Arts & Humanities Death: What, and how often, do you think about it?

[Engimal]

It'll happen so quickly you won't even know it. Why fear something you'll never experience? You'll probably never have to face Brett Lee. You're not scared of that. Death is so removed from life that you won't know you're not thinking, so why feel uneasy?

I fear the nothingness that I'll be for eternity.

 

[Silent Alarm]

I fear the nothingness that I'll be for eternity.

Do you think about how scary the nothingness was before you lived? Of course not. Pre-life and death probably feel the same: so why worry?

 

[Bacon Warrior]

A friend of mine died in a car crash the other day at the age of 19. Even though she wasn't a close friend, it still scared me as to how much of a prick life can be and how little I've accomplished in my life so far.

 

[Engimal]

Do you think about how scary the nothingness was before you lived? Of course not. Pre-life and death probably feel the same: so why worry?

Because in pre-life, I hadn't felt life. Now that I have, I don't want to lose it.
With all due respect, I just don't think you understand.


Sent from beyond the grave (Tapatalk)

 

[proka123]

I think it's more the accumulation of years that people fear and that I do as well occasionally, comparing the years you have left to the ones that have already passed you by.

For example, think about a moment of time that was say, 2 years ago. Got it? Now think of a moment 2 years into the future..what do you think it will be like?

Then try..5 years etc.

What I'm trying to get at is that every moment you experience (even right now) will become a memory, and they will keep becoming memories until the day we perish. These days I believe people don't live in the moment enough, and are always either reminiscing about the good old days or looking forward to upcoming events, which is ok, but once they begin to occupy your daily thoughts it becomes a real issue I reckon.

 

[KardiniaPark]

I think if you don't think about death it has adverse effect on your life. What I mean is, if you are one of those people that is god fearing and have convinced yourself there is an afterlife, you're not going to live this life to the fullest. We are a funny species, in a way Death is a motivation in many ways for a lot of us. It all sounds very gruesome but I think death should be used as a spark, sometimes we are all guilty of falling in a rut and it's no way to live.

You don't cherish every moment in life so don't kid yourself that you do, the key is to cherish as much as you can. The older you get the more you slow down and appreciate things. I found it in extremely hard not to hate the world and everyone in it for the first 28 years of my life. Thankfully that's changed...for the most part.

In summary class, death is nothing to be scared of, it's to be embraced. ;-)

Would like to hear Wooshette_ and Morganashlee thoughts on the subject.

 

[KardiniaPark]

I think it's more the accumulation of years that people fear and that I do as well occasionally, comparing the years you have left to the ones that have already passed you by.

For example, think about a moment of time that was say, 2 years ago. Got it? Now think of a moment 2 years into the future..what do you think it will be like?

Then try..5 years etc.

What I'm trying to get at is that every moment you experience (even right now) will become a memory, and they will keep becoming memories until the day we perish. These days I believe people don't live in the moment enough, and are always either reminiscing about the good old days or looking forward to upcoming events, which is ok, but once they begin to occupy your daily thoughts it becomes a real issue I reckon.

I agree with the in the moment, a perfect example is at a gig. There's half the crowd with their smart phone in the air recording, checking to make sure it's still on, trying to get their friends in the video, zooming in on the hot guitar player etc...you can't claim that's living for now, that's living to tell your Facebook friends what a great time you had when in all reality you lost the good time once you started focusing on something besides why you were there.

 

[KardiniaPark]

A friend of mine died in a car crash the other day at the age of 19. Even though she wasn't a close friend, it still scared me as to how much of a prick life can be and how little I've accomplished in my life so far.

This is what I was talking about with death being a motivation. Don't be depressed you haven't done what you want, life is ****ing horrid at times but when it all works out it makes sense and makes it so much better. There's no time frame...

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

When I was younger and religious I thought of death much more often, because it's a bit of a motivator to be a good person when you're a Catholic...cos of all the fire and brimstone and that if you're naughty. Letting go of religion and accepting that I'm an atheist meant also letting go of my fear of death, which is really quite liberating. Now I know that I'm a good person because that's just how I want to live my life.

Having said that, I have had anxiety since I was a teenager, and I'm starting to have a bit of anxiety around death because of how good my life is at the moment. I worry about things that are outside my control, and there is nothing that I have less control over than when I will die.

 

[Wosh]

I think if you don't think about death it has adverse effect on your life. What I mean is, if you are one of those people that is god fearing and have convinced yourself there is an afterlife, you're not going to live this life to the fullest. We are a funny species, in a way Death is a motivation in many ways for a lot of us. It all sounds very gruesome but I think death should be used as a spark, sometimes we are all guilty of falling in a rut and it's no way to live.

You don't cherish every moment in life so don't kid yourself that you do, the key is to cherish as much as you can. The older you get the more you slow down and appreciate things. I found it in extremely hard not to hate the world and everyone in it for the first 28 years of my life. Thankfully that's changed...for the most part.

In summary class, death is nothing to be scared of, it's to be embraced. ;-)

Would like to hear Wooshette_ and Morganashlee thoughts on the subject.

