Computers & Internet Tinder

[Shell]

Jesus excuse me for breathing.

 

[faible]

Jesus excuse me for breathing.

You're excused

 

[Ligma]

Jesus excuse me for breathing.

I am too much of a simp to not talk to him.

 

[Shell]

I am too much of a simp to not talk to him.

Good luck, hope it works out.

 

[mr bagcroft]

always a red flag.

unmatch

Not hard to spot the validation seekers.
And there is an absolute metric fukk tonne of them on those things and social media.

 

[mr bagcroft]

Has anyone told you you look beautiful today?
wait for response or not, your choice
Oh well there's always tomorrow.

You can thank me from your 10's bed.

I prefer - do you know what would look good on you ?
Me.

 

[mr bagcroft]

I'm ******* useless on these apps. Have no issues picking up women in night clubs/bars etc.

I've had 3 conversations with 3 pretty girls (Bumble and Hinge), all going well. Pretty much all agree that we are going to meet at some stage. Ghosted by all 3.

If it wasn't such a sh*t show trying to meet someone normally I'd give up on these apps altogether. Also trying to get something going to assist getting over someone I was seeing for 6 months, who guess what, started ghosting me.

Think you’ll find you are NEVER just the one person they are talking too. You’d be one of a large line up, particular for females , though apples to males too.

 

[revo333]

Think you’ll find you are NEVER just the one person they are talking too. You’d be one of a large line up, particular for females , though apples to males too.

For Australia I think that rings true.

But I know some females in other countries who say it's very slim pickings for them, probably not hard to work out which countries they are from.

 

[Over The Post]

Crossed my mind about heading back to NZ at some stage. Unable to get a single account going to have a browse and see what my chances may be. Everything is location-based and they are smart enough to bounce TOR exit nodes in NZ.

 

[utility]

On a more serious note, I'm dealing with women in an older age bracket (if you're going to use labels, "mature" rather than "milf") and so far every one I've dated - even the just-one-date ones - are victims of abuse, some of which has left me horrified and wondering how the hell to deal with it when (if) things get intimate.

I'm so conscious of avoiding boundaries and doing anything to trigger bad memories, and so concerned with helping them feel safe with me, that my restraint and self-control has been picked up as disinterest or timidity. My last overnight was described as "just not confident" and she's right. I wasn't.

I'm not confident dealing with someone who has been traumatised and treated as an object her whole life (including recently on the dating scene). Equally they have no idea how to deal with someone who is gentle and controlled and lets them dictate the pace.

Is this something others are experiencing? Just my age group? Just being unlucky?

Dating women over 35 is like doing a tour of duty in Iraq. It's a shit show, seen enough casualties and don't want to be one myself. Too many head cases. But go right ahead if you're a thrill seeker. If you want a mature woman try meeting one at church.


(FWIW a female family member, older than me, dated a guy with head issues. Just don't get mixed up with people with mental health issues. Don't make their problem your problem.)

 

[utility]

Crossed my mind about heading back to NZ at some stage. Unable to get a single account going to have a browse and see what my chances may be. Everything is location-based and they are smart enough to bounce TOR exit nodes in NZ.

If you're looking for a mature woman post an ad in the Trading Post.

 

[Over The Post]

Mate, I'm not rich enough to date anyone under 35. Even 49 I'm going nah yeah nah a bit young (usually because they have youngish kids at home, and thats a complication I don't need right now).

 

[Taylor]

My mum thinks the best place to pick up a guy is at a funeral, because by percentages he is into commitment and has been deemed acceptable by the existing system.

She's hilarious.

 

[Over The Post]

Wow. Talk about on the rebound...

Unless she means a mourner and not the widower.

 

[Gavin Excell]

Dating women over 35 is like doing a tour of duty in Iraq. It's a sh*t show, seen enough casualties and don't want to be one myself. Too many head cases. But go right ahead if you're a thrill seeker. If you want a mature woman try meeting one at church.


(FWIW a female family member, older than me, dated a guy with head issues. Just don't get mixed up with people with mental health issues. Don't make their problem your problem.)

As an older chap who has (thankfully) not had to deal with this, wouldn't a calm, measured chap without baggage be considered highly?
Or is your point that non head case women don't frequent these sites?

 

[Shell]

Im 41 no kids no baggage. AFAIK im not a mental case.

 

[Taylor]

Wow. Talk about on the rebound...

Unless she means a mourner and not the widower.

She was joking, but she meant the poor guy who was mourning the loss of his wife.

 

[Channels]

Im 41 no kids no baggage. AFAIK im not a mental case.

That's exactly what one would say! (I think)

 

[Shell]

cats_09 you know me. Mental case or not?

 

[Over The Post]

Im 41 no kids no baggage. AFAIK im not a mental case.

Sorry, but you're a bit young and I've seen lots of your posts...

My experience is that unless you've lived a charmed life, by the time you're in your 50s you are likely to have suffered serious setbacks / calamities just in the normal course of living, and these can have long term effects. Also you're unlikely to be single unless you've been through the mill of separation / divorce, which brings its own set of problems.

It's more a case of being open and accepting that nobody is going to be perfect, least of all yourself. I consider myself quite hard done by over the last few years but jesus some of these women have been through hell, and it shows. And part of the problem is that not only do I have to be presentable enough to get a date, I then have to overcome the walls and barriers and obstacles that they have put up as a natural defence / reaction to the bullshit treatment they have suffered from arseholes before I came along.

 

[Shell]

Sorry, but you're a bit young and I've seen lots of your posts...

Damn. I am heartbroken. /brb cutting oneself

 

[Over The Post]

Please don't cut yourself, fair maiden. Go down to the garden and eat worms instead.

 

[74561347]

cats_09 you know me. Mental case or not?

You do have 170k BF posts...

 

[cats_09]

cats_09 you know me. Mental case or not?

What have I entered into and how many posts do I need to read to understand what's being discussed - I read something about being over 35 & a head case or similar

As for your question, mental case is not a word or combination is words I'd use to describe you

 

[utility]

Mate, I'm not rich enough to date anyone under 35. Even 49 I'm going nah yeah nah a bit young (usually because they have youngish kids at home, and thats a complication I don't need right now).

At 49 I'd hate to think of the quality of women you match with on apps (unless you look like Brad Pitt). Far better to meet in social circles.

Work on your finances and date younger women without kids - less likely to have psychological baggage. What's a woman in her 40s got to offer you? Maybe just buy a dog if you want a bit of companionship.