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Wow.....what have I been doing all my life.....why have I wasted 10 mins every 2nd day to shave...
I decided to grow a beard recently, and bought a random 16dollar hair trimming device. Its definitely more annoying to use than shaving but given I have to do it like once a fortnight I'm pretty pleased. The girlfriend loves the beard as well ;) It isn't perfect mind you, I have random small patches that don't grow hair. **** them.

OT: Boak is amazingful and awesome, please no BDC thread.
 
I appreciate the setiment...

But if I apoligised to my misses she would laugh
Yeah its bad you forgot to buy her something, but if you apologised and she forgave you then she really shouldn't hold it over like this, even if she makes out like she isn't angry about it. Think of it as if you cheated on your girlfriend, and then she accepted an apology and took you back, then brought it up all the time to make you buy her stuff, or just to make you feel bad whenever you had a fight etc. etc. That would not work.

No need to be angry, but reasonably you should be able to say "look I'm sorry I forgot I'll do X to make it up to you" and that be the end of it. Its important to have boundaries and protect them, but its also important to respect your partner and her boundaries.

This article is a little dramatic towards the end, but the first half should show what I mean by "boundaries" as I do believe it is a modern term that you may or may not be familiar with http://www.loveisrespect.org/dating-basics/healthy-relationships
lol...lurker my man you are a deadset champion:thumbsu:
 
The article was from a google search i did just now... the web pages title is certainly a bit lame though.

PS go **** yourself. :)

If I could **** myself I would. But as I have a woman for that end and the same one for 20 years, let me just say that the article you quoted was meaningful, but fantasy. If you smiled at all in the vicinity of another female...even if you were smiling at your missus, that may be brought up, say 5 years later, when you ask them why they bought another pair of shoes. Every thing you do is recorded and may be used against you at any time, anywhere. Forgiving is not in the female psyche
 

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BWAHAHAHAHAHA, Lurk3r I have to ask, and please don't take this the wrong way but are you married? Apologising and offering to "Make it up to you" is going to cost a **** load more than it is at the moment.
 
BWAHAHAHAHAHA, Lurk3r I have to ask, and please don't take this the wrong way but are you married? Apologising and offering to "Make it up to you" is going to cost a **** load more than it is at the moment.

Yes, admitting the crime is almost as bad as doing it, playing dumb has always been mans best defence
 
it's my default defence when dealing with the cops "I have no idea how fast I was going officer, I was watching the road not the speedo".
 
In defence of Lurk3r he and the article are assuming women are logical beings.

They are not.

Can't type anymore.

I am being watched.
 
BWAHAHAHAHAHA, Lurk3r I have to ask, and please don't take this the wrong way but are you married? Apologising and offering to "Make it up to you" is going to cost a **** load more than it is at the moment.

No, I am not married being far too young. I also don't really care about marriage all that much, it has a certain romance to it, but I don't really see what would change before and after the wedding date.

Modern psychology solves a lot of problems that you would think are just the way it is, I am not highly educated though so I don't feel too comfortable talking about it in any sort of depth. I do feel confident in two things though, firstly that many people, probably most are unhealthy and do not have the tools to deal with certain conflicts, particularly in long term relationships which are obviously more emotional than logical. And secondly, that these problems can be solved by getting very good help, and gaining the tools to deal with. I myself have seen very bad relationships, and do think mine is in a decent place at the moment, but I am trying to stay open minded to avoid the mistakes of others.

I would give an example of what I mean about boundaries and help but I don't really feel comfortable with that as I my understanding is not at a high enough level. I'm sure there are good sources of information for anyway who feels they need help - perhaps not yourself or anyone who has responded, but this is the internet so there are other people reading. These sources would largely be counsellers, as well as reputable websites, but I do not know of any that I can reccomend, though I can find out if someone wants to know.

I understand I sound a bit silly, but I'm willing to do that as the message is important to me.
 
No, I am not married being far too young. I also don't really care about marriage all that much, it has a certain romance to it, but I don't really see what would change before and after the wedding date.

Modern psychology solves a lot of problems that you would think are just the way it is, I am not highly educated though so I don't feel too comfortable talking about it in any sort of depth. I do feel confident in two things though, firstly that many people, probably most are unhealthy and do not have the tools to deal with certain conflicts, particularly in long term relationships which are obviously more emotional than logical. And secondly, that these problems can be solved by getting very good help, and gaining the tools to deal with. I myself have seen very bad relationships, and do think mine is in a decent place at the moment, but I am trying to stay open minded to avoid the mistakes of others.

