Chicks and boozing

[Wildrig]

Ok...Hypothetically of course..

me and mates head out drinking one night, first time in years we have caught up together. Watch the St Kilda Bombers game , get boozy then head out to a local haunt.

Me and a mate have girlfriends, other dude picks one up and gives her one - ends up dating for 6 weeks or so.

Mate breaks up with said girl (23), she is a friend of ours and in neighbourhood and texts from the pub if Im out

I (31) am, having watched Australia somehow get over Oman, and catch up for a beer on the way home - literally, 2 beers with her and her friends and Im outta there

My girlfriend (32) reckons "I have so much to learn about women" ie - mates ex wants to give me one. Girlfriend is pissed off and wont speak to me even though I am home.

Any girls care to comment as Im perplexed. My girlfriend acknowledges that I will never cheat and will more than likely marry her yet gets annoyed at the above scenario ?

 

[CrazyQ]

She will get over it.

Women are mad crazy. Paranoid as ****. Sleep it off and all will be good tomorrow. If not bone your mates ex.

 

[Power King]

Girlfriend is pissed off and wont speak to me even though I am home.

Answer - she's a female, and even they acknowledge their own gender's illogicality.

 

[King Elvis]

Firstly, assure that it's all good and you didn't do anything wrong, then tell her that her wanting to play these stupid games wont fly and if she keeps it up, you'll bail.

 

[J-Train]

It's a difficult thing to continue friendships with other females when you are in a relationship. Even if you have no intentions of playing up, sometimes your other half just assumes the worst, especially if she doesn't know the person you are hanging with in your spare time. Would you be 100% cool with it if your girlfriend popped around to a male friends house and had a few drinks with him and his mates while you sat at home?

Just sounds like your basic trust issues to me, everyone has them sometimes. It might not be that she doesn't trust you either, it could just be that she doesn't trust your female friend.

 

[EasternTiger]

Leo Tolstoy advised men to: "Regard the society of women as a necessary unpleasantness of our social life, and avoid it as much as possible"

There's a lesson in there for all of us

 

[Tex_21]

She will get over it.

Women are mad crazy. Paranoid as ****. Sleep it off and all will be good tomorrow. If not bone your mates ex.

Na, don't stress mate. My mrs used to get like that a bit, because I have lots of female friends (used to come in handy - vale my single life) and she used to be weird about it. She got over it.

 

[krusden]

Any girls care to comment as Im perplexed. My girlfriend acknowledges that I will never cheat and will more than likely marry her yet gets annoyed at the above scenario ?

all girls are like this mate.

Its best to keep it quiet I have found EVEN IF YOU ARE ABOVE BOARD with the person (and it sounds like you are) and suggest "hey, im off for a beer with robbo" for example.

That's what i do or else i get ticked at her being jealous at me( and she has no reason to be)

 

[Optimax]

Women are nuts dude

Thats the long and short of it

 

[King Elvis]

all girls are like this mate.

Its best to keep it quiet I have found EVEN IF YOU ARE ABOVE BOARD with the person (and it sounds like you are) and suggest "hey, im off for a beer with robbo" for example.

That's what i do or else i get ticked at her being jealous at me( and she has no reason to be)

Not sure about this; these little white lies have a habit of being found out, and turn from something that shouldn't be a big deal, to an earth shattering catastrophe.

 

[Royal Flush]

Don't worry, stand your ground if your motives are right.
Your misses will find you all the more attractive and desirable if you stand your ground and don't wuss up to her with flowers or something stupid like that.

As long as you continue to do the right thing your jealous GF will get over it some what but never totally, but she will love you even more.
Don't ask me why it's some inate/bioloical thing happening there.

 

[BigBadCam]

Girls make up scenarios in their head and expect you to know exactly what they are thinking without them actually ever saying anything. They all have alterior motives and priorities that just don't make sense. When you spend time with them you become intertwined in their confused, jumbled take on society and its interconnections. To us, it's just having a beer with a mate. I often get myself in trouble without even doing anything. When I get pulled up on it I just say I don't play into that shit and give some rundown on how ****ed up the society of women is. Most girls who stick around long enough to go out with me know how my mind works and generally give in after a while.

 

[FIGJAM]

I'm a dude, but your girlfriend half has a point. It's pretty rare for women to be proactive in terms of texts and catching up for a drink if they don't want some action, or to plant seeds for potential future action. They are schemers. Other chicks know this, because they are also schemers.

That said, there are some platonic relationships that are so platonic as to be safe as houses. Only you can know where you sit. If your missus wasn't around, would you slip your mate's ex one?

 

[Power King]

Oh wait, your gf was pissed coz you met up for drinking one on one with another girl? I thought she was pissed coz you didn't pick up on a girl possibly being keen on you.

If that's the case, I think that's kinda fair enough, but it depends on what the individual couple's personality is like etc

 

[Hoffy95]

Just ask her how long she plans on staying mad for. She'll know, it's part of the game. Once you have the answer, bugger off and come back when the time expires.

She's just your average insecure, self conscious lass. 95% of the female population.

 

[DeadlyAkkuret]

Little insecurities are natural and as long as she's not totally psychotic then you really don't have a problem.

 

[King Elvis]

Just ask her how long she plans on staying mad for. She'll know, it's part of the game. Once you have the answer, bugger off and come back when the time expires.

She's just your average insecure, self conscious lass. 95% of the female population.

Might I suggest heading to the Pub again in the meantime?

 

[morell]

I'm a dude, but your girlfriend half has a point. It's pretty rare for women to be proactive in terms of texts and catching up for a drink if they don't want some action, or to plant seeds for potential future action. They are schemers. Other chicks know this, because they are also schemers.

Agree. It's one thing to be on friendly terms and even organise group catch ups etc, but to actually single you out and give the cliche "are you out" SMS is obviously looking for a bit more. Especially when, as the OP said, they only dated for 6 weeks so they're hardly life long friends or anything.

Completely understand the GF's position here.

and having said all that, it's hardly the most serious of relationship crimes, I think all that was required was a "ummm, please don't do that again" and an explain why and then move on.

Females are incapable of logic though.

 

[Dean3]

Maybe reverse the situation and ask yourself (honestly) whether you would have been completely happy.

 

[Hoffy95]

Might I suggest heading to the Pub again in the meantime?

Can't think of too many other better places. Crazy Horse perhaps.