Health ADHD Discussions & Supporting Group Thread

[DemurePrincess]

Task after task after task, and then you go to bed and hear the click of the oven that you were preheating for dinner.

Yep! I am forever forgetting to eat bc my mind is elsewhere. I fed my child these U beaut amazing meals but after work and all that effort, I can’t be arsed sitting down eating plus I don’t. I stand to eat! Every meal. Hence why I don’t go out with people to restaurants lol

I am like a child that can never sit still. There maybe a convo going on at the table but I’m sitting with 3 people down… well in my head I am as I sit watching everybody else bar what’s going on in front on me.

And look… see how quickly I went off tangent!

 

[Chief]

finally got diagnosed ADHA, and high functioning autism, a few months ago. The Physc said he knew within 5 minutes.

I did a bit of my own research and knew i ticked all the boxes, but just did the male thing of putting it off.

on the happy pills vyvance (30mg) and slowly getting used to my brain not functioning at either top gear or in reverse. probably not good news for Chief as i now spend less time on BF when i should be working.

I curse modern medicine!

 

[MP_]

Soooo I don’t have ADHD but my 18 yr old daughter was diagnosed last year and my wife was diagnosed this year. The medication has been a game changer for both of them in terms of allowing them to function like a “normal” person but they only take it on days when they need their brain to tow the line so to speak. It’s been an interesting journey getting the diagnosis and learning about ADHD. My wife now embraces it rather than hiding all her symptoms which she had done for 40 odd years. My wife has recently done a podcast episode as part of a mental health group she is part of with my daughter about being diagnosed with adhd , it’s still being edited but if anyone wants to listen to it when it’s ready let me know and I’ll link you up.

 

[DemurePrincess]

Soooo I don’t have ADHD but my 18 yr old daughter was diagnosed last year and my wife was diagnosed this year. The medication has been a game changer for both of them in terms of allowing them to function like a “normal” person but they only take it on days when they need their brain to tow the line so to speak. It’s been an interesting journey getting the diagnosis and learning about ADHD. My wife now embraces it rather than hiding all her symptoms which she had done for 40 odd years. My wife has recently done a podcast episode as part of a mental health group she is part of with my daughter about being diagnosed with adhd , it’s still being edited but if anyone wants to listen to it when it’s ready let me know and I’ll link you up.

Would love it please! In the process of being diagnosed myself

 

[MP_]

Would love it please! In the process of being diagnosed myself

Yeah I read your post about the tasks and that is exactly like my wife haha.

 

[DemurePrincess]

Yeah I read your post about the tasks and that is exactly like my wife haha.

I always thought I was a multi-tasking machine until I realised how exhausting it was! And the older I get… I’m finding the struggle is far more apparent and I’m helpless to it which is even more frustrating bc I can’t fix the speed my brain works… or how over stimulated it gets.

I’ve even started setting timers and shit to keep me focused and on track and I am constantly talking to myself - focus focus focus!! lol

 

[MP_]

I always thought I was a multi-tasking machine until I realised how exhausting it was! And the older I get… I’m finding the struggle is far more apparent and I’m helpless to it which is even more frustrating bc I can’t fix the speed my brain works… or how over stimulated it gets.

I’ve even started setting timers and shit to keep me focused and on track and I am constantly talking to myself - focus focus focus!! lol

There’s a lot of things that my wife does that has always frustrated me but she nice the diagnosis I now understand that those things were a symptom of her adhd. The blessing being I no longer get frustrated as I now have the understanding.

 

[MWPP]

There’s a lot of things that my wife does that has always frustrated me but she nice the diagnosis I now understand that those things were a symptom of her adhd. The blessing being I no longer get frustrated as I now have the understanding.

