Last night I was at a party of a friend of a friend. I didn't know a lot of people there and the friends I came with had gone to get drinks etc, so I started talking to the guy sitting next to me along the lines of "Hi I'm Bec* how do you know John*?" Etc. Anyway we were talking for a while and a few other people joined in the conversation and all of a sudden this guy lets call him Tony, started trying to hold my hand in my lap, I was like 
because we had just been talking, not flirting or anything! So as I am terrible at rejection and so as not to make it any more awkward I just kept finding excuses to move my hand around, making gestures, grabbing my drink etc but every time I put my hand down he put his over it. I then got up with the excuse of going to get a drink.
Went inside for a little and then came back out and sat in a different seat to which he promptly followed me! So I tried talking to other people, attempting to subtley ignore him, but he kept attempting to hold my hand and then he put his arm around my waist and said "I wish we had a couch or something", and I pulled away from his arm.
Made another excuse to leave the table and stayed inside for longer with friends chatting etc. He then came inside and put his arms around me again, I pulled his arms off and went outside. This then continued with me moving away, ignoring him sitting between two people so he couldn't get to me but then he just picked up a chair and sat behind me instead and even asked me to move over so he could fit in!
Anyway I managed to dodge him for a good half an hour before he came and found me inside again, so I promptly went outside, and of course he sat right next to me. Anyway every time I would be ignoring him and talking to other people with my back to him he would just be staring at me and then would eventually come out with "Hi Bec". After a while later he started to get angry and then came out with "You came up to me first and started talking to me!!" anyway not long after, most of us were leaving or going to bed, he came up to me and asked what I was doing, and I said I was going to sleep, he then flipped me the bird and said "Sleep on this"
I was staying over so a friend and I went into a front room and lay down on the couches, finally thinking he had gone home, I relaxed and then he came into the room. He said something and we both just pretended to be asleep, to which he mumbles something about us giving no response, thats just great etc. he then just lied down on the floor boards, right next to my couch. I kept my eyes open a little for fear of being groped, when all of a sudden he sat up and was just staring at me, it was dark and I didn't know if he could see my eyes open so I sat up and said something like "oh you scared me haha" as if he had woken me and then he just said "Hi Bec" in a slow creepy way. I then said you can have the couch I'll sleep with Jane* and went to the other couch to break the awkward silence. He then got on the couch and fell asleep and proceded to snore loudly all night.
This kind of thing keeps happening to me, I'm a bit of a wierdo magnet. I realise I could have been more forceful with the rejection especially at the start, but I mean, does any of that sound like I led him on?
Anyone else also only attract wierd people with psycho tendancies?
And any tips on rejecting guys without it being awkward? Especially in circumstances where it is likely you will see them again.
because we had just been talking, not flirting or anything! So as I am terrible at rejection and so as not to make it any more awkward I just kept finding excuses to move my hand around, making gestures, grabbing my drink etc but every time I put my hand down he put his over it. I then got up with the excuse of going to get a drink.Went inside for a little and then came back out and sat in a different seat to which he promptly followed me! So I tried talking to other people, attempting to subtley ignore him, but he kept attempting to hold my hand and then he put his arm around my waist and said "I wish we had a couch or something", and I pulled away from his arm.
Made another excuse to leave the table and stayed inside for longer with friends chatting etc. He then came inside and put his arms around me again, I pulled his arms off and went outside. This then continued with me moving away, ignoring him sitting between two people so he couldn't get to me but then he just picked up a chair and sat behind me instead and even asked me to move over so he could fit in!
Anyway I managed to dodge him for a good half an hour before he came and found me inside again, so I promptly went outside, and of course he sat right next to me. Anyway every time I would be ignoring him and talking to other people with my back to him he would just be staring at me and then would eventually come out with "Hi Bec". After a while later he started to get angry and then came out with "You came up to me first and started talking to me!!" anyway not long after, most of us were leaving or going to bed, he came up to me and asked what I was doing, and I said I was going to sleep, he then flipped me the bird and said "Sleep on this"
I was staying over so a friend and I went into a front room and lay down on the couches, finally thinking he had gone home, I relaxed and then he came into the room. He said something and we both just pretended to be asleep, to which he mumbles something about us giving no response, thats just great etc. he then just lied down on the floor boards, right next to my couch. I kept my eyes open a little for fear of being groped, when all of a sudden he sat up and was just staring at me, it was dark and I didn't know if he could see my eyes open so I sat up and said something like "oh you scared me haha" as if he had woken me and then he just said "Hi Bec" in a slow creepy way. I then said you can have the couch I'll sleep with Jane* and went to the other couch to break the awkward silence. He then got on the couch and fell asleep and proceded to snore loudly all night.
This kind of thing keeps happening to me, I'm a bit of a wierdo magnet. I realise I could have been more forceful with the rejection especially at the start, but I mean, does any of that sound like I led him on?
Anyone else also only attract wierd people with psycho tendancies?
And any tips on rejecting guys without it being awkward? Especially in circumstances where it is likely you will see them again.
