what should i do?

[dee_girl9]

ok well i have this prob. and i know i can bring it here, and u guys will be able to help me.
i am in love

i like this guy right. i mean really like this guy BUT i am too afraid to tell him how i feel. i mean i would luv to tell him, but have had my heart broken to many times. So i dont know if is should risk it. And i dont know how he will react if i tell him.


HELP!!!!!!

 

[GOALden Hawk]

Mmmm...hard question. Depends if it's me or not!

How well do you know this guy? Do you think he has any idea about how you feel about him? I wouldn't worry about freaking him out - most guys love it when a girl is chasing after them - it's a boost to their ego.

You have to give us a few more details...is he a close friend? Will it muck up the friendship. Is he attached? How long have you liked him?

 

[Chris_23]

Just do it

Sorry, i'm not much help!

 

[dee_girl9]

Originally posted by GOALden Hawk
Mmmm...hard question. Depends if it's me or not!

How well do you know this guy? Do you think he has any idea about how you feel about him? I wouldn't worry about freaking him out - most guys love it when a girl is chasing after them - it's a boost to their ego.

You have to give us a few more details...is he a close friend? Will it muck up the friendship. Is he attached? How long have you liked him?

well he isnt a huge close friend. my feelings have only been going for about the last month or so. i dont know if he's got a girlfriend. You see there is a hitch, he lives interstate. AND he is an internet person. thats how i know him. GRRR this is frustrating.

 

[Gabriel]

Hi deegirl,

I think you should tell him how you feel (although maybe not that you're in love with him). Be honest and straightfoward- if he is worthy of your affection he will be sensitive to how you feel and be mature enough to discuss it with you. I think if he just turns and runs then he wasn't really worth the efoort anyway.

He's a very lucky guy anyway.


G.

 

[aggels]

tell him tell him tell him...
there's nothing worse than regret, and not knowing what could have been. What have you got to lose?

Now if someone had given me this advice months ago, things may have been a lot better...

 

[GOALden Hawk]

Tell him how you feel...but don't be too strong (ie don't say I'm madly in love with you)

Don't get drunk to work up the courage either...drinking a bottle of vodka beforehand may seem like a good idea...but you may say things you will regret.

My advice can be summed up in this quote:

It is better to have loved and lost than never loved at all

Good luck - you have to tell us how it goes now you realise!

 

[rickster]

re:

Here's some advice for free.....

Don't date using the Internet.

This person may be 46 years old, married, with a hairy back.

cheers

 

[Shinboners]

Flirt with him and see if he flirts back.

 

[DEES RULE!]

NICKI..... OF COURSE YOU SHOULD TELL HIM!

You really have nothing to lose.... i mean yeah he might not feel the same way.... but if you don't say anything than you'll never know.
Look at the poll??? everyone thinks you should tell him!

Don't be a wimp.... GO FOR IT!

GOOD LUCK!

 

[hilly]

Originally posted by GOALden Hawk

Don't get drunk to work up the courage either...

Why the hell not Goalden? Makes things a lot easier especially for a shy one like me

I think you should go for it Dee, in fact this thread has inspired my new signature (thanks aggels)

 

[Mooster7]

I thought you might be young asking a question like that. I took a gander at your profile which shows you are recently only 20. You shouldn't be worried about this kind of thing at all.

Still, you can profit from advise. Do what I do. I call it the "Artillery Area Saturation Plan." Just like with artillery, you don't need to know exactly where your targets are. It helps to have forward spotters, but not necessary.

The idea is to fire all the time and affect as many potential targets as possible. Sooner rather than later, you will get "kills." I preach this theory all the time. I was with a friend once and enroute to buy some beer. He is from the Czech Republic and I don't see him much anymore. He's married (poor b#stard) and thought I was full of it. When we arrived at the beer store, there was a cute blonde inside. He challenged me to demonstrate. With little regard for my own "heart" I asked her out. She agreed, and my friend shut his mouth thenceforth. Turned out, the girl was married, so I only went out with her once.

