Who should pay on dates?

[i_luv_westcoast]

I recently have been going out with a new girl. We have been to the movies twice and I have paid on both occasions. She hasn't even offered to pay for herself, and to me this is rude. Every other girl I have dated has always offered to pay, and we usually have an arrangement where I pay one week and they pay the next.

Am I expecting to much here or what? Should I be expected to pay for everything? I feel this girl is taking advanatge of me, and to be honest if she doesn't start paying at least part of her way I think I will stop seeing her.

 

[jefffff34]

I like to be asked by the other half if she can pay but I will always insist that I pay.

 

[Rocco Jones]

Originally posted by i_luv_westcoast
I recently have been going out with a new girl.

It's good to see more lesbians on this board, girls dating girls is groovy.

 

[i_luv_westcoast]

Funny stuff. I was after serious responses here.

 

[jefffff34]

Originally posted by i_luv_westcoast
Funny stuff. I was after serious responses here.

Mine was

 

[i_luv_westcoast]

Originally posted by Hoggy


Mine was

I didn't mean you Hoggy sorry, Rocco Jones was being an idiot.

 

[Rocco Jones]

Originally posted by i_luv_westcoast
Funny stuff. I was after serious responses here.

Love I was just saying it's OK by me if you are a lesbian, I'm not one to judge people on those issues.

Anywho I think the guy and the girl should pay their own share. I mean if they want equal rights it's only fair. If they don't like it they can stay home to cook and clean.

 

[sussudio]

as a guy, I usually pay for the first date, but I'm not so sure on subsequent dates. it would be nice if the girl offered to pay or to go dutch, then it gives the guy an option to either accept or offer to pay. consideration is a two way street I think, however this is often difficult to point out to somebody.

 

[Uncle Steve]

Originally posted by i_luv_westcoast
I feel this girl is taking advanatge of me,

So long as you get to take advantage of her, so to speak, there is no problem.

 

[thommo16]

I usually pay for myself. But if he offers to pay for the movies, then I would buy the food and drinks etc, to try and make it even

 

[CowboyFromHell]

I always offer to pay for everything. It's nice when the other girl offers, but I feel I should pay. Spose it's the nice thing to do.

If I am out with a girl, I will buy her a drink or two but she will pay for most of them. Frankly, I'm not made of money, but I am more than happy to pay for my the girl.

 

[Stocka]

If I am out with a girl and have taken the decision upon where we are going out to, or eating at, I always offer to pay.

If you are deciding upon the place yourself, then I think it's polite to offer to pay, as if the other partner hasn't been to the place beforehand, they may not be aware of the pricing, etc. Likewise, I don't mind paying for small things like coffees, or drinks, when you're out somewhere with a chick.

I have found, that usually, after offering to pay, most chicks then return the offer by saying they'll pay their own share, or that they'll shout you the next time.

If the girl offers to pay, then it's up to you as to whether to insist on paying, or to let her pay or not.

I've had mixed reactions, in regards to whether I have "insisted" on paying or not. Some chicks offer to pay out of politeness, but are happy for you to insist. However, I have also found some girls to be intent on paying their own share, and being somewhat put-out by being insisted upon that they let you pay. At that point, it's a matter of diplomacy.

As to whether or not the other partner should offer to pay (even after being offered to be 'payed for'), I think that there is certainly an obligation.

Unless you are in a long-term relationship, neither person should be expected to foot the bill every time, without even an offer from the other partner to pay on at least some occasions (even in a long-term relationship, this may still be unacceptable to some).

 

[Macca19]

The way i see it is that most girls often say 'oh dont worry...ill pay for my own ticket' but then if you say "oh ok, go ahead, pay for own ticket" then they get a bit snotty like they are thinking "oh ill offer to pay my own way but im sure hes gonna say no dont worry about it".

Usually guys between 16-20 arent made of money and cannot afford to pay for two people every single time they go out somewhere. I think its perfectly fine if the girl pays for her own ticket. I'll always offer to pay for the girl, but id expect them to say no ill pay for myself sometimes.

