Asking out regular customers at work?

[ubolt]

Is there any thought that this is an okay practice?

i'm not talking about just someone that comes in at times and you say hello, i'm talking more about a customer you've gotten to know, you know a lot about them (and you know they're single too), you know their name, you know where they work, etc. etc. you know a lot about them anyway.

i've got this girl that comes in to work quite often, we have a good old yarn, we know each other, and i think she's absolutely beautiful (i often say to my work mates that she's the love of my life - not that i am that stupid), she even gave me a kiss on Valentines Day. And i have been throwing up the idea of asking her out - even if it is just out to coffee - or nothing special.

If she says no it's no big deal, and i doubt i'll lose any sleep over it, but i'm not quite sure if it is an okay practice, or the way to go about it, or whether it should be done at all.

Has anyone got any ideas on this subject? or whether it is okay? or if anyone has ever done it before?

 

[Rick18]

I would do it if I had the balls

I don't see a problem with it though, not like it's a fellow staff member, so I fail to see any consequences (apart from her saying no of course).

 

[scotty13]

Do it, bone her, brag to the other guys at work, realise they all have balls and have already been there, then wait for the awkward silence the next time she comes in.

 

[rocker_oz33]

you should ask her out for coffee to start the ball rolling

 

[LondonCalling]

All about risk prevention, lad.

Q1) Worst situation possible occurs. Are you able to avoid this girl from here on in, whilst still doing your job properly?

Q2) Are you able to come up with a decent reason why you two should hang out outside of working hours? (or at the very least, bullshit your way into making her think it's a decent reason)?

Whilst I concur with the "get a set" notion, be mindful that if you have the wrong idea, and all of a sudden, the situation gets awkward, your boss gets cut that he's a lost a customer or his employee is distracted from doing his job properly, it falls back on you. Not to mention, there's a lot of drama queen chicks out there who are more than happy to try and make something out of nothing. Seen it happen before. "Wanna have a drink sometime?" suddenly is made out to be "He wouldn't take no for an answer, he's asked me like every day for months now! I think he's stalking me!" to anyone who will listen.

Your other potential problem is whether or not this girl has any mutual female friends with yourself. Shit idea to be seen as damaged goods.

Having said all that - be aware of what you potentially could lose, be aware of what you'd actually say to her, be aware of how much chance you've realistically got.

If you've realistically looked at all 3, rather than just thought about rooting her, you're already 3/4 of the way there.

Good luck.

 

[Barry Zuckercorn]

It'd be great if you worked at Maccas cause you could just flop your chop out on the bench and say "One Big Mac coming right up"!

 

[Groove]

Just do it mate, cos if you dont someone else will and you'l end up regretting it.

 

[Ljp86]

Is there any thought that this is an okay practice?

i'm not talking about just someone that comes in at times and you say hello, i'm talking more about a customer you've gotten to know, you know a lot about them (and you know they're single too), you know their name, you know where they work, etc. etc. you know a lot about them anyway.

i've got this girl that comes in to work quite often, we have a good old yarn, we know each other, and i think she's absolutely beautiful (i often say to my work mates that she's the love of my life - not that i am that stupid), she even gave me a kiss on Valentines Day. And i have been throwing up the idea of asking her out - even if it is just out to coffee - or nothing special.

If she says no it's no big deal, and i doubt i'll lose any sleep over it, but i'm not quite sure if it is an okay practice, or the way to go about it, or whether it should be done at all.

Has anyone got any ideas on this subject? or whether it is okay? or if anyone has ever done it before?

Give her out caught behind mate.

 

[ubolt]

Give her out caught behind mate.

you reckon i should fire her out do you?

 

[ubolt]

All about risk prevention, lad.

Q1) Worst situation possible occurs. Are you able to avoid this girl from here on in, whilst still doing your job properly?

Q2) Are you able to come up with a decent reason why you two should hang out outside of working hours? (or at the very least, bullshit your way into making her think it's a decent reason)?

Whilst I concur with the "get a set" notion, be mindful that if you have the wrong idea, and all of a sudden, the situation gets awkward, your boss gets cut that he's a lost a customer or his employee is distracted from doing his job properly, it falls back on you. Not to mention, there's a lot of drama queen chicks out there who are more than happy to try and make something out of nothing. Seen it happen before. "Wanna have a drink sometime?" suddenly is made out to be "He wouldn't take no for an answer, he's asked me like every day for months now! I think he's stalking me!" to anyone who will listen.

Your other potential problem is whether or not this girl has any mutual female friends with yourself. Shit idea to be seen as damaged goods.

Having said all that - be aware of what you potentially could lose, be aware of what you'd actually say to her, be aware of how much chance you've realistically got.

If you've realistically looked at all 3, rather than just thought about rooting her, you're already 3/4 of the way there.

Good luck.

thanks for the insight.

it's easy in any situation to say "get a set"/"grow a pair" etc. etc. it's a tiny bit different in this case.

if she says no, i'm able to avoid her, i may not have to see her, i can do my job properly, there won't be any sleep lost on my behalf, and she may not come in as often if i do ask her, so it's no dramas either way in that regard.

There won't be any damage done in any regard really - it's just a question of whether she wants to or not, if she says yes, it may last half-an-hour it may go on, who knows.