So that is my advice Dee. The more you ask the more you will succeed. Even the rejections wash off, and most people are at least polite about it. If this guy doesn't want to go out with you, he will have the decency to at least hork you with a nice lie such as, "I'm already seeing someone." Not bad. Also the more experience you have with both success and rejection, the less either will get you flustered. Move on, keep firing. Peace, and ask this guy today.

Mooster

 

[dee_girl9]

Re: re:

Originally posted by rickster
Here's some advice for free.....

Don't date using the Internet.

This person may be 46 years old, married, with a hairy back.

cheers

nah i am pretty sure and that he is ligit. i still dont know what to do.

 

[GOALden Hawk]

Originally posted by hilly


Why the hell not Goalden? Makes things a lot easier especially for a shy one like me

Yeah I agree it makes it easier for shy people...after all I'm very shy when it comes to stuff like this myself. But if you get drunk often things come up totally the way you didn't want them to come out and you will regret it later.

 

[Mags]

Originally posted by dee_girl9


well he isnt a huge close friend. my feelings have only been going for about the last month or so. i dont know if he's got a girlfriend. You see there is a hitch, he lives interstate. AND he is an internet person. thats how i know him. GRRR this is frustrating.

WOW its me and Freo Fan lol! But look at us now.... We are getting married lol.

Mags

 

[Gabriel]

Re: re:

Originally posted by rickster
Here's some advice for free.....

Don't date using the Internet.

This person may be 46 years old, married, with a hairy back.

cheers

I agree with the meeting people on the internet sentiment.

Nothing wrong with a hairy back though!

 

[Nic]

Go for it.

Good luck!!!

 

[Macca19]

Originally posted by dee_girl9


well he isnt a huge close friend. my feelings have only been going for about the last month or so. i dont know if he's got a girlfriend. You see there is a hitch, he lives interstate. AND he is an internet person. thats how i know him. GRRR this is frustrating.

if you like him then go for it!

Word of warning...if he lives interstate then be careful...ive been there done that, and i thought i was in love with this girl who lived in sydney only for it to end 6 months later in tears.

In my view it aint worth the hassle unless either your planning to move there, or he is planning on moving here.


I say go for it tho, what have you got to lose?

 

[mandy]

You've got to do it. I might be 10 years older than you, but I still go through that sometimes. The best thing I've learnt though, is you HAVE to give it a go. I do some wild things where my friends say "I could never do that", but at the end of the day, they usually are the ones that stay single.

There's only one question you ever have to ask yourself when you're unsure about what to do:

"What THE worst thing that can happen?"

Once you cover that, you mostly find it's not too bad, and generally always worth the chance.

Go for it, and good luck!!!

 

[Darky]

Get "happy" drunk and flash your boosies. It'd work on me.

 

[lioness]

NICKI - TELL HIM TELL HIM TELL HIM!!!!!!!!!!

Life is WAY too short to spend time sitting round wondering what to do - just get out there and do it!!!!!!!!

Mandy5, I agree with everything you said, and I am the same. I just do stuff, and most of the time it pays off. Yeah I listen to friends but most of the time choose to ignore their advice. LOL

NICKI!!!!!!!! Just GO FOR IT!!!!!!!

And.........GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!

not that you need it, but it can't hurt.......

 

[dee_girl9]

Thanxs heaps guys, but for some reason i am so unsure about this its not funny. i think i might tell him and i dont care what happens. and if i tell him and he treats me different (like in a not good way) well then i wont waste anymore time on it. i think ?

ill let ya all know how it goes. (if its a happy outcome)

 

[Mr Ripper]

Good luck, Dee. Hope it goes grousely for you.

 

[Darky]

Originally posted by dee_girl9
Thanxs heaps guys, but for some reason i am so unsure about this its not funny. i think i might tell him and i dont care what happens. and if i tell him and he treats me different (like in a not good way) well then i wont waste anymore time on it. i think ?

ill let ya all know how it goes. (if its a happy outcome)

Good luck babe! (and don't forget the boosies)

 

[dee_girl9]

Originally posted by Darky


Good luck babe! (and don't forget the boosies)

Darky - ill be telling him over the net. so i dont think he will be able to see them. LOL