For guys

[Fat Red]

Responding to Sly's comments in the best friends becoming more thread, my friend has a theory that I agree with, that males don't have female friends that they're not attracted to to some degree.

I wouldn't say all my female friends are stunners at all, but there's a little something with all of them. I don't have any female friends who are really unattractive. (those who know me feel free to remind me of any exceptions that I've forgotten? )

What do others think about this theory?

 

[Robbo1]

I agree with you there. All the female friends i have, you always have a thought in the back of your mind that you would like something more. It's just natural i think. I think that most guys find it hard to not think about their female friends in a sexual way of some description.

 

[Blues2001]

I agree somewhat. However I do have some female friends that I have NO ATTRACTION FOR WHATSOEVER.

However, I do agree that there is a "little something" in most of my female friends that makes them attractive to me.

 

[TheMase]

I dont agree at all.

A lot of my female friends I am not attracted to at all.

At the same time, I take my friends by personality, not looks, or the way they are preceived by other people.

 

[eagleskickass]

No, For me i don't agree
Most of my female friends I am not attracted to in a way more than friendship. One of my best friends is a female, but i could never be in a relationship with her, she's just a good friend.

 

[meg]

I have a male friend who I'm pretty close to, and he said that there is NO WAY that a guy would EVER just want to be friends.... he says that always in the back of their minds, they are thinking about taking it further.

 

[BUBBALOUIS]

Originally posted by meg
I have a male friend who I'm pretty close to, and he said that there is NO WAY that a guy would EVER just want to be friends.... he says that always in the back of their minds, they are thinking about taking it further.

hehehehe... ahh i think hes trying to hit on ya meg!

 

[GOALden Hawk]

Originally posted by Blues2001
I agree somewhat. However I do have some female friends that I have NO ATTRACTION FOR WHATSOEVER.

That's probably because you have already been with them!

Oh by the way Fat Red...I'm assuming your quote is from Naked Gun 2: The smell of fear? If so, it should be "Is this a bust?". "Ah...yes, it's very impressive." I love that scene!

As for the question, I'm not sure...there can be some girls who you are not attracted to initially, but once you get to know them there personality makes them more attractive - if that makes sense.

 

[Briedis]

GOALden Hawk, I think she says "Is this some kind of bust?". Just being picky!

On the topic, my best mate is a chick...I was "best man" for her at her wedding. We will always be just mates never anything more, and that's just the way I want it....

 

[GOALden Hawk]

Originally posted by Briedis
GOALden Hawk, I think she says "Is this some kind of bust?". Just being picky!

Damn...I think you are right!! I will have to watch the DVD again next week...the commentary is hilarious.

 

[coxon]

well, i do have some good female friends that are shockers... hehe.. no attraction at all ~

but yeah.. for the rest... overall... even tho they are just friends.. there is always 'a little something'... a little something, in a sexual way that is attractive..

 

[Fat Red]

Originally posted by GOALden Hawk



Oh by the way Fat Red...I'm assuming your quote is from Naked Gun 2: The smell of fear? If so, it should be "Is this a bust?". "Ah...yes, it's very impressive." I love that scene!

I have changed it to reflect your comments, although I think the joke has been developed from its original incarnation in the Police Squad series, which might have been closer to my version

 

[Fat Red]

Just to clarify, you don't necessarily have to want to follow up in any way with these friends, just have some sort of attraction in the back of your mind.

Plenty of my friends that I would NEVER go out/sleep with, but am attracted to on a purely physical level.

 

[Sly77]

In recent years, the guys who I have been great friends with, has been because initially they wanted more than just friendship from me and I haven't been interested - so we've just keep in touch and developed a friendship instead.

However, not all guys take rejection that well

Most of my other guy friendships have developed through the workplace after spending umpteen hours a week with them - its hard to avoid a friendship developing and even harder to be attracted to them once you've seen their best and worst sides

 

[BomberGal]

Originally posted by meg
I have a male friend who I'm pretty close to, and he said that there is NO WAY that a guy would EVER just want to be friends....

