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I have heard many people say or imply that being faithful to one partner is not realistic.

I for one believe that marriage is for life, and that any form of sexual unfaithfulness is wrong.
 
Look everyone, here I am getting on my moral high horse again! :rolleyes:


Absolutely, it's a realistic concept, and in a bond such as marriage, why the hell shouldn't it be?

I understand that it's natural to want to keep your options open and even act upon them, but it doesn't mean it's right...
 

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Originally posted by Zeke
I have heard many people say or imply that being faithful to one partner is not realistic.

I for one believe that marriage is for life, and that any form of sexual unfaithfulness is wrong.
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Religious Zealot Board.
 
Originally posted by P_D
I understand that it's natural to want to keep your options open and even act upon them, but it doesn't mean it's right...
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I'm not flaming you, but I'm interested in what you perceive to be the difference.

Why is something that is natural not right. What do you mean by natural? What do you mean by right?
 
I'm definitely in favour of monogamy. Jars will testify to my level of passion for fidelity. He and I had quite a discussion over my opinion that infidelity in marriage should actually be convictable offence.

(basically I think that because its a form of abuse)
 
Originally posted by Mobbenfuhrer
I'm definitely in favour of monogamy. Jars will testify to my level of passion for fidelity. He and I had quite a discussion over my opinion that infidelity in marriage should actually be convictable offence.

(basically I think that because its a form of abuse)
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OK, I've got you down as 1 for monogamy, check.

Now about that "other" board.....


BTW, how can you have a "menage", in a monogomistic relationship?
 

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I'm not flaming you, but I'm interested in what you perceive to be the difference... Why is something that is natural not right. What do you mean by natural? What do you mean by right?
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Course not... can completely understand your query...

For the record, I'm not stating this as fact, it's just my belief...

It's nature, for humans and animals alike to seek out different partners and gratify sexual needs... that's natural...

but when you commit yourself to a sacred *or supposedly* FOREVER bond such as marriage, that is the point at which you should stay commited to that one person and that one person only... it is not right to seek to gratify your sexual needs with someone other than your partner once you make any form of commitment (be it marriage or not)

If you want to get around, do it whilst you're single... unless you enter into an agreement with a relationship that you can see or become involved with other people... if not, there's too much at risk

This belief also carries over to the cheating thread by the way
 
Originally posted by Mobbenfuhrer
I'm definitely in favour of monogamy. Jars will testify to my level of passion for fidelity. He and I had quite a discussion over my opinion that infidelity in marriage should actually be convictable offence.

(basically I think that because its a form of abuse)
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There'd be a lot of people walking around with convictions for adultery then. An awful lot.
 
Its a very interesting but complex issue. Ive been married for 3 years and my wife and I are happy ( 1 baby). The reasons I dont not cheat on her are

it would destroy our relationship and really hurt her - two things that are way down the bottom of a long list titled "thing I want to happen"

when i got married - i was basically making a promise in front of all family and friends that I would remain faithfull. Now i may not be perfect, but if I cant keep that one promise, i'm weak as p1ss

in saying all that - sometimes we find ourselves extremely attracted to others and wanting to give into our primal instincts.
The trick is to know what you really want and to know what you really dont want.
 
Originally posted by Nic
There'd be a lot of people walking around with convictions for adultery then. An awful lot.
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Well DUH! :D ;)

That's like having no law against stealing .. and then suggesting one ... and then someone says "yeah well a lot of people would be arrested for stealing".

Hehe ... its the idea!
 

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Confession time. I once cheated on a girl I was going out with. Felt terrible about and after thinking about it decided that if I could not be faithful, then I was not committed to the relationship and quiet frankly that it was unfair to both parties. So I broke it off. Had a girl cheat on me and I dumped her as soon as I found out about it.
That said I would not dream of cheating on my current partner who is a wonderful person, it would be a a complete betrayal. So mark me down as 'tick' for monogamy
 
Can I do monogamy? Yes

Can I do it without thinking about being with other people? No.
Can I do it and have that Hollywood movie "I forget about everyone else because you're just SO PERFECT that I don't even look at other women?" No

So if the question is "Is it realistic?" the answer is yes, but if the question is "Is it realistic and natural" then for me, the answer is no.
 
Originally posted by Yianni
Can I do monogamy? Yes

Can I do it without thinking about being with other people? No.
Can I do it and have that Hollywood movie "I forget about everyone else because you're just SO PERFECT that I don't even look at other women?" No

So if the question is "Is it realistic?" the answer is yes, but if the question is "Is it realistic and natural" then for me, the answer is no.
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I guess the question there is, would you act on those thoughts? It's only natural to think about other people, or have a look at others, but there's a difference between just thinking about it, and acting on it.
 
Originally posted by lioness22
I guess the question there is, would you act on those thoughts? It's only natural to think about other people, or have a look at others, but there's a difference between just thinking about it, and acting on it.
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That's right, just because you are on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu.
 

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