 

[Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk]

my ex who was a bit older than me used to pay for everythin like bowling, movies even paid for tickets to the finals, which was nice and i would offer to pay of course then after a while it got frikken annoying like he was smothering me.


...oh and cowboy from hell that sounds very sweet

 

[Stucey]

I will usually just pay if nothing is said. I don't mind paying as long as she is a nice girl!

But i have been with my current G/F for nearly 4 1/2 years, and I obviously can't pay all the time. I would be broke.

But yeah, in answer to the question....as long as she doesn't expect you to pay for everything all the time, then you will be right.

Also depends on situation. If you have a good job, and the other person is at uni or whatever or not earning much, then the nice thing to do would be to pay.

 

[CowboyFromHell]

Originally posted by Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk
my ex who was a bit older than me used to pay for everythin like bowling, movies even paid for tickets to the finals, which was nice and i would offer to pay of course then after a while it got frikken annoying like he was smothering me.


...oh and cowboy from hell that sounds very sweet

Well thankyou Spidey, although I don't know how sweet it truly is, but thanx all the same.

Without sounding too soft, I believe the girl deserves to have things paid for like that. It's a bit more gentlemen like and I am of the understanding that they like that. If they insist to pay then I won't argue, as for some reason I never win....

 

[Docker_Brat]

I think it depends who asks who out. I like Stocka's idea too, whoever decides where to eat would be the one to pay, if a girl asked me to take her to an expensive place then expect me to pay, she can get stuffed!

I think if you're at the third date stage, it would be nice if she paid or went halves, then again usually if I make it to the third date we're eating at either house rather than out.

One thing I find that works well is if they insist to pay, just say "I'll pay for dinner if you want to buy a couple of drinks after".

 

[PowerGirl36]

A lot of the time if it's planned that we'll be spending money, I will offer to pay and if the other half offers to pay then I'll say we should go 50/50 if they insist on paying. I don't mind paying it all occasionally if I have the money. It works both ways..

I find it really sweet though if they know you don't have any money, but pay for you anyway when you don't have to pay them back. It's always appreciated heaps! But if that happens, I'll offer to pay the next time of course.

 

[ant]

Well, I always pay....I don't think I could let a girl pay for anything...when the bill does come it is nice to get 'a reach' and if they offer I'm most appreciative but as for actually letting them part with their money.....I just wouldn't feel right.....

 

[Hurricane75]

As a girl I would pay for myself. Its nice if the boys pays sometimes but I would always offer.

In the main, men and woman are equal so both should pay equally.

 

[M29]

Depends, if she runs fast enough, neither shall pay.

 

[Hurricane75]

Originally posted by M29
Depends, if she runs fast enough, neither shall pay.

 

[bunsen burner]

If you ask a girl out, it is your obligation to pay. Most girls I go out with will offer to pay their share, but on a first date I will tell them that I asked them out, so I will pay. If a girl doesn't offer, I would make a mental note. If it proceded to a second date, I would expect the girl to pay her fair share. I can't stand girls who expect men to pay for everything. Luckily, I'm not usually attracted to these types - there seems to be a bit of a correlation between these sorts of girls and bimbos.

 

[PrincessPark]

Originally posted by M29
Depends, if she runs fast enough, neither shall pay.

Nice one! *lol* Also to be used in taxis.

I'll offer to go halves, but if the bloke says no then that's fine with me, I'm not that much of a femmo!! Or like someone else said, if it's movies and the guy gets the tickets, I'll offer to get drinks and snacks etc. If we're at a bar, guys tend to buy the drinks a lot, but if I finish mine first and want another, I'll go buy a round no worries. I usually feel guilty asking for spirits because I don't drink beer at all - but I'll always buy whatever they want to drink (ie: I'm not the girl who sucks down free spirits all night then buys a scabby beer for the guys!)

 

[Blue'n'Gold]

I like to go dutch....

Pardon the pun GB