Soooo I don’t have ADHD but my 18 yr old daughter was diagnosed last year and my wife was diagnosed this year. The medication has been a game changer for both of them in terms of allowing them to function like a “normal” person but they only take it on days when they need their brain to tow the line so to speak. It’s been an interesting journey getting the diagnosis and learning about ADHD. My wife now embraces it rather than hiding all her symptoms which she had done for 40 odd years. My wife has recently done a podcast episode as part of a mental health group she is part of with my daughter about being diagnosed with adhd , it’s still being edited but if anyone wants to listen to it when it’s ready let me know and I’ll link you up.

I would love the link too please
Mainly to try and understand the people in my life who have ADHD a little better

 

[the fly]

Some of us in here could relate to this (which dropped yesterday).

 

[MP_]

Here’s a couple of symptoms that can arise with adhd that frustrated me for 20 odd years with my wife but now I can completely understand and don’t let it get to me anymore.

Justice Sensitivity
Since we first met my wife has always had a strong sense of justice. She is very empathetic and has high morals and ethics. This is a great trait but can also lead to wanting to fight for what’s right on everything. I have walked away from many scenarios where my wife has taken it on to right a wrong. Where I might let something go my wife can’t and eats away at her until she says something. She once went back to a supermarket two weeks after I bought something as she saw I was overcharged $1 on something, she can’t let things go. This syndrome has become even more apparent with her current occupation (I won’t say as it will dox her) as she sees community and regional injustices everyday and takes them all on herself to right the wrongs. I feel she will end up burning out or breaking down at some stage as she tries to fix things with very little state and federal government help.

Hyperfocus
This trait has only become more apparent the last 5 or 6 years as her occupation has her dealing with a lot of issues meaning her mind is constantly on overdrive. Once she has become fixated on a task you could speak to her and she will not answer for five minutes or so and she will respond like she just heard it . She could also work on something for hours at a time but not even notice the time has gone by.

 

[DemurePrincess]

I only wanted to do 1 job today.. I was prepped and ready but here I am at 8.23am with 50 things on the go and it sucks! There goes my relaxing Sunday ffs

 

[Soups]

Thought this was quite a good listen.

 

[MP_]

My wife and daughter have had their podcast on ADHD released if anyone wants a listen

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

I've suspected for a few years that I have ADHD and nearly everyone who knows me very well already talks to me as if I have it. I've looked into diagnosis but it's so ****ing expensive. Instead I've started googling how to make my brain work properly, because it's so upsetting when it ****s me over.

 

[DemurePrincess]

My wife and daughter have had their podcast on ADHD released if anyone wants a listen

Brilliant. Thanks

 

[MWPP]

My wife and daughter have had their podcast on ADHD released if anyone wants a listen

Thank you for sharing. I listened to the whole thing. As someone who doesn't have ADHD but does work with people with it - it was illuminating and insightful

 

[DemurePrincess]

Thank you for sharing. I listened to the whole thing. As someone who doesn't have ADHD but does work with people with it - it was illuminating and insightful

Yay! Don’t ya think it explains me a bit? Unmedicated and scattered as all ****

 

[GremioPower]

I had forgotten about this group.

 

[GremioPower]

 

[Tadpole]

I've never been diagnosed, but from everything I've read I'm strongly starting to suspect I have ADHD. I relate to so much, it's both comforting, but also exhausting to know more about why my mind is the way it is.

I'll be 52 in September, and I've always known I was different from most everyone else. I was diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder - then called Asperger's Syndrome - back in 1994, just a few months before I turned 20. That went some way to explaining my social difficulties. I kept myself to myself, often seemed trapped in my own thoughts, and was petrified of trying to communicate with others (still am on occasion, and it seems like the nicer a person is, the more they scare the crap out of me. I generally did fairly well in school academically, but socially was a complete fail. Pathetic as it is, I've never had a true friend in my entire life. I guess I'm just too weird for anyone to cope with consistently or long term.

I know that ASDs and ADHD can be co-morbid conditions. I'm on a few ADHD pages on Facebook just to learn, and a lot of what they say resonates.

