All the threads about a person's appearance

[Asgardian]

IGNORE the things that are really important about women or blokes.....PERSONALITY & INTELLIGENCE

Face facts secret agents, if you are gonna marry a person, you damn well better like them, and be capable of communicating with them.

Liking and loving a person is two different things.

A marriage is not spent only in bed, you have to have options of things to do together which don't entail sex.

IMO this is the major reason for the high divorce rate, so many young adults are smitten by appearances, they dive into a relationship, only to find that when they get out of bed, they have nothing to do together, or talk about with each other. Such a marriage/relationship is doomed, life is not one big orgasm.

This isn't just a random topic I've chosen, I found out today that a young cousin of mine has just separated from her 3rd husband, she is 25 years old, with 5 young kids, and each of them has a different father.

I feel sorry for those children, and am doing all I can to help them, my cousin however is lucky to get the time of day from me. Her actions, her attitudes, her refusal to see a bloke as anything more than a penis infuriates me, but to be honest, it's probably none of my business.

Still though, if people were strong enough to use their brains, instead of their glands, that divorce rate would fall.

 

[anonymous Joe]

Originally posted by Asgardian
IGNORE the things that are really important about women or blokes.....PERSONALITY & INTELLIGENCE

Face facts secret agents, if you are gonna marry a person, you damn well better like them, and be capable of communicating with them.

Liking and loving a person is two different things.

A marriage is not spent only in bed, you have to have options of things to do together which don't entail sex.

IMO this is the major reason for the high divorce rate, so many young adults are smitten by appearances, they dive into a relationship, only to find that when they get out of bed, they have nothing to do together, or talk about with each other. Such a marriage/relationship is doomed, life is not one big orgasm.

This isn't just a random topic I've chosen, I found out today that a young cousin of mine has just separated from her 3rd husband, she is 25 years old, with 5 young kids, and each of them has a different father.

I feel sorry for those children, and am doing all I can to help them, my cousin however is lucky to get the time of day from me. Her actions, her attitudes, her refusal to see a bloke as anything more than a penis infuriates me, but to be honest, it's probably none of my business.

Still though, if people were strong enough to use their brains, instead of their glands, that divorce rate would fall.

who wants to **** an Ugly person though (besides ppl who are blind ****ed blind not blind blind)

 

[skipper kelly]

Re: Re: All the threads about a person's appearance

Originally posted by anonymous Joe
who wants to **** an Ugly person though (besides ppl who are blind ****ed blind not blind blind)

Why do you have to respond to a half decent thread with BS. Go away please.

 

[FreoDocker]

I was going to comment on how I'm scared of Eddie Jones and his weird eye, but I think I'll leave it alone.

 

[sbagman]

Well surely there has to be both physical attraction and some sort of intellectual stimulation, having things in common, etc etc. You can't downplay the physical part... it seems necessary to be attracted to your partner, and a good sex life to me is a crucial part of a relationship... but yeah, you need all the other stuff as well. To be honest, it would be a refreshing change to meet a woman with intelligence. Most women I meet can't seem to hold a conversation about anything worth talking about. But enough of my whinging.

I think the physical thing gets linked up with the personality thing anyway. It's amazing how a beautiful girl isn't so beautiful when you realise she has the personality of a boiled potato, and how a plain looking girl can appear gorgeous when you realise what a nice person she is.

A woman doesn't have to be a carbon copy of a playboy model to be attractive.

Sbagman.

 

[raskolnikov]

Originally posted by sbagman

I think the physical thing gets linked up with the personality thing anyway. It's amazing how a beautiful girl isn't so beautiful when you realise the has the personality of a boiled potato, and how a plain looking girl can appear gorgeous when you realise what a nice person she is.

A woman doesn't have to be a carbon copy of a playboy model to be attractive.

Sbagman.

Damn right Sbagman. I know some people who going simply by looks to most people would be considered drop-dead gorgeous, yet because of their personality to me they are ugly. And vice versa too.

 

[sbagman]

Originally posted by DonFan
Damn right Sbagman.

Of course I'm right. On a side note, are you really back in the (former) USSR? If so.... bastard!

 

[Zeke]

Originally posted by Asgardian
IGNORE the things that are really important about women or blokes.....PERSONALITY & INTELLIGENCE

Face facts secret agents, if you are gonna marry a person, you damn well better like them, and be capable of communicating with them.

Liking and loving a person is two different things.

A marriage is not spent only in bed, you have to have options of things to do together which don't entail sex.

IMO this is the major reason for the high divorce rate, so many young adults are smitten by appearances, they dive into a relationship, only to find that when they get out of bed, they have nothing to do together, or talk about with each other. Such a marriage/relationship is doomed, life is not one big orgasm.

This isn't just a random topic I've chosen, I found out today that a young cousin of mine has just separated from her 3rd husband, she is 25 years old, with 5 young kids, and each of them has a different father.

