Life

[ioppolo]

Go overseas. Not travelling. Get a working visa for UK/US/Ireland/Belgium/Germany.

Go and live in a good big city - but not THE city in that country. If in UK, don't go to London, go to Manchester or Glasgow instead. If the US don't go to New York, go to Denver. If Ireland, go to Cork or Belfast.

Get a job not necessarily in your chosen field, but try and do stuff freelance or volunteer in your field.

Get a place that's not a hostel asap - like a sharehouse.

Basically man, go and start a new life that's not here. But be realistic about it. Obviously you can't start a brand new life - you need money, you need to be able to talk to people, you need to be able make friends, get a root etc.

But just go, with the intention of not coming back for at least a year. Minimum a year. Just go.

I almost did this about 2 years ago with the intention of telling no one. Part of still wants to do this.

 

[JG22]

Go overseas. Not travelling. Get a working visa for UK/US/Ireland/Belgium/Germany.

Go and live in a good big city - but not THE city in that country. If in UK, don't go to London, go to Manchester or Glasgow instead. If the US don't go to New York, go to Denver. If Ireland, go to Cork or Belfast.

Get a job not necessarily in your chosen field, but try and do stuff freelance or volunteer in your field.

Get a place that's not a hostel asap - like a sharehouse.

Basically man, go and start a new life that's not here. But be realistic about it. Obviously you can't start a brand new life - you need money, you need to be able to talk to people, you need to be able make friends, get a root etc.

But just go, with the intention of not coming back for at least a year. Minimum a year. Just go.

that would be great

 

[MaddAdam]

I almost did this about 2 years ago with the intention of telling no one. Part of still wants to do this.

I did it, best thing that ever happened to me. Went from having a shit time at 24 in Melbourne, to coming back ten years later in a really good place.

I'd only thought I'd go for a year.

Also, you have to do it before about 25.

 

[MWPP]

...is so fragile and unfair at times
But is also what you make of it

 

[MaddAdam]

that would be great

It can be done. Save up a few grand - basically enough for an air fare (der) and a deposit and first months rent on a place where you're going, and enough to keep you going to for about six weeks while like you for a gig.

You need the threat of running out of cash to motivate you to get a job.

I think in Silent Alarm case just having to work a job that's not "career" related would be good for the soul. Man, I did some awesomely crappy jobs when I was overseas before getting one doing what I actually wanted to do.

Its good for the soul, just ... living.

 

[Aussie_boy]

Go overseas. Not travelling. Get a working visa for UK/US/Ireland/Belgium/Germany.

Go and live in a good big city - but not THE city in that country. If in UK, don't go to London, go to Manchester or Glasgow instead. If the US don't go to New York, go to Denver. If Ireland, go to Cork or Belfast.

Get a job not necessarily in your chosen field, but try and do stuff freelance or volunteer in your field.

Get a place that's not a hostel asap - like a sharehouse.

Basically man, go and start a new life that's not here. But be realistic about it. Obviously you can't start a brand new life - you need money, you need to be able to talk to people, you need to be able make friends, get a root etc.

But just go, with the intention of not coming back for at least a year. Minimum a year. Just go.

This is the sort of thing that I think about doing almost daily, have bugger all money at the minute but could save up to leave by say September. Where abouts did you go, I'm interested to hear.

 

[Silent Alarm]

Would love to live in Manchester, been there a few times, great city. Milwaukee if I was dumb enough to live in the states, maybe Austin. But I dunno... the initial stage of spending all this money, which would take six or eight months to save, to just sit in a hostel sending out resumes doesn't sound as good as spending that 8k pissing around on the continent.

 

[perthblue]

Would love to live in Manchester, been there a few times, great city. Milwaukee if I was dumb enough to live in the states, maybe Austin. But I dunno... the initial stage of spending all this money, which would take six or eight months to save, to just sit in a hostel sending out resumes doesn't sound as good as spending that 8k pissing around on the continent.

pretty sure there's plenty of places that let foreigners stay in exchange for work. just work a few hours a day at some farm or something and get shelter and food provided, good way to not blow money while you're looking for something permanent. Could also possibly steal kisses behind the cowbarn with a beautiful virginal farm daughter.

 

[MaddAdam]

This is the sort of thing that I think about doing almost daily, have bugger all money at the minute but could save up to leave by say September. Where abouts did you go, I'm interested to hear.

Canada for about seven months, but never really settled in any city.

Dublin for about two years then Edinburgh for seven.

 

[MaddAdam]

Would love to live in Manchester, been there a few times, great city. Milwaukee if I was dumb enough to live in the states, maybe Austin. But I dunno... the initial stage of spending all this money, which would take six or eight months to save, to just sit in a hostel sending out resumes doesn't sound as good as spending that 8k pissing around on the continent.

You'll have a lot more fun when you actually LIVE somewhere.

You started this thread coz life was getting you down. You're going through what Jack Kerouac described as the beat and evil days that come on a man in his mid 20s.

You need to LIVE differently.

Also, you'll notice in my original post I said get out of the hostel asap. Get a sharehouse. Make new friends. Get a new life.

 

[Reynolds Number]

Umpiring coach on Sunday.

