Family & Relationships girlfriend want to get married quick

[Handsome.B.Wonderful]

hmmm, very good and honest feedbacks here bar a few. She has citizenship issues but that's not gonna affect her for a good 18 months. We've been going out for slight over 6 months. From her side of family, her mother has been very anxious, her father so so. Also her relatives wants her to move to United States but she doesn't want to.

You're considering getting married to someone after 6 months without living together? Are you serious?

It seems plainly obvious to me that she is only using you for citizenship.

You have the upper hand here mate, if she has pure intentions then she will be prepared to wait until you're ready.

WEAR THE PANTS FFS!

 

[nicky]

Lulz.
This thread veered off into a completely different direction 2 pages back, some of the posts are priceless.

I tend to think this is a clever pisstake.

Kudos to the OP for superb execution

 

[SugarShane]

Haha I said to my gf we're getting a prenup. Not a good idea. Haven't heard the end of it for months.

"yo don't love me, you don't believe in us" blah blah

I didn't suggest one. I'd have been the equivalent of George Costanza asking Susan for one.

 

[Affidavit]

Yeah I said it to her in a kind of joking way to gauge her response. She was very upset but I want one in case shit hits the fan.

 

[Doctor Feel]

I guess i'm lucky. Been with my misses for 6 years(i'm 24) and we've been living together for 4 years. We decided we arent even going to think about marriage until we've finished uni, got money and paid a bit of the mortgage off (enough to refinance).

Even then it's not a given.

 

[Andre]

Well thanks to the Romans we have a magical concept known as divorce.

Damn the Romans, what have they ever done for us? Besides divorce .. and the aquaducts?

 

[BEEG]

my misses has been pushing the marriage issue the last couple of months

i purely blame the scum bucket ferals from our school who I wouldnt spit on if on fire who all got married early because they were knocked up at 19 and now live in the shittiest build-a-day houses in one of those new suburbs that literally has nothing in it

we have been together for 5 years, both are 24. Just not going to do it for a while, want to buy a house and live together for a while then go down that path

either way its coming to a head though, shes either just going to have to put it to bed or I'll give her a talk that'll ruin my week

your situation bro is messed up. shes probably told her parents your already married and have aus residency.

Ruin your week thats GOLD!

I had the whole need some kind of commitment thing about 12 months ago i am now living with my mrs of 5 years being living together for 6 months after we lived together at my mother for about 4 months

Dead set any bloke who gets married without living with there partner for atleast 2 years has rocks in there head and on a path to destruction

 

[King Elvis]

hmmm, very good and honest feedbacks here bar a few. She has citizenship issues but that's not gonna affect her for a good 18 months. We've been going out for slight over 6 months. From her side of family, her mother has been very anxious, her father so so. Also her relatives wants her to move to United States but she doesn't want to.

She's using you.

Run.

 

[iGNITER]

i purely blame the scum bucket ferals from our school who I wouldnt spit on if on fire who all got married early because they were knocked up at 19 and now live in the shittiest build-a-day houses in one of those new suburbs that literally has nothing in it

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LOL Quality post brah

 

[BotsMaster]

Piss her off

Piss on her?

 

[The_Reaper]

My mother is asian and warns me off Chinese girls.

If you have a house, make sure it is in your name only.

Tell her you will negotiate the deal with her father (as is traditional) and abuse the fact that he won't know as much about Australian law to sneak in pre-nuptials (claim that they are a legal requirement in Australia or some shit).

 

[Rockford]

I do think she is the one but the spontaneous idea that she came up the one night b4 really upset me

Mate. You've been seeing her for 6 months. You can't possibly have any indication as to whether or not she's "the one" (which is a ridiculous concept anyway, there's a lot of potential suitors out there).

Case in point, I met a girl in Melbourne when I was living there and we'd been dating for a little over 6 months when she asked to move in with me. I agreed. The first 6 months living together was great, it was new and exciting, I felt like an adult finally, being responsible etc.. The next 3 years were 3 of the most miserable years of my life. As soon as we'd lived together for more than 12 months she was in a position to take half of my shit. When I finally told the nut job to move out she only took 20% of my shit and found out that she'd slept with 5 other people in the time we'd been together. If you'd asked me where I thought things were headed at the 6 month mark of our relationship I'd have said things were great and that she might have been "the one". Don't make the same mistake. If she's asking you to do something irrational that makes no sense (like getting a marriage certificate after 6 months together) then she a) has an agenda and b) is at least a tiny little bit batshit crazy.

