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got myself into another sticky situation and looking for unbiased views.

friend 1 offers me two tickets to event x that they got 'through their dad's work' because they can no longer go as they are going on holiday. friend 1 has bragged previously about getting to go to certain things (grand prix, tennis, spring racing carnival etc) for free because their dad's work can get tickets. no price or anything is discussed in relation to these tickets and i assume the tickets are being provided to me for free.

i then ask friend 2 if they want to go to event x with me as i have got some free tickets. we attend event have a good time, but definitely would not have paid the tickets face value to go (~$300 each). friend 2 probably has less than $1.5k cash.

2 weeks go by and now i get hit up for the money by friend 1 and am provided with friend 1's father's bank details to transfer the money to.

obviously there are a tonne of options here, what would you do in this situation.
 
From watching countless hours of Seinfeld you have a few options: Option 1, offer to pay half the sum of the tickets with friend 1 paying the other half as a compromise for the misunderstanding. Option 2, offer to take friend out for a meal a gesture of goodwill over the misunderstanding. Option 3 offer to be friend 1's butler.
 

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DrVanNostrand said:
Need transcript of the conversation that took place during the handing over of the tickets.
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Agree. OP hasn't provided enough details of how the tickets were first offered.

Bluelegs said:
From watching countless hours of Seinfeld you have a few options: Option 1, offer to pay half the sum of the tickets with friend 1 paying the other half as a compromise for the misunderstanding. Option 2, offer to take friend out for a meal a gesture of goodwill over the misunderstanding. Option 3 offer to be friend 1's butler.
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Completely agree with Bluelegs. Once adequate details are provided by the OP, there will be without doubt a Seinfeldian solution to the problem.
 
Bluelegs said:
From watching countless hours of Seinfeld you have a few options: Option 1, offer to pay half the sum of the tickets with friend 1 paying the other half as a compromise for the misunderstanding. Option 2, offer to take friend out for a meal a gesture of goodwill over the misunderstanding. Option 3 offer to be friend 1's butler.
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Or he didnt do the "post thank you call" and now friend is pissed. (Lol, and that ep was on today!) :D
 
If there was no discussion of you paying for the tickets beforehand then there's no question you don't owe him shit.
 
How do you know how much money friend 2 has?

Anyway. Tell friend 1 to go **** himself. If he didn't mention that he was selling you the tickets then they were a gift. Tell him you assumed the tickets were given to him free so there was nothing to reimburse him for. And that if you knew it was cost price you would have bought a cheaper one on ebay.

And stop hanging out with tightarse w***ers.
 
DrVanNostrand said:
Need transcript of the conversation that took place during the handing over of the tickets.
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conversation happened in person so i can't remember exactly how it went down.

Basically something along the lines of 'my dad got me some tickets through work to go to x, but now i can't go because i'm going to away on tuesday, you can have them if you want'.

i then said 'yeah, sounds good'. friend one said 'i'll send you through the tickets later tonight'. tickets were emailed to me. this was 2 days before friend 1 left for their trip and nothing more was said. after the event i messaged friend 1 on fb and thanked for the tickets. they replied 'no problem, glad u had fun'.

friend 1 got back from their trip the other day and after some small talk asked me to send the money to their dad.
 
checkraiseulite said:
conversation happened in person so i can't remember exactly how it went down.

Basically something along the lines of 'my dad got me some tickets through work to go to x, but now i can't go because i'm going to away on tuesday, you can have them if you want'.

i then said 'yeah, sounds good'. friend one said 'i'll send you through the tickets later tonight'. tickets were emailed to me. this was 2 days before friend 1 left for their trip and nothing more was said. after the event i messaged friend 1 on fb and thanked for the tickets. they replied 'no problem, glad u had fun'.

friend 1 got back from their trip the other day and after some small talk asked me to send the money to their dad.
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Sounds like the Dad suddenly decided he wants to get paid?
Tell him to get stuffed either way.
 
checkraiseulite said:
conversation happened in person so i can't remember exactly how it went down.

Basically something along the lines of 'my dad got me some tickets through work to go to x, but now i can't go because i'm going to away on tuesday, you can have them if you want'.

i then said 'yeah, sounds good'. friend one said 'i'll send you through the tickets later tonight'. tickets were emailed to me. this was 2 days before friend 1 left for their trip and nothing more was said. after the event i messaged friend 1 on fb and thanked for the tickets. they replied 'no problem, glad u had fun'.

friend 1 got back from their trip the other day and after some small talk asked me to send the money to their dad.
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There's the clincher, **** him.

The next day thank-you, bravo :thumbsu: Agree with the thought that it sounds like the dad suddenly realised he should have sold them.
 

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He gave them away no doubt, douchy move by him now bringing up the cost

Personally I'd take a shocked approach and be all like wtf to gauge a reaction from him, see how serious he is about the money. With his dad being the third party it's a shitty spot for him as well

If it's serious enough for them, I'd probably pay up. You are in no way at fault here but we aren't in claims court we are in the real world where shit happens

I'd def make it clear to him hes ****ed you around though. You're probably responsible for your mate but I'd talk to him first honestly and see if he'd chip in or tell you to gtfo
 
Actually the first thing I'd be asking is either how much did he pay for them or doesn't he get them for free? See what reaction that gets

Chances are his oldman has asked him to sell them though and is expecting to be paid. Not sure how reasonable he is but something could be worked out if you explain it's a misunderstanding
 
Say sure no probs

You could o this :p

Offer to buy 2 tickets , to upcoming event your friend would be interested in going to.

Print them off , give them to him.

Then day of event , report tickets as lost. :D

Reprint new issue/barcode tickets

Be uncontactable day of event

Then go to event with another mate with the new tickets.

Ask other mate next day how much he enjoyed event.
 
As no cost or potential cost was mentioned at the point of exchange then you are not required to pay him anything. You cannot retroactively add costs to things that were given freely.
 
Poseidon said:
If there was no discussion of you paying for the tickets beforehand then there's no question you don't owe him shit.
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Bingo.

Prick of a move to insinuate giving you the tickets for nothing then to ask for money for them 2 weeks later.
 

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checkraiseulite said:
got myself into another sticky situation and looking for unbiased views.

friend 1 offers me two tickets to event x that they got 'through their dad's work' because they can no longer go as they are going on holiday. friend 1 has bragged previously about getting to go to certain things (grand prix, tennis, spring racing carnival etc) for free because their dad's work can get tickets. no price or anything is discussed in relation to these tickets and i assume the tickets are being provided to me for free.

i then ask friend 2 if they want to go to event x with me as i have got some free tickets. we attend event have a good time, but definitely would not have paid the tickets face value to go (~$300 each). friend 2 probably has less than $1.5k cash.

2 weeks go by and now i get hit up for the money by friend 1 and am provided with friend 1's father's bank details to transfer the money to.

obviously there are a tonne of options here, what would you do in this situation.
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Its rude to ask for money unless you were asked if you wanted buy these tickets

Politely decline the tickets and move on
 
Sanders said:
Politely decline the tickets and move on
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He has already used them. he needs to say that no money was mentioned and from previous circumstances he was under the clear impression his Dad always got the tickets for free so assumed he was given them for free. And that if there was a price he wouldn't have used them.

And if his mate doesn't cop that on the chin and move on then it's new friend time.
 

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