"You have a girlfriend yet? You have a boyfriend yet"

Me: "nope"

Him *shakes head in disappointment*

Does everyone need to have a wife, kids and mortgage, even at the expense of doing a day job they don't like?

 

[MaddAdam]

Does everyone need to have a wife, kids and mortgage, even at the expense of doing a day job they don't like?

No. But having someone else in your life you can just rely on 100 per cent, share stuff with, is awesome.

 

[Silent Alarm]

No. But having someone else in your life you can just rely on 100 per cent, share stuff with, is awesome.

What about when they grind you down, you fight all the time, you start resenting spending time with them? You worry about being too young for something fairly dedicated... the idea of being a team and the romance of that sometimes ain't enough.

When I was 15 to about 17 I had a girlfriend for a couple of years who was really good but fmd I just hated her coming over. I only didn't mind on Saturdays so she could give me a rub down (...) after footy.

 

[Gralin]

What about when they grind you down, you fight all the time, you start resenting spending time with them? You worry about being too young for something fairly dedicated... the idea of being a team and the romance of that sometimes ain't enough.

When I was 15 to about 17 I had a girlfriend for a couple of years who was really good but fmd I just hated her coming over. I only didn't mind on Saturdays so she could give me a rub down (...) after footy.

worrying about being too young is just stupid, if you find someone you love and want to live with then live with them don't worry about if you are old enough for it

if living with them is grinding you down then it isn't the relationship that MaddAdam was talking about is it

 

[The Dice Man]

 

[Silent Alarm]

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Looks like me except as everyone on bigfooty knows it has to be a stubbie, but he's nailed the look of 'Tom Sheridan deployed in his fourteenth position of his career and still looking lost while we lose to St Kilda by ten goals' look of anguish and resignation.

 

[Gralin]

Looks like me except as everyone on bigfooty knows it has to be a stubbie, but he's nailed the look of 'Tom Sheridan deployed in his fourteenth position of his career and still looking lost while we lose to St Kilda by ten goals' look of anguish and resignation.

do you remember his ads on TV?

 

[Silent Alarm]

do you remember his ads on TV?

Life. Be in it.

Live more, do more with your day (?)

 

[Bumpswithagrin]

Life. Be in it.

Live more, do more with your day (?)

Be in it today, live more of your life, da da da, da da da da da da, da da!

Loved those ads when I was a little. In the original one he rings up all his mates to come around and watch some sport on TV whilst sinking some tinnies. They all have excuses because they are doing things, he was particularly stunned that Davo, DAVO, was going kite flying with the kids!

 

[Gavin Excell]

Be in it today, live more of your life, da da da, da da da da da da, da da!

Loved those ads when I was a little. In the original one he rings up all his mates to come around and watch some sport on TV whilst sinking some tinnies. They all have excuses because they are doing things, he was particularly stunned that Davo, DAVO, was going kite flying with the kids!

On reflection this was an interesting public initiative.

I guess the overall goal was to reduce obesity so had a prime health angle but it crossed over into rarely considered concepts such as happiness

 

[Bumpswithagrin]

On reflection this was an interesting public initiative.

I guess the overall goal was to reduce obesity so had a prime health angle but it crossed over into rarely considered concepts such as happiness

It was so much more positive than similar ad campaigns these days. Now they just seem to want to scare us into doing the right thing.

 

[Gavin Excell]

I was so much more positive than similar ad campaigns these days. Now they just seem to want to scare us into doing the right thing.

Yes good observation.

You can imagine a think tank charged with coming up with a campaign these days would feature cigarette style horrible images of people dying in pain

 

[Bumpswithagrin]

Found the original ad. Not sure if it was the very first one of the series but was definitely a very early one.



Sorry Silent Alarm, derailed your thread a bit. As to your original question I don't really know the answer but have you ever been in love? (I mean really in love, not just had the hots for someone). Because when you are in love life is amazing and all the things you think sound tedious now will become very interesting all of a sudden!

 

[Scotland]

I remember hearing Jeff Kennett speak about John Howard and he said that the best thing he ever did was go for a walk in his Wallabies tracksuit every morning. Obviously it was cloaked in 'I don't like him, I'm better, he should've done XYZ' but I found it interesting as it isn't something I ever gave much thought to beyond 'man he looks like a goose'.

https://www.smh.com.au/news/nationa...ational-kennett/2007/02/21/1171733846468.html

 

[PP34]

It can be done. Save up a few grand - basically enough for an air fare (der) and a deposit and first months rent on a place where you're going, and enough to keep you going to for about six weeks while like you for a gig.

You need the threat of running out of cash to motivate you to get a job.

I think in Silent Alarm case just having to work a job that's not "career" related would be good for the soul. Man, I did some awesomely crappy jobs when I was overseas before getting one doing what I actually wanted to do.

Its good for the soul, just ... living.

Always considered doing this. Never want to fall into the trap of the standard boring 9-5 life, find a wife, have kids and basically not doing many interesting things. I don't know if I could deal with living pay check to pay check though.

Did you hate your life and friends here in Australia or did you just feel like doing something different?

How did you make friends while living overseas? Living in Boston in particular has been something I've always wanted to do, but I worry about loneliness and struggling to find friends.