The _only_ thing to do is to tell her you're not going to get pressured into getting a marriage certificate together, that you think her request is irrational and that if she wants to tell you why she's so adamant that you go through with her irrational request that you'd be willing to listen and try to understand her point. Her repeating the request, getting angry about your refusal and any other type of emotional blackmail isn't going to help you understand or do anything to change your mind.

 

[Selective Retention]

I tend to think this is a clever pisstake.

Kudos to the OP for superb execution

I'm surprised so many are taking it seriously.

 

[Keys]

She luv you long time

 

[Primetime Pricey]

Radical Roo let me give you some advice.

I got engaged within 4 months and married within 9 months to my wife of almost 5 years and if i could go back in time i would never have proposed. Thought i knew her but you dont know shit until you live with someone for a while.

Take your time and get to know her. If she doesnt want to then she isnt the one.

 

[Radical Roo]

My mother is asian and warns me off Chinese girls.

If you have a house, make sure it is in your name only.

Tell her you will negotiate the deal with her father (as is traditional) and abuse the fact that he won't know as much about Australian law to sneak in pre-nuptials (claim that they are a legal requirement in Australia or some shit).

Nah, even better idea, all the houses r under my folks's name.

 

[Radical Roo]

should i have one in reserve just in case?

 

[exbunobooga]

Radical Roo its obvious you will ignore everyones advice and get married to her. The thought of her flipping out or crying when you say no is too much to take. Its a no brainer what the decision should be but now your starting to justify it.

 

[Gabbie]

This is a deal breaker for mine. 6 months is minuscule compared to a lifetime together. It's all well and good getting married, but from my own experience, it is around about a year of being together where you find out what they are really like as a person, love can either flourish or die out.

I'm just speculating and I don't mean to offend, but I doubt you even really know her, and for her wanting to get married after this period of time not only seems clingy and wierd, it is also suspicious (depending on your age I suppose)

Spot on the money.

Something doesn't ring true to me. She seems to have a lot of answers, parents, going to USA, visa problems down the track.

If she's NOT the love of your life and you have this dream of growing old with someone and she's not in the dream I'd give her the flick. To be honest she sounds like a bit of a bossy boots ball breaker, demanding this and that and using her parents as an excuse. If you cave in on this, what else will she demand.

WHEN IN DOUBT, DON'T.

 

[Andre]

It's hardly romantic, but it's a fact that the mind's body chemical lust part of a relationship lasts about 18 months. During this time you either don't notice or ignore a lot of the flaws that everyone has. Given this anyone that doesn't wait until at least 2 and a half years - so you've got a whole year where your brain isn't giving you a short term fix to your possible long term detriment - is asking for trouble.

That year after the lust has worn off to see if you can stand the person, now you see them as they truly are (and vice versa) flaws and all, is the most important year in any long term relationship. If after that you still want them for life and vice versa I'd say go for it.

So whether the OP is a piss take or not, if someone wants to get married early and won't wait until you are both comfortable with it, then having shown they aren't willing to compromise and plan things as a couple, they aren't marriage material*.

* The only exception is if you are happy for your wife to be to wear the pants and have you by the short and curlies for the length of your marriage.

 

[Walesy]

As soon as we'd lived together for more than 12 months she was in a position to take half of my shit.

Bingo. The piece of paper doesn't mean anything if you're planning on moving in together anyways.

 

[kfc1]

I thought it was 24 months?

 

[Walesy]

I thought it was 24 months?

Ah yes, just looked it up- it is 2 years.

 

[Selective Retention]

I don't see how that rule is fair at all.

In the past when women stayed home and performed domestic duties then sure.

Now women work too and they aren't sacrificing a career to do that what possible reason is there for justifying taking 50% just for living with someone for a year or two.

If you have kids then sure but it's disgraceful a woman (or man for that matter) can get away with taking a chunk of assets they had sfa hand in generating.

 

[rocker_oz33]

l've been with my missues 4 years maybe alittle more than that.we are only bf and gf no engagement or anything like that.we have a house together she wants a joint back acount l said no way your killing independent rocker.