I feel sorry for those children, and am doing all I can to help them, my cousin however is lucky to get the time of day from me. Her actions, her attitudes, her refusal to see a bloke as anything more than a penis infuriates me, but to be honest, it's probably none of my business.

Still though, if people were strong enough to use their brains, instead of their glands, that divorce rate would fall.

Obivously written by an ugly person.

 

[MUMBLES]

errrr

This isn't just a random topic I've chosen, I found out today that a young cousin of mine has just separated from her 3rd husband, she is 25 years old, with 5 young kids, and each of them has a different father.

I think she has a big problem with contraception it is a tough lesson to learn also some people get pregga's too easy ...........
i had the snip for this reason

 

[Captain Sensible]

Re: Re: All the threads about a person's appearance

Originally posted by Zeke
Obivously written by an ugly person.

Obviously written by a stupid, ugly person.


Ugly is different things to different people.

 

[raskolnikov]

Originally posted by sbagman
On a side note, are you really back in the (former) USSR? If so.... bastard!

Nah - only in my dreams

 

[superstar]

Re: Re: All the threads about a person's appearance

Originally posted by MUMBLES
errrr

This isn't just a random topic I've chosen, I found out today that a young cousin of mine has just separated from her 3rd husband, she is 25 years old, with 5 young kids, and each of them has a different father.

I think she has a big problem with contraception it is a tough lesson to learn also some people get pregga's too easy ...........
i had the snip for this reason

Sounds like a real ****

 

[Asgardian]

Re: Re: All the threads about a person's appearance

Originally posted by Zeke
Obivously written by an ugly person.

OUCH, you've really wounded me now house painter

 

[lioness]

I think Asgardian has a really good point. I find a lot of times that ALL my old friends are now married or getting married and they look at me and my man and say 'well.........' but that's the thing, we'd rather be REALLY sure that what we have (and he is absolutely gorgeous but it's his personality that I am really attracted to) is going to last as long as we want it to. It's not saying that either of us DOESN'T want to commit, it's just a matter of waiting till it feels right. And if that doesn't happen for a decade, it doesn't make it wrong. I think we have enough common interests to make it work, but there's no hurry.

 

[anonymous Joe]

Re: Re: Re: All the threads about a person's appearance

Originally posted by skipper kelly
Why do you have to respond to a half decent thread with BS. Go away please.

Lol it was a joke Jesus H christ

 

[Captain Sensible]

Re: Re: Re: All the threads about a person's appearance

Originally posted by Asgardian
OUCH, you've really wounded me now house painter

Dont knock house painters As. I come from a long line of them and have even been known to turn to it myself in desperate financial times.

 

[Nic]

I've never really cared what someone's looked like. It's not a priority.

 

[Asgardian]

Re: Re: Re: Re: All the threads about a person's appearance

Originally posted by localyokel
Dont knock house painters As. I come from a long line of them and have even been known to turn to it myself in desperate financial times.

Calm down Yokel who is Local, me old matey

It's all a matter of situation, post and context

My long lost buddy, Zeke, considers himself to be an "artiste", taking into account what he does, grafitti, I consider him to be no more artistic than a house painter, truly a worthy occupation to be sure, but not one which will have an example of work hung in the Louvre.

 

[Stevo]

Originally posted by Asgardian
IGNORE the things that are really important about women or blokes.....PERSONALITY & INTELLIGENCE

Face facts secret agents, if you are gonna marry a person, you damn well better like them, and be capable of communicating with them.

Liking and loving a person is two different things.

A marriage is not spent only in bed, you have to have options of things to do together which don't entail sex.

IMO this is the major reason for the high divorce rate, so many young adults are smitten by appearances, they dive into a relationship, only to find that when they get out of bed, they have nothing to do together, or talk about with each other. Such a marriage/relationship is doomed, life is not one big orgasm.

This isn't just a random topic I've chosen, I found out today that a young cousin of mine has just separated from her 3rd husband, she is 25 years old, with 5 young kids, and each of them has a different father.

I feel sorry for those children, and am doing all I can to help them, my cousin however is lucky to get the time of day from me. Her actions, her attitudes, her refusal to see a bloke as anything more than a penis infuriates me, but to be honest, it's probably none of my business.

Still though, if people were strong enough to use their brains, instead of their glands, that divorce rate would fall.

Very true Asgardian, but the mature people are fighting a losing battle against the mass media.

That being said, I love gorgeous girls in various states of undress on billboards!

 

[EYeBaLL]

hmm.... i feel that to be with someone u must be able to find them attractive..... they must be good looking in 'your' eyes...

this is where things such as personality come into play.... i have known some hot girls that i found myself looking and saying..."nah shes got bad teeth or fat legs etc etc" all because they have a shocking personality....

if this has nothin to do with what you ppl r talkin about.... too bad

 

[Grendel]

Originally posted by lioness22
(but it's his personality that I am really attracted to) is going to last as long as we want it to.

