What would you do

[Jab]

25 posts in and no one has asked for pics? Seriously? How can you give good advice?




My advice is to bang her. And post pics.

 

[BALKAN]

Did you swipe right?

 

[Yellow Feathers]

If people listened to my advice their lives would seriously be so much better.

I'm not trying to be funny. It's the best advice. Everyone else is giving soft-**** replies, which is no solution.

My advice is golden.

1. She's on Tinder - so she's open to swinging to a new tree asap and dump your mate, shes out there, available. So bang her. Get a kick out of life.

2. Or - just mind your own business and let the inevitable happen. You're not saving anyone by saying anything. You're not earning reward points.

Do you even have any mates?

You've forgotten one vital aspect of the whole thing.

He has to tell his mate.

 

[The Dice Man]

Tell him.

 

[Catfish Alley]

 

[PaddyO]

Everyone I know who is under 25 has Tinder, whether they're in a rship or not. So meh.

 

[Dan Moody]

heck that.
Tell your mate, whether you're sitting there randomly having a beer and scrolling on Tinder and casually exclaim "sh1t mate, what's this?" Let him see the screen shot for himself on your phone.
How many of us still talk to mates ex-girlfriends as opposed to us that still talk to mates we've had years ago.
She deserves to be turfed out on her arse, whether she's just trolling on Tinder or not. I bet she'd sure as hell string his nuts if she discovered he was on it without her knowledge.

 

[Piss Poor]

I reckon if you ask an old person what Tinder was they would say it some sort of foot fungus.

 

[TheMightyEagles]

Saw a mates girlfriend on Tinder

They've been together for years

I don't mean "bang her"... what would you do re your mate

Have to tell him but how do I approach?

My advice is don't approach your mate. Getting involved in other people's business never ends well. If you are wrong (or even if you are right), it may drive an unnecessary wedge between them or you two.

The fact she's on Tinder doesn't look good, but there is a number of reasons that she could have ended up on Tinder (joke from her friends, accidentally reactivated it, curiosity to see how it works, leftover from a fit of rage one night etc). You probably also aren't fully aware of the status and expectations of their relationship - even if you are, these change throughout the course of a relationship.

Do you have a mutual and trustworthy female friend who could confront her about this?

 

[NSWCROW]

just ask him if he's on Tinder

 

[The Passenger]

**** her.

then have a beer and a laugh with your mate as he thanks you for saving him from a rat.

get a root and mate thinks your a legend. score one for the good guys.

 

[Silent Alarm]

Tell him.

If she's not looking for other blokes, he'll be aware of her having Tinder and he'll be like "oh yeah man, I saw and she told me, it's cool." You also end up looking a good fella for telling your mate something you should tell him. The other side is that she's trying to find someone else, and you can't let her punk him like that and he deserves to know. Or maybe it's a combination of the two and it's something to do with their personal life (which, if he's a good mate, he'll probably tell you that or he'll brush it off and pretend to be angry).

 

[TheMightyEagles]

Tell him.

If she's not looking for other blokes, he'll be aware of her having Tinder and he'll be like "oh yeah man, I saw and she told me, it's cool." You also end up looking a good fella for telling your mate something you should tell him. The other side is that she's trying to find someone else, and you can't let her punk him like that and he deserves to know. Or maybe it's a combination of the two and it's something to do with their personal life (which, if he's a good mate, he'll probably tell you that or he'll brush it off and pretend to be angry).

This would be the case for a pretty new relationship. When it's a serious long term relationship, you are lucky to breakeven with everything to lose IMO (speaking from experience here).

 

[Illinois Nazi]

I reckon if you ask an old person what Tinder was they would say it some sort of foot fungus.

I thought it was something you needed to light a fire.

 

[Big Bryza]

Saw a mates girlfriend on Tinder

They've been together for years

I don't mean "bang her"... what would you do re your mate

Have to tell him but how do I approach?

Staggering the amount of birds on there who have boyfriends.

But yes take the 2nd option. Bang her. Immediately.

 

[THRILLHO]

Seriously.....it's not your concern. Let's assume she's genuinely thinking about cheating (or finding someone new and then dump him)....she has every right as an unmarried woman to do that, as does your mate. And maybe she's in the right to dump him. Maybe she's fallen out of love. Maybe he's in the wrong, done/said something to upset her enough. Maybe he's overly possessive. Maybe the flame is gone. Etc. You don't know, and you SHOULDNT worry or concern yourself about that.

Life happens. People break up. You have to treat him like an adult and LET life happen to him. Bad stuff (like his girlfriend dumping him) is good for the soul. And maybe deep down he secretly is sick of her or wants to get rid of her but hasnt the guts. Etc.

You have to let stuff happen to people, and let them deal with it. That's not even touching on the topic of whether she's even really planning to cheat. Or maybe he's aware of it. Maybe they're into kinky threesomes and using Tinder as a way to attract the third wheel. Etc.

Agreed.

Never understood why people believe it's their job to umpire other people's relationships. Being a good friend means that you are there to pick up the pieces if she decides to cheat on him. It's not your job to protect his girlfriend from herself.

 

[craffles]

**** her right in the pussy

 

[exe ex machina]

Agreed.

Never understood why people believe it's their job to umpire other people's relationships. Being a good friend means that you are there to pick up the pieces if she decides to cheat on him. It's not your job to protect his girlfriend from herself.

This is wisdom. I hope other people in this thread re-evaluate their responses and attitudes to dilemmas like this and similar, and take on THRILLHO 's post to heart.

 

[Total_Juddshanks]

What ThrillHO said.

A very simple and effective policy to follow is never interfere with your mates' relationships, by all means give them advice if they ask for it and be there for them if it turns pear shaped, but other than that it is not your business and you should stay out of it.

Basically if you tell him, there are two possibilities - 1 is he is not that into her, and is ready to ditch her in any event, in which case telling him was pointless because they would have broken up anyway, 2 is that he is mad about her, in which case he will find an excuse to disbelieve you or excuse her, and resent you for trying to break them up. Either way, you telling him is pointless.

For what its worth, some people have been known to have their gf go on tinder to trawl for a 3-way. Now wouldn't that be an awkward conversation to have with your mate?

 

[craffles]

This is wisdom. I hope other people in this thread re-evaluate their responses and attitudes to dilemmas like this and similar, and take on THRILLHO 's post to heart.

Disagree. Should definitely **** her right in the pussy

 

[exe ex machina]

Disagree. Should definitely **** her right in the pussy

Well, like I said on page 1....there are two manly courses of action only.....1) she's fair game, take what's yours, bang her......or.....2) mind your own business. All the other people saying "tell him" are really naive and weak (sorry to use such strong words) to have that attitude, to look at life itself in that soft-**** way. It's either one extreme or the other. Nothing inbetween. That's how you live life. Learn it.

 

[Cruyff14]

People who are telling him to bang her, you should all be ashamed by your lack of morals.

 

[clogged]

Put your mate's photo on Grindr.

 

[craffles]

People who are telling him to bang her, you should all be ashamed by your lack of morals.

 

[Cruyff14]

People who post memes give away more about their intelligence than words ever could.