at 18) and that's why you get a lot of people who defer their studies.

Alternatively at 22/23 when you've finished your studies you embark on travel before getting stuck in your chosen career.
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However not everyone wants to travel the world. People may want a settled life.

The word 'stuck' is harsh as well.
 
Originally posted by The Hitman
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I think that is what Rohan is eluding to.

What do I think? I don't see much difference to being married at 23 and to being in a long term relationship at 23, except that's it easier to break up. A house is fine as long as you can afford it. Negative gearing and renting houses at that age is fine, it's a great investment.

I'm in an almost sx month relationship and I'm almost 18. I'd be lying if I said that I didn't want to be with my girlfriend when I'm 23, although I don't want to be married at that stage. I'm looking to travel in 2006 to Europe as I want to go to the World Cup and I want to be able to travel while still young and not tied down with a career. However, I see myself travelling with my girlfriend, not as a single who tries to get laid in every city.

It all depends on what you want. I'm extremely happy now. I'd imagine I'd be extremely happy in three-four years time when I want to travel, and if I'm still with her when I'm 23, I'd be happy. If I weren't happy, why would I still be with her?

The Hitman
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i seem to be in a similar situation... im 16 and ive been with my boyfriend from almost 8 months, and he's 19 (almost 20). to be honest with you, i cant see myself NOT being with him. he has such a huge impact on my life and i love being with him. so yes, i agree, id still want to be with him down the track. at the same time, we're young and theres NO WAY id look at settling down ANYTIME soon. i guess thats coz im only 16 tho...

at 23, if im still with the same guy (which i would love to be), then thats different coz it will have been like... 7-8 yrs... but until then, nothing!
 
Originally posted by lioness22
Well I'm 25 and I know that I am a while off being ready to tie myself down with a mortgage or whatever, however I have a friend who is a few years younger than me who has a house and mortgage and all, married, has a baby, and it's working out for her. Maybe she's more mature than I am lol I don't know.

I think it varies from person to person but I know I'm not ready to settle down yet. With a partner yes maybe but not to be fully tied down.
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I am 25 at the moment and I am about to shift into a unit in Mt Clear.

I am single and I am going to stay single. That's my choice. BTW, it doesn't mean that I'm gay cause i'm not.
 
Originally posted by Rohan_
Discovering the world generally is at 18 or around 22/23. Most people I know (and myself included) had the choice of seeing the world when they finished school (at 18) and that's why you get a lot of people who defer their studies.

Alternatively at 22/23 when you've finished your studies you embark on travel before getting stuck in your chosen career.
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Also, by the age of 23, there are those who are embarking or establishing themselves in their careers. And that allows them to put off the prospect of finding their soulmates and marrying them. So for many, there isn't that option to defer studies... depending on what they see themselves doing long-term, per their careers.

I'll also side with Hoggy on your use of the word "stuck". That's a bit harsh-- it's a matter of personal choice, on the career that one chooses for themselves. And besides, when you're in your 20's, one tends to have a bit more flexibility in your career path.

But that's what college and university is for-- for trying to decide what you want to do for the rest of your life, so that's best done from the age of 18 to 23.

But as I said before, life has no blueprint or master plan, so one has to do what feels right or best for them. Take those words for what they're worth. :)

Cheers,
William
 
Originally posted by suzi_olsen
I know that I'm not gay. I get on well with everyone. I just don't want to have a partner. I want to stay single.
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how does wanting to stay single have anything to do with being gay? gay people may want to be single also...
 
Originally posted by Hoggy
However not everyone wants to travel the world. People may want a settled life.

The word 'stuck' is harsh as well.
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What's that movie that has Reece Witherspoon and Tobey McGuire and it's in black and white and then becomes color?
 

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Originally posted by Rohan_
What's that movie that has Reece Witherspoon and Tobey McGuire and it's in black and white and then becomes color?
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"Pleasantville", I believe, Rohan.

However, when I refer to the idyllic and adjusted life that Jen and I live, and one which we are happy with, that movie doesn't pop into my mind at all... that's just pure cornball stuff, even beyond us. :eek:

Cheers,
William
 
Originally posted by Rohan_
What's that movie that has Reece Witherspoon and Tobey McGuire and it's in black and white and then becomes color?
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Touche!

I'm just saying Roh, that some people like being like that, if it's their choice, they are not necessarily STUCK.
 
Originally posted by Rohan_
Sums up my attitude on "stuck" down to a tee.
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And there's nothing wrong with that, if that makes you happy. Although the image, as I said, is a bit over-the-top and melodramatic.

Besides, "stuck" isn't such a bad thing, if you feel comfortable with it, right? :)

Cheers,
William
 
Originally posted by Hoggy
I'm just saying Roh, that some people like being like that, if it's their choice, they are not necessarily STUCK.
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Bingo! My point exactly...

Whatever makes you happy, that's all we're saying. :)

Cheers,
William
 

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Originally posted by suzi_olsen
I'm not gay and that's final. I'm straight.
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CHILL!! im not saying you're gay, at all!!

but the way you say it sounds like gay people cant want to be single... thats totally wrong!
 
diff'rent strokes, and all that.

I'm 25 and still living at home. I don't really see the benefit in moving out just yet. I get along fine with my folks (on the assumption that they mostly leave me alone) and so on. I'm working fulltime and saving to maybe get an investment property soon, and then perhaps a place of my own in a year or two. I'm in a relationship which has lasted 4.5 years so far. 4 of those years was long-distance, and now she's living here with us (got a job just 2 mins walk from my house, and it takes me 1.5 hours to get to north sydney!!!! bah!!! :D) My vague plan is to move out at 26/27, get married at 28/29, maybe start having kids around 30/31. Will that happen? Who knows?! Play each ball on its merits, I think.

I have mates who are married, have kids, and I have other friends who are single and haven't given a thought to "settling down". I think nowadays there is no "right answer" as to timing your life.
 
Originally posted by Hoggy
Sounds like she is in denial if you ask me.
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lol. she's the only one that knows it... it doesnt matter what we say, she's the only one that can make up her mind. her convincing us will do nothing for her sexuality!
 
I spose it's not what age you are, just if you meet the right person you might realise that settling down is what you want to do! Depends on the person though. I hope if I have the right job and been travelling already then I wouldn't mind settling down at all at 23. Sounds good to me! ;)

Btw, Suzi, you are making no sense.
 

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