There is only one way to find out...and i SHOULD be seeing her Monday or at the latest Tuesday. Whether i get a chance to ask her out is a different story though.

we'll see

 

[LondonCalling]

thanks for the insight.

it's easy in any situation to say "get a set"/"grow a pair" etc. etc. it's a tiny bit different in this case.

if she says no, i'm able to avoid her, i may not have to see her, i can do my job properly, there won't be any sleep lost on my behalf, and she may not come in as often if i do ask her, so it's no dramas either way in that regard.

There won't be any damage done in any regard really - it's just a question of whether she wants to or not, if she says yes, it may last half-an-hour it may go on, who knows.

There is only one way to find out...and i SHOULD be seeing her Monday or at the latest Tuesday. Whether i get a chance to ask her out is a different story though.

we'll see

No need to ask formally, just imply it. I'm sure she'd be smart enough to work out what's going on. Casual pretences, "wanna have a drink later on tonight/this week?", the bigger you make it out to be in your mind, the harder it'll be.

 

[CAS79]

thanks for the insight.

it's easy in any situation to say "get a set"/"grow a pair" etc. etc. it's a tiny bit different in this case.

if she says no, i'm able to avoid her, i may not have to see her, i can do my job properly, there won't be any sleep lost on my behalf, and she may not come in as often if i do ask her, so it's no dramas either way in that regard.

There won't be any damage done in any regard really - it's just a question of whether she wants to or not, if she says yes, it may last half-an-hour it may go on, who knows.

There is only one way to find out...and i SHOULD be seeing her Monday or at the latest Tuesday. Whether i get a chance to ask her out is a different story though.

we'll see

As you’ve indicated you won't be effecting your job by doing so find a way my friend, as the ads say for the NT.

You'll never ever know if you never never go, you don’t want to ask yourself the question in 5 years time.... and this is far more important than the desert.

 

[Dan Moody]

All about risk prevention, lad.

Q1) Worst situation possible occurs. Are you able to avoid this girl from here on in, whilst still doing your job properly?

Q2) Are you able to come up with a decent reason why you two should hang out outside of working hours? (or at the very least, bullshit your way into making her think it's a decent reason)?

Whilst I concur with the "get a set" notion, be mindful that if you have the wrong idea, and all of a sudden, the situation gets awkward, your boss gets cut that he's a lost a customer or his employee is distracted from doing his job properly, it falls back on you. Not to mention, there's a lot of drama queen chicks out there who are more than happy to try and make something out of nothing. Seen it happen before. "Wanna have a drink sometime?" suddenly is made out to be "He wouldn't take no for an answer, he's asked me like every day for months now! I think he's stalking me!" to anyone who will listen.

Your other potential problem is whether or not this girl has any mutual female friends with yourself. Shit idea to be seen as damaged goods.

Having said all that - be aware of what you potentially could lose, be aware of what you'd actually say to her, be aware of how much chance you've realistically got.

If you've realistically looked at all 3, rather than just thought about rooting her, you're already 3/4 of the way there.

Good luck.

good post

It'd be great if you worked at Maccas cause you could just flop your chop out on the bench and say "One Big Mac coming right up"!

some more magic, do you have a factory that turns out these gems

 

[Ljp86]

you reckon i should fire her out do you?

Third man into the gully I reckon.

 

[GPW1]

try and find out where she goes out on the weekend for a drink (if she does this). easy to do, ask her what she did on the weekend/doing this upcoming weekend. when you find out just so "oh yeah i go there evey now and again". leave it a couple weeks and go to that pub/club/whatever and hope to bump into her.

if all goes to plan, she'll of had a few and be more willing to have a bit of a chat. then you can work your magic and suggest you should catch up for a coffee next week or some shit.

ps. im not suggesting taking advantage of a drunk women if thats what you thinking

 

[Jafa]

I had an affair with one of my customers for 4 years. It was no problem at all.






Cept for the whole cheating bit.

 

[ubolt]

well, did it today: didn't quite to any sort of plan, but oh well

these "long lost boyfriends" are a worry

she told me she had a boyfriend and had been seeing him for a couple of months - which is odd because she has told me in the past she was single.

oh well

 

[LondonCalling]

well, did it today: didn't quite to any sort of plan, but oh well

these "long lost boyfriends" are a worry

she told me she had a boyfriend and had been seeing him for a couple of months - which is odd because she has told me in the past she was single.

oh well

Tough break, fellow

If she's bullshitting, then there was nothing there anyway, other than further motivation to pick her up at a club 9 months later, ____ her, and never speak to her again.

Swings and roundabouts.

 

[ubolt]

such is life

we move on

 

[treeman]

well, did it today: didn't quite to any sort of plan, but oh well

these "long lost boyfriends" are a worry

she told me she had a boyfriend and had been seeing him for a couple of months - which is odd because she has told me in the past she was single.

oh well

Damn that sucks man! Maybe you misunderstood her or something in regards to the boyfriend department. Anyway maybe she'll come your way eventually and tell you that they broke up or something and then you can just ask her out again...

You should maybe Shawshank her.

-Ben

 

[LondonCalling]

Damn that sucks man! Maybe you misunderstood her or something in regards to the boyfriend department. Anyway maybe she'll come your way eventually and tell you that they broke up or something and then you can just ask her out again...

You should maybe Shawshank her.

-Ben

Pfff, Deliverance is where it's at.

 

[GETSOMENUTS]

Pfff, Deliverance is where it's at.

squeel like a pig!!! hahahahahahaha