Engagements!

[Rohan_]

Originally posted by Docker_Brat

You reckon that's going to happen?

Why because he's right?

 

[gbear]

Originally posted by Docker_Brat

You reckon that's going to happen?

The odds on that happening would have to be great

 

[Jars458]

Originally posted by Rohan_


Why because he's right?

He wont enter into a relationship because he is right???????

 

[Rohan_]

No Jars you are mocking Dan because his view is correct. It's just a piece of paper.

 

[Docker_Brat]

Originally posted by Jars458


He wont enter into a relationship because he is right???????

I'm baffled too. I guess Rohan has been crying too many tissues.

I could spell it out for our Collingwood supporting friend.

 

[Docker_Brat]

Originally posted by Rohan_
No Jars you are mocking Dan because his view is correct. It's just a piece of paper.

Yeah like all legally binding documents are pieces of paper. It's slightly more than that.

It entitles a woman to take most of the assets you have built up over your lifetime. Sign one of those pieces of paper at your own peril.

 

[gbear]

Originally posted by Docker_Brat

Yeah like all legally binding documents are pieces of paper. It's slightly more than that.

It entitles a woman to take most of the assets you have built up over your lifetime. Sign one of those pieces of paper at your own peril.

In the days of equal opportunity men may take half of what we have rightly worked our arses off for.

 

[Rohan_]

Originally posted by Docker_Brat


It entitles a woman to take most of the assets you have built up over your lifetime.

True but my point is that it doesn't make you love your partner anymore.

 

[Jars458]

Originally posted by Rohan_
No Jars you are mocking Dan because his view is correct. It's just a piece of paper.

To you perhaps

but not to me and many others.


Marriage still is legal even if you burn the piece of paper afterwards -so I guess it isn't!!

 

[Jars458]

Originally posted by Rohan_


True but my point is that it doesn't make you love your partner anymore.

Who ever argued that????

You grow to lvoe your partner more and more every day whether you are married or not.

 

[Rohan_]

Originally posted by Jars458


To you perhaps

but not to me and many others.

So you need to marry a girl, which is based on outdated ideals, to justify your love for her?

A lot of people get married for the sake of it and the wrong reasons. I.e. like family pressure hence the high divorce rates..

 

[gbear]

People get divorced because they choose lust over friendship.

 

[Rohan_]

Originally posted by gbear
People get divorced because they choose lust over friendship.

That's just one reason. People grow apart, they get married for the wrong reasons, etc, etc,

At core everyone will lust for someone else in a point of time. Why cut your own lunch?

 

[blackdiamond]

Dan just hasn't found the right reasons to get married yet, I am sure once he does he will fully agree with marriage.

Each to their own I guess.

Personally I have very much looked forward to this day, she means everything to me and that is why I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

Anyway, how about we get back to the subject that I posted in the first place? I didn't really want to have a slanging match as to whether marriage was right or wrong.

 

[Eagle_Fan]

Is it true spouses can't be called on to give evidence against their husband/wife?

 

[Jars458]

Originally posted by Rohan_


So you need to marry a girl, which is based on outdated ideals, to justify your love for her?

A lot of people get married for the sake of it and the wrong reasons. I.e. like family pressure hence the high divorce rates..

You are thick.

I have said at least twice its not about justification.

You and Dan are two of a kind and are welcome to each other.

Amusing thought really.

 

[ramjet]

each to their own in my book. personally, marriage doesnt hold much appeal. i can be just as happy, just as much in love and just as content without a piece of paper telling me i should but to others, they want/need or simply feel it a normal 'advancement' of their relationship to walk down the aisle. makes no difference in the end which way you go about expressing committment.
good luck to scott - hope you find a way to propose that will do justice to you and your girl's relationship.

 

[FreoGirl]

I hope it is more romantic than my proposal, but it was from an accountant :lol:

We had to call in to a shopping centre on our way to an East Fremantle vs Swan Districts game (back when it was worth going to the WAFL) and we say this ring in the window of Mazzuchellis - it was a too good to miss offer

All I got was "Do you like this ring? do you want this ring? we had better hurry up if we want to make it by half time!"

We have been together for 12 years so it can't have been THAT bad.

I think it is sweet that you are asking for suggestions. I have often envied women who get the full on romantic, unexpected deal.

 

[Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk]

Originally posted by FreoGirl
All I got was "Do you like this ring? do you want this ring? we had better hurry up if we want to make it by half time!"

haha thats a p1sser i'm sure he meant well tho! I dont think there r many guys who r really romantic anyway. Most of the time it's the woman who wants all the fuss made yet i dont think the men really care either way.

 

[Baldy#9]

My dream proposal would be for my man to have gone out to buy the ring himself (have told my flatmate that she would have to go with him cause he has no idea!!) and for a nice romantic quiet evening some where, maybe somewhere that has special significance us or something. Nothing overly fancy I guess but but something intimate between just the two of us.

He would also have to ask my dad first I think, dad is a big old fashioned like that and I think he would expect it

 

[DemonChick22_24]

theres a place in Victoria called the 'look out' its in the dandenongs and it lookx out All over the city and u can see the ocean from up there, and i was up there once and it was a lighting storm over the city and it looked beautiful and this guy proposed to his girlfriend up there. It was so so sweet.