I disagree. Just coz he thinks that, doesn't mean all guys do. One of my closest friends in the entire world was this guy Aaron. I knew everything about him, and he knew everything about me. We really had no secrets. And he never, ever, ever made a move on me and I knew he wouldn't get with me.

This story ends on a sad note.....he goes to a different school now. LOL

 

[meg]

Originally posted by BomberGal


I disagree. Just coz he thinks that, doesn't mean all guys do. One of my closest friends in the entire world was this guy Aaron. I knew everything about him, and he knew everything about me. We really had no secrets. And he never, ever, ever made a move on me and I knew he wouldn't get with me.

This story ends on a sad note.....he goes to a different school now. LOL

I dunno, I think that most guys have it in the back of their mind that they want more than friendship sometimes. This guy hasn't made a move on me and if he does I'll tell him thanks, but no... by the way, which IS the best way to say no???

 

[catalyst]

Sorry for intruding on a topic for guys lol but when a chick sees that it's 'for guys', she probably wants to read it even more.

GOALden Hawk mentioned something that I totally agree with - that friends become more (or less) attractive the more you get to know them. You may see someone and think they're hot but then when you get to know them the intitial attraction seems to disappear. On the other hand, you may not be attracted to someone but then you become really good friends and begin to love their personality, and somehow that leads to physical attraction as well.

 

[The Hitman]

I am attracted in someway to most of my female friends, either to their personality or physically. Most I wouldn't do anything with, but the girl I like (who likes me too) is one of my best friends, and we know a lot about each other.

Make of that what you will...

The Hitman

 

[Macca19]

have to agree i think.
Most of my close female friends who i see all the time are quite pleasant on the eye.

Altho i dont go out and find friends that are gorgeous...my friends are who i have things in common with and enjoy their company...they just happen to be attractive. I have a couple of female friends that i have no physical feelings for tho

 

[iceman]

i have a lot of female friends who im not attracted to, altho i think that the more time u spend with a female the more you start thinking about her etc.....

but i disagree with the idea that theres no such thing as a female friend to a guy

 

[David Mensch]

I have plenty of female friends that i am not attracted to. I'd still hammer them though.

 

[Grendel]

Originally posted by Sly77
In recent years, the guys who I have been great friends with, has been because initially they wanted more than just friendship from me and I haven't been interested - so we've just keep in touch and developed a friendship instead.

However, not all guys take rejection that well

Most of my other guy friendships have developed through the workplace after spending umpteen hours a week with them - its hard to avoid a friendship developing and even harder to be attracted to them once you've seen their best and worst sides

You call one meeting at the HardRock Cafe 'umpteen hours'?

Im not taking to all this rejection to well....

 

[bunsen burner]

I have a male friend who I'm pretty close to, and he said that there is NO WAY that a guy would EVER just want to be friends.... he says that always in the back of their minds, they are thinking about taking it further.

This is most probably the work of a snake - heard this hundreds of times before. This usually comes out of mouths of guys who will bad-mouth their friends to the girls to make themselves look better than their friends.

Does he include himself in this, or is he the exception? cough cough.

Meg: If he says all guys thinks like this (I assure you they don't), it is because it is also how he thinks, and therefore logical. He is trying to make you think, "all guys do it, except me". Pull the other one.

I think the alarm bells should start ringing.

 

[PiesPremiers]

Originally posted by meg

by the way, which IS the best way to say no???

Theres NO best way to say NO
No is a bad bad word....
The best thing is to say yes Meg...after all, 93% will say yes.....right?

 

[jod23]

Well i have to agree.....i honestly cant remember having a female friend who i wasnt attracted too. Sometimes when you have a gf, she brings baggage, like an annoying chick or fat chick but there not actually friends, there more like the price you have to pay to go out with the girl you do like