I would give an example of what I mean about boundaries and help but I don't really feel comfortable with that as I my understanding is not at a high enough level. I'm sure there are good sources of information for anyway who feels they need help - perhaps not yourself or anyone who has responded, but this is the internet so there are other people reading. These sources would largely be counsellers, as well as reputable websites, but I do not know of any that I can reccomend, though I can find out if someone wants to know.

I understand I sound a bit silly, but I'm willing to do that as the message is important to me.

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I have learnt a very valuable lesson this week

Dont ever forget to buy a gift for you misses on her birthday...you will be paying for it until she has squeezed every last ounce of benifit out of it.....

I noticed our credit card down this week.....I see different more expencive hotels booked then previously discussed for our trip...I confronted my misses about it......."oh it can be my birthday gift"...sigh

Then again bang see my misses walking all happy I asked her what is up..."I just bought myself a new handbag and purse set...it can be my birthday gift from you....you know the gift you were supposed to buy me...for my bday....but forgot"

Then the real clincher the one that was like a dagger through my heart ....conversation via texts:

Misses: Heeeey babe
Me: what?
Misses: wanna go see justin timberlake when he comes
Me: No
Missus: awww come on it will make for the fact that you forgot to get me a birthday gift
Me: ........sigh...let me see the price of tickets first...
Misses: Yay I got us tickets...
Me: WTF I didnt confirm I wanted to go I said I wanted to see the price first....
Misses: I had to get them they went on sale and would have run out...thanks for my bday gift xxxxxx
Me: how much where the tickets?
Missus : ....$228 .....
Me: I guess thats alright for 2 tickets
Missus .........each.....
Me: 228 each!!!!!!!! ......OMFGOOODNESS.... WOW JUST WOW.........sell mine on ebay please......
Misses: :(

Dont forget bday gifts fellas

 
Yeah its bad you forgot to buy her something, but if you apologised and she forgave you then she really shouldn't hold it over like this ....
What fluffy bunny world do you live in? WINOCOP is screwed for the foreseeable future.
 
I don't buy my misses anything, so she doesn't buy me anything. It's brilliant.
Does this translate to other aspects of your relationship or is it a birthday gift only thing?
 
Does this translate to other aspects of your relationship or is it a birthday gift only thing?

Christmas, valentines (we will just go out for dinner), birthdays. It's perfect. Instead every now and then one of us will just buy a gift which is totally unexpected at any given time. It's kinda cool.

Been together 9 years, never have had a fight, ever, about anything. It's getting to the point where I should really propose but I don't care for the whole 'marriage' thing, just symbolic. Thankfully we have discussed it, and she doesn't care too much and all she wants is a very small ceremony with about 20 people max.
 
Christmas, valentines (we will just go out for dinner), birthdays. It's perfect. Instead every now and then one of us will just buy a gift which is totally unexpected at any given time. It's kinda cool.

Been together 9 years, never have had a fight, ever, about anything. It's getting to the point where I should really propose but I don't care for the whole 'marriage' thing, just symbolic. Thankfully we have discussed it, and she doesn't care too much and all she wants is a very small ceremony with about 20 people max.

Guest list:

Doctor Feel
His chick
Eddie Dingle
Stripper

We need 16 more of you reprobates to make this a party.
 

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Guest list:

Doctor Feel
His chick
Eddie Dingle
Stripper

We need 16 more of you reprobates to make this a party.

In comparison, I'm the best man at my mates wedding. He has paid for two car hires, a boat hire, a helicopter, two photographers, and a reception of 200+ people.

Seriously, why the **** would you waste that much money? He isn't even that well off. Thankfully I'm around to call him a dickhead for it.
 
No, I am not married being far too young. I also don't really care about marriage all that much, it has a certain romance to it, but I don't really see what would change before and after the wedding date.

Modern psychology solves a lot of problems that you would think are just the way it is, I am not highly educated though so I don't feel too comfortable talking about it in any sort of depth. I do feel confident in two things though, firstly that many people, probably most are unhealthy and do not have the tools to deal with certain conflicts, particularly in long term relationships which are obviously more emotional than logical. And secondly, that these problems can be solved by getting very good help, and gaining the tools to deal with. I myself have seen very bad relationships, and do think mine is in a decent place at the moment, but I am trying to stay open minded to avoid the mistakes of others.

I would give an example of what I mean about boundaries and help but I don't really feel comfortable with that as I my understanding is not at a high enough level. I'm sure there are good sources of information for anyway who feels they need help - perhaps not yourself or anyone who has responded, but this is the internet so there are other people reading. These sources would largely be counsellers, as well as reputable websites, but I do not know of any that I can reccomend, though I can find out if someone wants to know.

I understand I sound a bit silly, but I'm willing to do that as the message is important to me.
Yeah, good luck with that. unless you are female in which case that's harsh shit.
 
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