Family & Relationships How to get over a guy?

[DevilsDoor]

Ok, having just read the How to get over a girl thread, Im curious to know how you would get over a guy?

Not so long ago, I discovered my now ex was dating my also now ex best friend.. wait it gets worse..

Our wedding was booked, paid for, she was going to be a bridesmaid. Her parents live next door to mine, so the chances of running into them are great.

What to do?

 

[HarryTiger]

Tell yourself he obviously wasn't the right one, dodged a bullet etc.

 

[DevilsDoor]

easier said than done after 5 years, sharing a house etc, Ive got to try and start again, while she swans around like the cat that got the cream. When all I really want to do is get her long blonde hair and strangle her with it.

 

[dales.girl38]

Jeez, that's horrible DD. Usually in times like this, your best friend is the one to help you pick up the pieces, so it's just all the worse.

You did dodge a bullet, but as for how to move on other than remind yourself of that, I haven't got a clue.

 

[pluga_4]

well seeing as you lost your best mate....


do his best mate !!!!!!

 

[DevilsDoor]

well seeing as you lost your best mate....


do his best mate !!!!!!

His best mate is gay, bloody good looking tho so its a damn shame.

Every damn day I run into them, or her parents and they try and talk to me, cant they see I dont want to, its hard enough having them so close. Payback is a b**** but what to do

 

[pluga_4]

maybe ya need nicky's advice DD......she knows EVERYTHING!

 

[sgnl00]

Get under a new one.

How you doin'?

 

[DevilsDoor]

not myself..... or anyone right now. Come to the conclusion men arent worth the effort, read all that thread on how to get over a girl. some of its really sound advice, but how come its girls that get the crap end of the stick? Dont guys cheat or play with girls minds, coz I can assure you they do.... That w***er of an ex of mine sure played with my head and I mean the one on my shoulders

 

[DESTRUCTOR]

Have you tried hitting him?

 

[DevilsDoor]

He's bigger than I am and considering the troll hes with now, no sense no feeling comes to mind...

 

[sgnl00]

not myself..... or anyone right now. Come to the conclusion men arent worth the effort, read all that thread on how to get over a girl. some of its really sound advice, but how come its girls that get the crap end of the stick? Dont guys cheat or play with girls minds, coz I can assure you they do.... That w***er of an ex of mine sure played with my head and I mean the one on my shoulders

Look, it doesn't matter if you are a girl or guy, some people are just **** people.

 

[60sbomber]

I agree with the "dodged a bullet" line. You nearly married this guy!!
Eventhough you are hurting at the moment, you've gotta see how much better off you are than you might have been.
You are probably not ready for it now, but leave yourself open to nice guys. There are plenty of them out there. Take your time - there are plenty of single guys who will be right for you when you are ready to try again. Just make sure when the time comes that you look for a guy with good values, a guy you can like, first and foremost. Don't go for the casanovas and the confident worldly blokes who the girls all seem to go for.
Learn from what happened to you, and make it part of your life's experience that makes the rest of your life better.
Good luck.

 

[dales.girl38]

I also think that the 'there's always someone worse off than me' line can be helpful. My cousin married this bloke just under a year ago (after her first partner died of cancer at the age of 25), wedding cost $10,000, paid for by her parents. 3 weeks later she answered his phone, the girl on the phone was after 'her boyfriend ____'. Turns out she was pregnant with his baby, while he had also fathered a baby with another woman she didn't know about, the baby was conceived he was dating my cousin. She has to wait a full year to file for divorce, as infidelity doesn't qualify you for an annullment.

There are some awful people out there.

 

[Byron_Clanger]

I could never get over a guy

 

[Dan3490]

Your ex best friend... have you tried hitting her?

 

[Hoffy95]

Seduce your ex's old boy.

 

[Mooster7]

All men are worthless. All of us. Know it and believe it with every fiber of your being.

Then go out and get yourself a filthy rich guy. Best revenge, and who cares if you like him? We're all worthless, but you're better off with a rich worthless guy you don't like than any other kind, don't you think?

 

[IAMJUNGLEMUFFIN]

Ok, having just read the How to get over a girl thread, Im curious to know how you would get over a guy?

Not so long ago, I discovered my now ex was dating my also now ex best friend.. wait it gets worse..

Our wedding was booked, paid for, she was going to be a bridesmaid. Her parents live next door to mine, so the chances of running into them are great.

What to do?

Shag every single guy you fancy even slightly, and even the ones you don't.

As males, we are understanding, and willing to help out women who have been hard done by.

Just to make them feel better about being treated as a piece of meat, it's only fair if you buy them a beer first.

 

[Northworth]

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just mention to a few people that youre surprised that your ex best friend is okay about his genital warts






My serious advice is to do the opposite of what others have said. You have no doubt lost yourself firstly in that relationship and secondly in the role of the spurned ex. What you need to do now is (as wanky as it sounds) find yourself. Spend a lot of time learning new skills/doing new things... or even doing things you used to like doing but stopped because of the relationship and he didnt want to - see foreign movies... go to art galleries... play netball - I have no idea. But do things that remind you that you are fun, smart, worthwhile etc.

Only then will you be properly open to the prospect of a relationship again. And you will be ONE MILLION times better prepared next time

 

[Power King]

The best revenge is to show that it has not affected you and move on with life enjoying it to the fullest. Easier said than done of course.

As for future interactions with men, perhaps you could be more open to 'nice guys'. That, or take on the customary sluhts gon sluht reaction phase. Up to you.

In terms of your parents, they should cut off all contact with his parents. Even if they live next door, I don't see how it's that big of an issue unless they're literally going inside their house when you're over. Pretty easy to ignore neighbours unless they're physically within the house.

I can imagine your state of mind right now must be pretty crushed given you were engaged. I think you just need to let time do its thing and it'll be easier to cope with the thoughts of what has happened. How are your other close friends that I assume are/were friends with her? If you can't count on them to lend you a shoulder to lean on, remember that blood is thicker than water.

 

[BarneyBent]

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[Damon_3388]

Girls find it hard to get over guys? This is news to me. Most girls I've been involved with seemed to "switch off" their feelings and move on almost as soon as we'd broken up. I've never had a "bad" breakup either, which makes the way that some girls act like they don't even want to know you after it's ended all the more frustrating. It genuinely makes you wonder if they really even liked you in the first place.

 

[dales.girl38]

Girls find it hard to get over guys? This is news to me. Most girls I've been involved with seemed to "switch off" their feelings and move on almost as soon as we'd broken up. I've never had a "bad" breakup either, which makes the way that some girls act like they don't even want to know you after it's ended all the more frustrating. It genuinely makes you wonder if they really even liked you in the first place.

Funny, I always thought it was guys who didn't find it hard to get over girls. Trust me, we torture ourselves trying to get over guys...well, not all girls and not in all situations, but we do.

 

[nicky]

How did you find out they're together? Do you know how long it had been going on for?

As others have said, you dodged a bullet and he'll more than likely do the same to your ex best friend.