Toast Vale Adam Selwood

[kranky al]

Absolutely gutting news to hear, footy is so secondary to this type of stuff.

Hard to process/express on a footy forum but just wanted to get this out there: am currently doing my psych masters while working in disability care and 100% believe in these results:

In contrast to older data from the 70-80s, current studies indicate that committing to and following through on literally any type of therapy promotes the best outcomes for mental health.

In other words, the act of seeking and committing to therapy is statistically so much more influential than the type of therapy it actually is. The caveat being: it's got to feel right for you.

Seeing a psychologist, seeing a community counsellor, group therapy, couples therapy, hypnotherapy, mates counselling programs, anything. It's not that the data invalidates one type of therapy over another, it's that if it feels right for you, the act of committing to it is going to give you the best results possible.

Sounds counterintuitive as a prospective psychologist but honestly, for men especially I would encourage everyone to open themselves up to whatever type of help they need. If you're hesitating or unsure, the act of just committing to seeking help is the biggest step of all.

If anyone does want anything specific or any ideas for directions please feel free to pm. Love to all you footy nuffies out there.

So true. I’ve had in and off depression for years and last year losing dad and falling out with work and leaving a good job stuck me in a hole. I didn’t wait like I have in the past, sought help and although I only had a few sessions it’s like a weight lifts off you.

They reframe you and get you to go back to basics and do the little things that make you happy in life that you just stop doing because you are stuck in your head.

 

[UseR2006]

Fox, acknowledged it during half time, kept it as it's own bit, Moons choking up talking about it.
Devastating.

 

[Hap Hapablap]

Felt utterly Ill this morning reading this. It's been three.months since Troy's been gone and then then this..I can't imagine what the Selwood family would be going through. Utterly horrid.

Adam was a great clubman for the club and won the flag in 06 doing just what he needed to do.

Depression and mental health is ****ed. I've been there. Don't let it consume you. Speak up and people including here are here to speak and to listen. Life is not meant to be unfair and cruel. And yes we have our trials and tribulations but people are genuinely out there to listen and absorb your pain.

 

[Bleedblueandgold]

WTF??????

 

[Hap Hapablap]

Condolences to the Selwood family.
Adam was an Eagles premiership hero and life member. Will forever be remembered.



I'm in the same boat. 2 young boys and a 3rd on the way. Looking at them playing with their dinosaurs, it's inconceivable to me the tragedy that the Selwood parents must be experiencing.

Got three boys as well and they've been running a muck this morning. Just reading this hit me like a sack of bricks. Can't imagine what the Selwood parents are going through.

 

[Altum Volantes]

This

I’ve deleted the post and all of the references to it on the basis that it’s too soon in what should be a condolence thread. Details of the circumstances will be revealed in time but speculation, informed or otherwise, isn’t helpful or necessary for now

Like everyone, I’m gutted at this news. It hits hard and I simply can’t fathom what his family and close friends are going through

He was an absolute warrior on the field and gave 100% every time he ran out. In a team of stars he was one of those doing the hard work in the trenches that allowed them to shine

It should also be remembered that when the club was on its knees in the wake of the illicit drugs furore he was one of the players who led the way in reestablishing the culture of the club. He was no longer a player by the time we won the flag in 2018 but he undoubtedly helped build the platform for it

He should and will be remembered fondly

Vale Adam and condolences to your family and friends

Great stuff Keys, and great moderation, as always.

 

[KBLT]

Adam was one of my favourite players. I still have a number 37 guernsey packed away somewhere at my Mum's house. For his family to lose Troy and then Adam in the same way within the span of three months is unfathomable. Holding my little girl a little closer today.

 

[BartBart]

If his guernsey number was lower we (as fans) would be able to do our own tribute by clapping in the 37th minute.

Any suggestions?
(Obviously the club will do one before the game)

 

[kane249]

If his guernsey number was lower we (as fans) would be able to do our own tribute by clapping in the 37th minute.

Any suggestions?
(Obviously the club will do one before the game)

3rd quarter
7th minute

 

[Ambrose Burnside]

Feel this sort of thing is too hard to organise, few peeps here keen but in a crowd of 40k+ it's not much and most won't know what's happening.

Was explaining to my son what a one minute's silence is in case the club does that so he knows what's going on.

 

[Ochre]

That's the issue I think.

What do you do if someone genuinely comes to you in trouble?

Aussie thing has been "you'll be right" or "just keep busy"

what can you actually do? I feel like just telling someone a phone number or website does little.

whole thing is horrible

Yep, telling people it's OK to speak up and to check on their mates is great advice, but it's also allowed so many people and groups that should be providing actual help off the hook.

 

[HoneyBadger35]

Feel this sort of thing is too hard to organise, few peeps here keen but in a crowd of 40k+ it's not much and most won't know what's happening.

Was explaining to my son what a one minute's silence is in case the club does that so he knows what's going on.

It is, but it’s worth a go. News got around (over a week, granted) about chucking the bird up for Harley. We should try.

 

[DanWCE]

3rd quarter
7th minute

Get it to Schoey, he'll make sure it goes far and wide. Just hope we are still in the game at that point

 

[TY24]

3rd quarter
7th minute

Feel this sort of thing is too hard to organise, few peeps here keen but in a crowd of 40k+ it's not much and most won't know what's happening.

Was explaining to my son what a one minute's silence is in case the club does that so he knows what's going on.

It is, but it’s worth a go. News got around (over a week, granted) about chucking the bird up for Harley. We should try.

No harm in trying. I'll be at the game tomorrow; I'll tell the people I go with to get around it.

 

[TY24]

Get it to Schoey, he'll make sure it goes far and wide. Just hope we are still in the game at that point

I've sent his co-host Dan a message

 

[kane249]

Get it to Schoey, he'll make sure it goes far and wide. Just hope we are still in the game at that point

I was going to suggest when we score more than 37 points

But with Ross Lyon coaching neither side might get there tomorrow

 

[kane249]

I've sent his co-host Dan a message

Messaged an admin of a footy group on Facebook as well

If anyone is a member of any groups, spread the word

 

[cottoneyeYeo]

once we score 37 points makes more sense

 

[HoneyBadger35]

once we score 37 points makes more sense

But what if we go from 36 to 42?

3/7 is cleaner and much easier to orchestrate.

 

[TY24]

once we score 37 points makes more sense

I think that was a joke

That also relys on us scoring exactly 37 points for it to make sense.

"And a warm round of applause as the Eagles reach... 41 points in honour of Adam Selwood"

 

[Eastern Rangers]

7th minute of the third quarter?

 

[Ambrose Burnside]

I think that was a joke

That also relys on us scoring exactly 37 points for it to make sense.

"And a warm round of applause as the Eagles reach... 41 points in honour of Adam Selwood"

His age

 

[cottoneyeYeo]

I think that was a joke

That also relys on us scoring exactly 37 points for it to make sense.

"And a warm round of applause as the Eagles reach... 41 points in honour of Adam Selwood"

fair bump play on, not my smartest suggestion

 

[BartBart]

7th minute of the third quarter?

Well techically it'd be the 8th minute (once 7 minutes is reached)

 

[Styxx]

My condolences to the Selwood family and the greater Eagles community. This is just shattering for everyone.

 

[Freomaniac]

Full on.

Sad.

You wonder how both parents are feeling and Joel Selwood too