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Perth gal said:
Men think women are incredibly fussy . I think men are.
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Look, again, im not on Tinder but i would make the assumption ANY response is showing some degree of interest. If you werent interested you wouldnt respond.

Personally i cant understand the logic that a "Nice profile" in some way "deserves" anything more, frankly no one is obligated to do anything at all with that.
 
phantom13 said:
Personally i cant understand the logic that a "Nice profile" in some way "deserves" anything more, frankly no one is obligated to do anything at all with that.
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Yeah I think that's fair enough

I think the more poignant scenario is where you comment on perhaps a picture they had in their profile, and come up with an opening line of something to the effect of:

> "Hey I noticed a picture of you in Santorini, did you get a chance to see the sunset at Oia?"
> "yeah"
 
phantom13 said:
The situation described is quite literally a "Thanks" to a generic compliment.
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Yeah not exactly going to inspire some amazing back and forth is it.

Hard to get my head around someones opener being "I like your profile" lol, you literally have already said this by swiping right on them.
 
Poetic Justice said:
Yeah I think that's fair enough

I think the more poignant scenario is where you comment on perhaps a picture they had in their profile, and come up with an opening line of something to the effect of:

> "Hey I noticed a picture of you in Santorini, did you get a chance to see the sunset at Oia?"
> "yeah"
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Even that is a response though, and an appropriate one at that. Id still go with a follow up question to at least see if the person is just a bit shy or whatever.

Obviously you can choose to do whatever you like when someone does or doesnt respond but i cant see how just not replying yourself is really helping.

Sketi said:
Yeah not exactly going to inspire some amazing back and forth is it.

Hard to get my head around someones opener being "I like your profile" lol, you literally have already said this by swiping right on them.
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Im very very glad to be married i must say cause "i like your profile" would probably be my opening line. As would asking if could buy a girl a drink when im out (Im likely spending alot on drinks and not speaking to many women)
 

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phantom13 said:
Even that is a response though, and an appropriate one at that. Id still go with a follow up question to at least see if the person is just a bit shy or whatever.

Obviously you can choose to do whatever you like when someone does or doesnt respond but i cant see how just not replying yourself is really helping.
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I think most people would of course still keep going but I reckon that many would say that the first 'yeah' was already a bad sign
 
phantom13 said:
Even that is a response though, and an appropriate one at that. Id still go with a follow up question to at least see if the person is just a bit shy or whatever.

Obviously you can choose to do whatever you like when someone does or doesnt respond but i cant see how just not replying yourself is really helping.



Im very very glad to be married i must say cause "i like your profile" would probably be my opening line. As would asking if could buy a girl a drink when im out (Im likely spending alot on drinks and not speaking to many women)
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No actually I can see that’s actually a good thing they don’t reply.

It just means they couldn’t really be bothered to begin with.
Who needs that ?
 
Perth gal said:
No actually I can see that’s actually a good thing they don’t reply.

It just means they couldn’t really be bothered to begin with.
Who needs that ?
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The potential tragedy here is that in some instances this could just be merely a case of both parties not being all that good at the online thing - where if one just prompted a step or two further it could change things dramatically
 
Perth gal said:
Also some women are a little shyer than others.
Because of my background I’m wary of new people ie strangers . This is me in general. It takes time before people prove themselves to me and I trust them .
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Tbh I cant stand compliments.

Some (very lighthearted) insults would actually go further with me. Eg. the time I met a guy at a meet up and right away we worked out each other's footy teams (he was Hawks)- yeah not a complimentary word was spoken after that, let me tell ya :tearsofjoy:
 
Poetic Justice said:
The potential tragedy here is that in some instances this could just be merely a case of both parties not being all that good at the online thing
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This. I was about... 26 years old? Had my profile up for a year on RSVP. It was just one big let down/awkward/lousy experience tbh.
 
Shell said:
Tbh I cant stand compliments.

Some (very lighthearted) insults would actually go further with me. Eg. the time I met a guy at a meet up and right away we worked out each other's footy teams (he was Hawks)- yeah not a complimentary word was spoken after that, let me tell ya :tearsofjoy:
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"Hey, cant stand ya profile at all. and those pictures, heck me really??? so, wanna coffee? "
 
Billy ray said:
"Hey, cant stand ya profile at all. and those pictures, **** me really??? so, wanna coffee? "
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There's a whole world out there of the negging thing - but the problem is, unless you can confidently execute it, it's a baaad idea.
 

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Shell said:
As long as men can hack it back.


And also can hack me beating them at pool. fu** me I cant stand sooks who can't lose to a woman.
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See now that'd be fun... I consider myself pretty good at pool so it would bring out the competitive banter
 

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Perth gal said:
The guy has said , I like your profile or words to that effect.

I respond by saying thank you. I have responded to the comment made to me. I haven’t ignored it. Then I am waiting for him to say something that I can further respond to.
Honestly don’t get the confusion here. I’m not going to write a page response to someone I don’t even know am I?
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Sorry replied to phantom before I saw this.

Pretty much as per below, if all I got was a 'thank you' I'd probably not bother.

If it was more like 'thank you, how's your day been?'

Then I'd reply. Close ended replies generally resulted in me not bothering. If you want to engage with a person, always use an open ended reply, no matter how mundane.

owen87 said:
When I was on the apps, unless I was really bored or lacking options, yep.

If I didn't get open ended replies, I wouldn't bother.
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