 

[kaysee]

Originally posted by Jars458


Everyone is different

IMO Your wedding day should be the most special day of your life

So you surround yourself with friends, family, good food and drink, a string quarter, a dj, etc etc. This costs money but how do you measure the feeling it gives you in monetary value.



32 days away for me.

We seem to agree on the same thing here for once Jars458.

I believe the wedding day, and wedding ring for that matter, are the far more important then the engagement. I think the engagement is more to declare to the partner of you commitment to marry and to establish that security within the relationship and give it guidence.

As for costs of the rings and marraige it is has cheap or expensive as your own expectations. For myself I could have down it on a very cheap budget with the ceremony being the most important aspect to me. However my Wife had her own vision of what she wanted and set about organising it with considerable stress. She did say straight after the wedding though that leading upto the day she was worrying about this and that, but when she got to the beginning of the aisle and seen me waiting at the other end everything else didn't matter. She realised at that point what the meaning of the day was and didn't care about anything else.

All the best for the special day.

SKC

 

[Spidergirl~RiCkChiCk]

Originally posted by DemonChick22_24
theres a place in Victoria called the 'look out' its in the dandenongs and it lookx out All over the city and u can see the ocean from up there, and i was up there once and it was a lighting storm over the city and it looked beautiful and this guy proposed to his girlfriend up there. It was so so sweet.

yeh i kno where u mean everyone always goes up there to **** and do drugs. It's actually pretty scary up there especially at midnight.

 

[kaysee]

My proposal - Warning LONG Post...


Started with 1st making sure my Wife was the I wanted to marry and then made sure she felt likewise. We visited a few jewellers to get ideas of what sort of engagement ring we could get for our $$$ and I told her I would be looking at proposing around Easter Time ( it was at the time beginning December). This was because I had a few small loans to pay off 1st and couldn't afford the ring then, and she was fine with it. We found a few rings that she liked and unbeknowns to her I extended 1 of my small personal loans to purchase the ring before the jewellers closed up just before Christmas.
In the meantime we had already organised to go away camping down around the South-East coastline of SA over the New Years break. Also leading upto Christmas I asked her to show me which dresses she would wear if I was to take her out somewhere nice for dinner. She happily gave a modelling displaying her favourite nice outfits. I organised to spend the last night of our camping holiday in a room at a nice B&B closer to Adelaide, which had a nice resturant (Lenard's Mill ... not sure if it is still open) that was about 1 hours drive away from Adelaide. When my wife wasn't looking I took 1 of her dresses, shoes, underware etc and arranged for a friend to drop them and my suit off at the B&B ready for our arrival (couldn't have hid them in our camping gear).
Come NYs time we packed up (expensive ring stashed away in my bag and all) and went away camping, 1 night at Victor Habour first then down to Beachport for a few nights. Whilst in VH and eating a casual lunch my Wife starts talking about marraige and how she not sure about it, etc. She was rather uncertain about it all... and I am think FARRKK 'I've got the damn ring in my bag ... now what do I do??... I have to talk her around quick smart' . I we talked about how nothing is for certain and you just have to trust in God or in fate/destiny or whatever you believe in. It worked and she was back on track.
We spent a few great days down in Beachport before heading back for the last night. I had told her I wanted to spend the last night closer to Adelaide so we wouldn't have as long as a drive home on the last day. I had told her I knew where we could stay on the way home. but as we were packing up out tent the damn thing broke (lucky we were staying in a room that night, but she didn't know and wondered how we were going to use the tent again). We drove to the B&B and it was getting close to 7pm and she still had no idea where we were staying when I pulled into the secludely nestled B&B carpark and asked her to wait in the car.
When I came back, after getting the room key, she asked where the camp site was and I told her "we're not camping tonight" and we headed upto the room. She loved the room decked out with nice furniture and spa bath etc, and then noticed the dress clothes and was pretty happy. I said I had arranged to eat out here tonight and she still had no idea what was going to happen, she was still expecting Easter time because I repeatedly stated I couldn't afford to until then.
We went and had a beautiful dinner all dressed up nicely, but there were several tables about with dinner guests and I was trying to pick my moment. Waiting for the minimum amount of people in the room, being extremely nervous. When a large group of 10 sat down and ordered and we were finishing our main course I gave up hope of a smaller crowd. After finishing our desserts I still had half a glass of red to finish and my Wife was getting tired after a long busy day. My wife use to wear a ring passed down to me on her opposite hands ring finger. I asked her if she could take it off so I could look at it and she did so with a puzzling look.
I then looked at it a little and as I got out of my chair I said "How about I replace that ring with this one?"... I proceeded down to one knee beside her whilst pulling out the ring box and ring and then asked "I would be honoured if you would marry me and be my Wife." It was about this time I noticed how deadly quiet the entire restuatant had now gone and I recall hearing another lady whisper "... you never got down on your knee for me." , everything else was just a whirlwind. Of course she began to cry and repeatedly said "yes" then feeling like I had been on it for an eternity I asked if it would be ok to get back up now.
We retreated back to our room, informed direct relatives via phone and returned home the next morning.

That concludes my engagement story for those who were interested enough to read it.

Cheers
SKC

 

[blackdiamond]

That was sweet Kaysee, fingers crossed that my proposal works that well.