Like DP said upthread about bouncing from one task to the next - I feel like I do that too. I start doing something supposedly easy like taking my empty bowl on the sink, but on the way I see something on the counter that doesn't belong there, so I put the bowl down and go to put that away. On the way to do that, I see some dirt on the hall mirror, so I go and grab a cloth to wipe that off. And on it goes.

I always used to think ADHD inattentive was someone bouncing off the walls, and unable to sit still, and that's more often than not not me. Lately though I've read that it's not necessarily a racing body, it can also be racing thoughts. My thoughts ping pong from one subject to the next so fast some times it almost gives me whiplash. I talk to myself a lot (I sometimes say it's the only way I can get a sensible conversations). Whether I'm talking to myself or someone else, I can start a sentence knowing exactly every single word I want to say, but part way through the words just disappear and it's like I've never had a thought in my life; even though nothing else was going on in my head or distracting me at the time.

My proprioception is awful. No matter how far I think I am away from something, I always seem to find new and inventive ways to walk right into into it. Also, when I try to pick something up and hold it, rather than closing around the object, my fingers seem to prefer to push or throw it away instead; which is immensely frustrating then having to bend down and try to pick it up. Even then it can take several attempts before I can grip it and finally stand up. As a migraineur also, it’s not good for me to have my head bent down for that long.

I've said for years, ever since I was young, that I have just two speeds - flat out and stop. I either go at a task like a bull at a gate, trying to get it done as quickly as possible, or I'm completely crashed out in bed, not wanting to move from the coziness. My mum always said that she tried to teach me to cook when I was younger, but I never stayed in the kitchen long enough to learn anything, because I had no patience whatsoever, and wanted instant results. I still have very little patience when I'm trying to do anything in the kitchen, yet somehow, since 2017, almost every year I've managed to win prizes for my baking at the Royal Adelaide Show.

Apart from that, I can't really think of much I've ever been any good at, apart from running myself down. I'm a master at that. I say it to myself before other people get the opportunity, because in my diseased mind, I know they're going to say it, so I'm just getting in first.

Wow! That's the longest post I think I've ever written in my time on BigFooty. I had no idea I could be so wordy.

Apologies for the novel - and that's just what I can think of now before I head off to work. I don't expect anyone with ADHD to get all the way through reading and interpreting that wall of text, so if you made it, kudos.

 

[DemurePrincess]

I've never been diagnosed, but from everything I've read I'm strongly starting to suspect I have ADHD. I relate to so much, it's both comforting, but also exhausting to know more about why my mind is the way it is.

I'll be 52 in September, and I've always known I was different from most everyone else. I was diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder - then called Asperger's Syndrome - back in 1994, just a few months before I turned 20. That went some way to explaining my social difficulties. I kept myself to myself, often seemed trapped in my own thoughts, and was petrified of trying to communicate with others (still am on occasion, and it seems like the nicer a person is, the more they scare the crap out of me. I generally did fairly well in school academically, but socially was a complete fail. Pathetic as it is, I've never had a true friend in my entire life. I guess I'm just too weird for anyone to cope with consistently or long term.

I know that ASDs and ADHD can be co-morbid conditions. I'm on a few ADHD pages on Facebook just to learn, and a lot of what they say resonates.

Like DP said upthread about bouncing from one task to the next - I feel like I do that too. I start doing something supposedly easy like taking my empty bowl on the sink, but on the way I see something on the counter that doesn't belong there, so I put the bowl down and go to put that away. On the way to do that, I see some dirt on the hall mirror, so I go and grab a cloth to wipe that off. And on it goes.

I always used to think ADHD inattentive was someone bouncing off the walls, and unable to sit still, and that's more often than not not me. Lately though I've read that it's not necessarily a racing body, it can also be racing thoughts. My thoughts ping pong from one subject to the next so fast some times it almost gives me whiplash. I talk to myself a lot (I sometimes say it's the only way I can get a sensible conversations). Whether I'm talking to myself or someone else, I can start a sentence knowing exactly every single word I want to say, but part way through the words just disappear and it's like I've never had a thought in my life; even though nothing else was going on in my head or distracting me at the time.