Never heard it called that before..
sorry Jacs

Back on topic though.. looks.. yea important to an extent. But I guess at worst you could always just switch the light off.

I was quite often asked to switch the light off.

 

[Angry Dragon]

Re: Re: All the threads about a person's appearance

Originally posted by Zeke
Obivously written by an ugly person.

Ha! I'd say that marriage itself is for ugly people, those who go out and cannot pick someone up. They may as well find each other and settle, no one else would want them. Dont beleive me? Check out the butt ugly heads in the marriage pics in the paper.

 

[Cyclops]

Originally posted by Asgardian
Ignorethe things that are really important about women or blokes.....PERSONALITY & INTELLIGENCE

Face facts secret agents, if you are gonna marry a person, you damn well better like them, and be capable of communicating with them.

Liking and loving a person is two different things.

A marriage is not spent only in bed, you have to have options of things to do together which don't entail sex.

Very true, old boy very true. However who would start a sexual relationship with someone they weren't attracted to?

Its the marriage paradox-you can't start a fire without a spark, but the qualities that gets you interested in someone as a sexual partner aren't the qualities that build enduring relationships.

Originally posted by Asgardian
IMO this is the major reason for the high divorce rate, so many young adults are smitten by appearances, they dive into a relationship, only to find that when they get out of bed, they have nothing to do together, or talk about with each other. Such a marriage/relationship is doomed, life is not one big orgasm.

It is often because they have their selection criteria skewed toward sexual factors and haven't paid enough attention to the rest of the person.

I think laziness and naivete are also factors. People want relationships to work without working on them, so they pretend that they're perfect because they don't wantn to face up to problems, their own or others.

My married siblings all had marriage ed (=counselling) before they tied the knot, not becuase they were fighting, but so they'd know what to do when they did fight. You can't live with someone years on end, same bed, same house, same habits, and not develop friction or crappy little annoyances about something.

Originally posted by Asgardian
This isn't just a random topic I've chosen, I found out today that a young cousin of mine has just separated from her 3rd husband, she is 25 years old, with 5 young kids, and each of them has a different father.

I feel sorry for those children, and am doing all I can to help them, my cousin however is lucky to get the time of day from me. Her actions, her attitudes, her refusal to see a bloke as anything more than a penis infuriates me, but to be honest, it's probably none of my business.

Your family is your business. Those kids need to see a loyal bloke who's in their lives because he loves them, not because he's rooting their mum. Good on you, you're dong the right thing.

I feel sorry for the kids too, they deserve a stable family life. Your cousin sounds a bit shallow, or maybe a bit dumb. It'd be better for her and her kids if she was could take your advice.

The 5 fathers also share some responsibility. None of them have shown much staying power by the looks of things. Maybe they have the same attitude as her-she was just there for sex, nothing else. Plenty of blokes think of women that way, but when a woman has that attitude she doesn't often get to walk away from the consequences.

Originally posted by Asgardian
Still though, if people were strong enough to use their brains, instead of their glands, that divorce rate would fall.

And the marriage rate, and certainly the birth rate. People are very picky these days, its as much about their unreasonably high expectations as their stupidity. At least dumb people get out there and have kids, so there'll be someone around to look after us all in 50 years.

Originally posted by lioness22
I think Asgardian has a really good point. I find a lot of times that ALL my old friends are now married or getting married and they look at me and my man and say 'well.........' but that's the thing, we'd rather be REALLY sure that what we have (and he is absolutely gorgeous but it's his personality that I am really attracted to) is going to last as long as we want it to. It's not saying that either of us DOESN'T want to commit, it's just a matter of waiting till it feels right. And if that doesn't happen for a decade, it doesn't make it wrong. I think we have enough common interests to make it work, but there's no hurry.

Its good that you are taking your time-if you are learning to live together, how to agree and how to disagree, and whether you can stand the test of time, then you are at least giving yourself a chance.

Marriage isn't something that makes a relationship better, its a sign that the relationship is worth making permanent. Don't sign the paper unless its already true.

 

[marcuz]

Very true, old boy very true. However who would start a sexual relationship with someone they weren't attracted to?

Its the marriage paradox-you can't start a fire without a spark, but the qualities that gets you interested in someone as a sexual partner aren't the qualities that build enduring relationships.

Agree with that. Something needs to attract you to this person first. If you dont find them attractive it's highlt unlikely a relationship on a sexual level is going to eventuate unless your bloody desperate to get some.

As much as i love bec's(gf) personality and her happy go lucky attitude it had stuff all to do with why i was attracted to her in the first place. Those crystal blue eyes and the way those tight jeans hugged her fine arse had more to do with it.

 

[lioness]

Originally posted by Grendel
Never heard it called that before..
sorry Jacs

Ha. Ha. Ha.