Heavy! Hmmm, dunno if it's the right time to ask me with someone very close to me near death now and seeing the pain and carnage it causes to loved ones so I'm not clear headed on the subject.
I'm not afraid of death for myself though but I would hate what it would do to my family..they need me but in saying that they are strong independant people so I know they would be ok. My cat would miss me terribly.
I'd have to tell you my whole life story to get into this properly.

 

[KardiniaPark]

Heavy! Hmmm, dunno if it's the right time to ask me with someone very close to me near death now and seeing the pain and carnage it causes to loved ones so I'm not clear headed on the subject.
I'm not afraid of death for myself though but I would hate what it would do to my family..they need me but in saying that they are strong independant people so I know they would be ok. My cat would miss me terribly.
I'd have to tell you my whole life story to get into this properly.

I was super in touch with my zen this morning.

 

[brahj]

Holy ****, I was just reading something interesting about humans and our understanding of our own mortality.

"The sole reason for every single human achievement throughout history is due to our innate and deep fear of death. We are beings that think beyond just instinct and understand that everyone human will cease to exist. This fear of non-existence has driven us to create everything we have made today."

 

[KardiniaPark]

When I was younger and religious I thought of death much more often, because it's a bit of a motivator to be a good person when you're a Catholic...cos of all the fire and brimstone and that if you're naughty. Letting go of religion and accepting that I'm an atheist meant also letting go of my fear of death, which is really quite liberating. Now I know that I'm a good person because that's just how I want to live my life.

Having said that, I have had anxiety since I was a teenager, and I'm starting to have a bit of anxiety around death because of how good my life is at the moment. I worry about things that are outside my control, and there is nothing that I have less control over than when I will die.

Why were you religious? Family? I think I went to Sunday school until I was 12 but told mum it wasn't for me. She was fine with it, I think parents think they are doing the right thing and try to make you a rounded person but religion won't do that, it just wallpapers over the cracks.

Do you have a degree in HR? My wife was in HR until we started our new life, she's very bright and has letters after her name. I'm not sure what they all mean but I'm impressed

 

[KardiniaPark]

Holy ****, I was just reading something interesting about humans and our understanding of our own mortality.

"The sole reason for every single human achievement throughout history is due to our innate and deep fear of death. We are beings that think beyond just instinct and understand that everyone human will cease to exist. This fear of non-existence has driven us to create everything we have made today."

Brilliant. That's a learned version of what I said haha.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

Why were you religious? Family? I think I went to Sunday school until I was 12 but told mum it wasn't for me. She was fine with it, I think parents think they are doing the right thing and try to make you a rounded person but religion won't do that, it just wallpapers over the cracks.

Do you have a degree in HR? My wife was in HR until we started our new life, she's very bright and has letters after her name. I'm not sure what they all mean but I'm impressed

Definitely not religious due to family, my father is a staunch atheist and my mum is spiritual but not religious. I did go to a Catholic primary school and then when I went to high school I continued to go to church etc on my own. It took me a while to come to terms with the fact that I no longer believe in god and the whole bible etc but it's one of the best things that has ever happened to me. It's freedom.

I have no degree, I didn't go to university. I've gotten where I am by starting at the very bottom and working my way up...which you can really only do in hospitality HR, if I was in the corporate world I wouldn't get far!

 

[Wosh]

I was super in touch with my zen this morning.

Didn't anyone tell you that will make you blind?

 

[KardiniaPark]

Didn't anyone tell you that will make you blind?

Well I do need glasses to drive so...

 

[KardiniaPark]

Definitely not religious due to family, my father is a staunch atheist and my mum is spiritual but not religious. I did go to a Catholic primary school and then when I went to high school I continued to go to church etc on my own. It took me a while to come to terms with the fact that I no longer believe in god and the whole bible etc but it's one of the best things that has ever happened to me. It's freedom.

I have no degree, I didn't go to university. I've gotten where I am by starting at the very bottom and working my way up...which you can really only do in hospitality HR, if I was in the corporate world I wouldn't get far!

That's great. With HR you already have your foot in the door, you can do a lot from home with degrees nowadays (over a few years) You could do it and earn big bucks in the corporate world and HBF can stay home and watch sports

 

[ShanDog]

I think about death every now and again, but not with any real emotional attachment.

More often than not, I am concerned about the paperwork involved.

 

[KardiniaPark]

I was expecting HBF to like that and not you MEB_

 

[bkozican]

Dont know if this helps...my mate recently came out of coma after a car cras. A few days later he is at home and his old boy asks "well, did you see any bright lights or a gate?"
He just replies...nope, nothing.
Take that as you will

Dont think about death on a daily basis. Maybe once a week.

 

[HARKER]

Unfortunately we'll unlikely have any real answers in our collective life-times.
Mystery will be unraveled one day but we're just not there yet and we only have our beliefs to hang onto, in order to make no sense of something we really can't make any sense of.

Really no point arguing with any conviction one way or another but DMT may......may......have some interesting pointers. Worth investigating.