My proprioception is awful. No matter how far I think I am away from something, I always seem to find new and inventive ways to walk right into into it. Also, when I try to pick something up and hold it, rather than closing around the object, my fingers seem to prefer to push or throw it away instead; which is immensely frustrating then having to bend down and try to pick it up. Even then it can take several attempts before I can grip it and finally stand up. As a migraineur also, it’s not good for me to have my head bent down for that long.

I've said for years, ever since I was young, that I have just two speeds - flat out and stop. I either go at a task like a bull at a gate, trying to get it done as quickly as possible, or I'm completely crashed out in bed, not wanting to move from the coziness. My mum always said that she tried to teach me to cook when I was younger, but I never stayed in the kitchen long enough to learn anything, because I had no patience whatsoever, and wanted instant results. I still have very little patience when I'm trying to do anything in the kitchen, yet somehow, since 2017, almost every year I've managed to win prizes for my baking at the Royal Adelaide Show.

Apart from that, I can't really think of much I've ever been any good at, apart from running myself down. I'm a master at that. I say it to myself before other people get the opportunity, because in my diseased mind, I know they're going to say it, so I'm just getting in first.

Wow! That's the longest post I think I've ever written in my time on BigFooty. I had no idea I could be so wordy.

Apologies for the novel - and that's just what I can think of now before I head off to work. I don't expect anyone with ADHD to get all the way through reading and interpreting that wall of text, so if you made it, kudos.

This is me in a nutshell lady!

And you summed ADHD up in most women perfectly!

It seems symptoms worsen with age but I know everyone of these thoughts. The constant mind race is exhausting and the running oneself down even more so.

The only thing we differ in is that growing up I was crap academically but hid that bc I was great at sport and I used humour to cover up most the awkwardness. Coupled with dyslexia, I’ve felt dumb my whole life so usually made sure I laughed at myself first so other wouldn’t!

I have lots of acquaintances but don’t hold onto friends very well bc I just don’t have the patience or the capacity to give other what they need.

I have definitely noticed that the older I get, the more I retract into my own little world and to a degree - I’m okay with that!

I can’t hold serious conversation with anyone bc I generally add humour which makes it seem I don’t really listen and most of the time if the convo doesn’t grab me… I tend to fade out or be distracted by my surroundings!

This is why I enjoy BF so much. I can have a laugh and zone out when I want too

 

[GremioPower]

Pathetic as it is, I've never had a true friend in my entire life.

It’s not pathetic. My older son was like that for a long while. It really crushed me. It was hard for me, but I always had at least someone during school. He had none. All I could do was telling him: “It gets better in college. There are more and different people, it’s easier to find a group in which we fit.”

Then, he got a person designated to help him in school. It’s his legal right as an ADHDer. Luckily, they clicked. The guy isn’t much older than he is. The relationship turned into a friendship. The downside is that he could no longer be his helper, but he needed a friend more.

 

[GremioPower]

I'm on a few ADHD pages on Facebook

Me too, as the last picture I’ve posted above shows.

It’s funny commenting, and people replying “me too”.

 

[GremioPower]

Apologies for the novel - and that's just what I can think of now before I head off to work. I don't expect anyone with ADHD to get all the way through reading and interpreting that wall of text, so if you made it, kudos.

I am reader, and it was an interesting post. Every person is different. Every ADHDer copes with the conditions differently. Yet, it’s all relatable.

 

[GremioPower]

I can’t hold serious conversation with anyone bc I generally add humour which makes it seem I don’t really listen and most of the time if the convo doesn’t grab me…

This seems very ADHDer. I do it a lot. My son does it a lot.

I need to have more patience with him, by the way. It’s look like staring at a mirror. I should be the understanding one, and yet…