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Shell said:
Yeah I would like to know who is actually doing this- never have been approached ever.

Watch these shows like SATC and Carrie just meets/picks up a guy on a park bench, in a supermarket, like please. How does that even happen IRL.
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I worked in marine science back in the 90s and would work 21 days on and 3 days off, 3 rotations before having 2 months off. This meant I had 72 hours to get a girl or go to sea again for a dry spell. Adding to the going to sea issue, every 3 days off was in a different port in Oz or overseas, so out of need I had to be a little more forward.

The most successful way would be to stand a metre behind a girl and say to a mate "her hair is stunning". The girl would turn around, I'd apologise and say "oops, I didn't mean to say that so loud". Pedestrian crossings, bus stops, picking fruit and veg...........no place was off limits.

I'd say I am still in contact with 90% of the girls, meaning there was a friendship aspect as well as the short term need. It's a bit strange I guess, but when they come to Perth they stay with us (now married and unfortunately no kinky group things) and when we travel overseas, we stay often stay a night or two with them. St Martin in the Caribbean is this years free accommodation!
 
Shell said:
I get very tired and just down trying to think about meeting someone.

Just cannot even be bothered ****ing trying.
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I think tinder has turned the tables in the "power" of relationships.

There was a time women had loads of power with men chasing the beauty of women and women selected their mate. Now days women are chasing careers and then when they decide they are ready, the men have loads of choice. This choice leads to confusion and indecisiveness, as there may be a better hotter chick on the next swipe right. This indecisiveness is unappealing to women as biologically that is not what they need from a partner to start a family.

I look at the dating game today and smile. It is oh so easy to hook up these days but that hasn't made relationships easier, especially for women.
 
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Power Raid said:
I'd say I am still in contact with 90% of the girls, meaning there was a friendship aspect as well as the short term need. It's a bit strange I guess, but when they come to Perth they stay with us (now married and unfortunately no kinky group things) and when we travel overseas, we stay often stay a night or two with them. St Martin in the Caribbean is this years free accommodation!
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That is really cool. :thumbsu:

And LMFAO at the bold.
 
perthblue said:
Perth folk in general are quite cliquey. unless you're pissed out of your mind, then somebody from outside ur social circle trying to interact with u will be greeted with great suspicion.
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Yep. There's a very high school feel about the place even into your 20s and 30s.

'Hi, I'm Scotland from BigFooty' to a stranger is far less preferable than 'Hey this is Scotland from Bigfooty' from a common 3rd party.

This is the case everywhere but is more pronounced in Perth.
 
Power Raid said:
I worked in marine science back in the 90s
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Dips said:
I've met two, one i chatted to for a couple weeks first, so i felt reasonably comfortable. knew within a few mins of meeting her that there wouldn't ever be anything happen there, but I've made a new friend.

the other was a chick who was here for the weekend from interstate and wanted the D. that was very awkward, very little chatting before meeting, and had a mild panic attack walking to her hotel, but felt ok when i got there
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Did you **** her?
 

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perthblue said:
tinder & online dating is a black hole for average/below average blokes. unless you're willing to drop your standards significantly.
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Yep
 

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Most guys don't do the sneaky angled camera shots in soft lighting that make them look better looking and less fat like a lot of chicks do these days.

You might get more likes and nice comments online if you do that but if you meet those peeps in real life prepare yourself for some Croweater style hate.
 
Shell said:
Yeah I would like to know who is actually doing this- never have been approached ever.

Watch these shows like SATC and Carrie just meets/picks up a guy on a park bench, in a supermarket, like please. How does that even happen IRL.
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I don't know about other men, but I always get a sense of it just feeling inappropriate and out of place to just start chatting to a strange woman in a regular daytime situation. I want to do it pretty much every day (if you commute to the CBD in any state for work every day, you'll see dozens of attractive, well-dressed women around every morning and evening), but it really does somehow feel random and inappropriate and like you're somehow interfering with their life. There's fear of it turning into an awkward or embarrassing situation or looking predatory too, I guess, especially in today's climate of social "awareness". It's the comfortable and safe route, yes, but it's easier and less hassle to remain respectful and outwardly neutral and let others just go about their day.

At least in a bar or club or similar setting, if they're by themselves or with other female friends, it's somewhat implied that they're single and possibly looking, so there's less pressure and awkwardness.
 
Damon_3388 said:
I don't know about other men, but I always get a sense of it just feeling inappropriate and out of place to just start chatting to a strange woman in a regular daytime situation. I want to do it pretty much every day (if you commute to the CBD in any state for work every day, you'll see dozens of attractive, well-dressed women around every morning and evening), but it really does somehow feel random and inappropriate and like you're somehow interfering with their life. There's fear of it turning into an awkward or embarrassing situation or looking predatory too, I guess, especially in today's climate of social "awareness". It's the comfortable and safe route, yes, but it's easier and less hassle to remain respectful and outwardly neutral and let others just go about their day.

At least in a bar or club or similar setting, if they're by themselves or with other female friends, it's somewhat implied that they're single and possibly looking, so there's less pressure and awkwardness.
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99% of the time if you are attracted to them they will be taken anyway so it's not worth the effort.
 
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