Computers & Internet Tinder

[Howard Littlejohn]

Yep

Drop the apps and just say hi to women at every day places.

Girls actually like being noticed and a simple "I really like your shoes" or "your hair is stunning", with a smile, still works.

And, sexual harassment suits likely follow.
(slight exaggeration, but only slight)

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

I don't know about other men, but I always get a sense of it just feeling inappropriate and out of place to just start chatting to a strange woman in a regular daytime situation. I want to do it pretty much every day (if you commute to the CBD in any state for work every day, you'll see dozens of attractive, well-dressed women around every morning and evening), but it really does somehow feel random and inappropriate and like you're somehow interfering with their life. There's fear of it turning into an awkward or embarrassing situation or looking predatory too, I guess, especially in today's climate of social "awareness". It's the comfortable and safe route, yes, but it's easier and less hassle to remain respectful and outwardly neutral and let others just go about their day.

At least in a bar or club or similar setting, if they're by themselves or with other female friends, it's somewhat implied that they're single and possibly looking, so there's less pressure and awkwardness.

It depends how the approach is done. If it's just open and friendly then I think it's fine...e.g I've had fellas strike up conversations in shops or cafes and I didn't have a problem with it.

 

[Perth gal]

I know a couple who met at a bus top. She thought he was really wierd for starting to talk to her. They are now married and very happy.

 

[PP34]

I don't know about other men, but I always get a sense of it just feeling inappropriate and out of place to just start chatting to a strange woman in a regular daytime situation. I want to do it pretty much every day (if you commute to the CBD in any state for work every day, you'll see dozens of attractive, well-dressed women around every morning and evening), but it really does somehow feel random and inappropriate and like you're somehow interfering with their life. There's fear of it turning into an awkward or embarrassing situation or looking predatory too, I guess, especially in today's climate of social "awareness". It's the comfortable and safe route, yes, but it's easier and less hassle to remain respectful and outwardly neutral and let others just go about their day.

At least in a bar or club or similar setting, if they're by themselves or with other female friends, it's somewhat implied that they're single and possibly looking, so there's less pressure and awkwardness.

Yep.

Especially these days when people seem to only care about their own existence, and the world they live in. It can even come across as creepy or desperate when you do it at a bar these days, because so many people literally go out drinking and only stay in their own circle the entire time.

My grandparents ended up together after my grandpa apparently asked my grandma on a date on the street, but I feel like that kind of thing is from years gone by.

 

[craigos]

I know a couple who met at a bus top. She thought he was really wierd for starting to talk to her. They are now married and very happy.

Definately not the normal route to take.

 

[Perth gal]

Definately not the normal route to take.

He took a risk. It payed off . More of us should be like him. Stop hiding and just ask for what we want in life.

 

[Perth gal]

I know another couple, they met at a pub literally both trying to get through a narrow doorway at a pub, she laughed and said do u wanna dance . It was just said as a joke and she thought he knew it was a throwaway line. He said I'll be over in a minute. She thought yeah whatever . They're now married with a kid.

My cousin was overseas ....she was at a pub and none of her friends wanted to dance. She was annoyed and thought I'm not goin to sit here so she literally went to a group of guys she had never met and asked does anyone want to dance with me? One guy stepped out and said I will. Been married for 10 years now....

 

[Scotland]

Guy: 'Hi, I'm <name>, what's your name?'
Girl: *reacts with hostility*
Also girl: 'Why don't guys approach girls any more?'

 

[Perth gal]

Guy: 'Hi, I'm <name>, what's your name?'
Girl: *reacts with hostility*
Also girl: 'Why don't guys approach girls any more?'

I'm hearing you, it's also happened to me in,reverse I like a guy and have let him know on more than one occasion ie church man and another one and they aren't interested . Oh well now I know! I feel proud I have stepped up and been honest . My point is that if the people in the above stories had of sat around thinking the person might reject me they'd still be scrolling through tinder. They're not. Forget about the outcome ....practice your delivery without attachment to the outcome. One day it just may go your way.

 

[Scotland]

Huh?

I don't care if a girl isn't interested in me or whoever else, just pointing out that if you want guys to approach you it pays to be approachable.

 

[Perth gal]

Huh?

I don't care if a girl isn't interested in me or whoever else, just pointing out that if you want guys to approach you it pays to be approachable.

Oh ok.

 

[Scotland]

'You' being a general you, too.

Guys can actually be more perceptive than girls give us credit for. If a girl is giving off a 'I'll decide who is worthy of speaking to me' vibe it's pretty noticeable.

 

[Perth gal]

'You' being a general you, too.

Guys can actually be more perceptive than girls give us credit for. If a girl is giving off a 'I'll decide who is worthy of speaking to me' vibe it's pretty noticeable.

I'm the opposite. Thick as two wooden planks when it comes to understanding men,find them really confusing . I find they will act like they like you but don't really. I just don't do this at all.

 

[craigos]

If I'm interested in a girl I will stare at her until she either approaches me or calls the police. Both usually result in sex.

 

[Perth gal]

If I'm interested in a girl I will stare at her until she either approaches me or calls the police. Both usually result in sex.

Yeah ok gg...

 

[Howard Littlejohn]

If I'm interested in a girl I will stare at her until she either approaches me or calls the police. Both usually result in sex.

Getting r*ped in remand isn't the type of sex most us want. Each to their own though.

 

[craigos]

Getting r*ped in remand isn't the type of sex most us want. Each to their own though.

Don't knock it until you've tried it. Those prisoners make love like it's their last time.

 

[the_interloper]

Guy: 'Hi, I'm <name>, what's your name?'
Girl: *reacts with hostility*
Also girl: 'Why don't guys approach girls any more?'

If you're a good looking bloke this approach will no doubt work though.

 

[Shell]

K give me a line to use on guys then. Footy season is over, I now have more free time

 

[Shell]

Don't knock it until you've tried it. Those prisoners make love like it's their last time.

Thank you for that lovely visual.

 

[LicoriceAllsorts]

K give me a line to use on guys then. Footy season is over, I now have more free time

"Can I **** you?"

 

[Shell]

"Can I **** you?"

Thank you, I will write that down and put it in the bin.

 

[LicoriceAllsorts]

Thank you, I will write that down and put it in the bin.

Your first mistake

 

[pantskyle]

Thank you, I will write that down and put it in the bin.

It does work though.

 

[Shell]

Work for what? A one night stand. I'm not after a one night stand, u morons.