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perthblue said:
There's no point to nostalgising, especially about a past that you weren't a part of. I think the trouble is most young people are directionless, we don't know what we want really because we've been brought up being told that we can have anything we want. So you fall into a degree or career and you're unhappy because you wonder at how happy you could be if you had done x or y instead of z.

I think everyone gets pissed off at the world at some point. But you wake up and realise your life is your own and that these people who are bored and unsatisfied are by and large in that position due to choices they made, not because they were forced into it by anyone.

I'll leave you with Jordan Petersons list of 'valuable things to know in life' I've bolded the 4 that helped me the most.
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Tell the truth.
Do not do things that you hate.
Act so that you can tell the truth about how you act.
Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient.
If you have to choose, be the one who does things, instead of the one who is seen to do things.
Pay attention.
Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you need to know. Listen to them hard enough so that they will share it with you.
Plan and work diligently to maintain the romance in your relationships.
Be careful who you share good news with.
Be careful who you share bad news with.
Make at least one thing better every single place you go.
Imagine who you could be, and then aim single-mindedly at that.
Do not allow yourself to become arrogant or resentful.
Try to make one room in your house as beautiful as possible.
Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.
Work as hard as you possibly can on at least one thing and see what happens.
If old memories still make you cry, write them down carefully and completely.
Maintain your connections with people.
Do not carelessly denigrate social institutions or artistic achievement.
Treat yourself as if you were someone that you are responsible for helping.
Ask someone to do you a small favour, so that he or she can ask you to do one in the future.
Make friends with people who want the best for you.
Do not try to rescue someone who does not want to be rescued, and be very careful about rescuing someone who does.
Nothing well done is insignificant.
Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world.
Dress like the person you want to be.
Be precise in your speech.
Stand up straight with your shoulders back.
Don't avoid something frightening if it stands in your way -- and don't do unnecessarily dangerous things.
Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them.
Do not transform your wife into a maid.
Do not hide unwanted things in the fog.
Notice that opportunity lurks where responsibility has been abdicated.
Read something written by someone great.
Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street.
Do not bother children when they are skateboarding.
Don't let bullies get away with it.
Write a letter to the government if you see something that needs fixing -- and propose a solution.
Remember that what you do not yet know is more important than what you already know.
Be grateful in spite of your suffering.
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Bought his book - can't wait to read through it all. Hoping there is some more in there that isn't covered in the hours of stuff I've already watched lol
 
I've been out of home 18 months and going back home would have perks (dinner done for me, less house work etc.) But ultimately it'd be annoying being nagged again about shit like taking the bins out, doing the washing etc
 
Cruyff14 said:
Think you need to get over the this imaginary stigma in your head about 'being at home at this age' isn't cool. Does it really matter if you are? What's the big deal?
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so true, plenty of people get divorced/break up with the person they are living with and end up at their parents while they get their life back together

The Dice Man said:
For in laws it's 250 kms. That's the sweet spot.
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too close, could be considered a day trip
 

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Gralin said:
so true, plenty of people get divorced/break up with the person they are living with and end up at their parents while they get their life back together


too close, could be considered a day trip
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In my case it's usually a whole weekend trip. :'(
 
The Dice Man said:
In my case it's usually a whole weekend trip. :'(
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the horror, I used to have to deal with that, weekend away in country Vic

at least the wife's family being 30 minutes away means its only when they are at the holiday house that sleep overs happen, or when we get bullied into camping
 
Gralin said:
the horror, I used to have to deal with that, weekend away in country Vic

at least the wife's family being 30 minutes away means its only when they are at the holiday house that sleep overs happen, or when we get bullied into camping
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It's not too bad. My wife's mum is a lovely person it's just that she always tries to tidy up putting things in the wrong spot and emptying my coffee. Im very much a leave my stuff as it is kinda guy. On the weekend she shouted us out to dinner at a Michelin starred restaurant and spent over 500 euros on just the 3 of us so I really shouldnt complain. Oh but she wears too much perfume, asks how I am constantly and breathes air through her teeth.
 
The Dice Man said:
It's not too bad. My wife's mum is a lovely person it's just that she always tries to tidy up putting things in the wrong spot and emptying my coffee. Im very much a leave my stuff as it is kinda guy. On the weekend she shouted us out to dinner at a Michelin starred restaurant and spent over 500 euros on just the 3 of us so I really shouldnt complain. Oh but she wears too much perfume, asks how I am constantly and breathes air through her teeth.
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Yeah tough that. Having to put up with all that and the 500 buck dinners
 
Run n Spread said:
No stigma but not always desirable or practical after a while.
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I haven't moved out yet but I imagine once I will I could never see myself going back. I love my parents and it's always nice to have them around on a nightly basis to spend time with but I have no idea how I could go back to them after spending time living alone.

Any weekend where I'm away from them or they've gone away somewhere I love the freedom. Can eat whatever I want for dinner, can come home from a night out at whatever time I want without being hit with 500 questions, don't have to listen to their pointless arguments and I can have people over without feeling like I'm intruding on their time away from work.
 
Interesting, I'm earlyish 20's and love living with my parents, no nagging, no questions, I'm more or less my own man. Saves us all money and time (board and split chores), plus I don't really have enough free time that I would get to enjoy my own place much anyway. I mentioned moving out to them and they got really upset, they like having me here too much. The only small downsides are that our house is too small to have more than 1 mate over, and I feel like it's not suitable to get drunk here so I always have to go out for more than a few beers.
 

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I like it after a break, as did a few mates. Huge privilege sharing the cooking between a few people, most mates I have are in a new house to the one they grew up in as their parents downsized as other siblings left and now they're in better areas. Sharing the washing, dishes is a big plus. Even having them chip you now and then about not cooking enough or whatever is a good thing and ultimately helps you out. A small one for me is eating way way better – they'd flip if they saw me bring home something shit and sometimes in uni I'd grab something I shouldn't have. Dropped the kegs as a result.

Downsides are definitely not being able to get your mates around and make your way through a carton. Quite often the only option is to go out and drink at a pub somewhere which is great fun and I love doing it, but it's way too expensive and generally your night ends when someone's turfed out or the trains stop running, as opposed to kicking on somewhere when everyone has a free house.
 

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Question. For all those living at home how do you navigate the situation when you meet a nice young lady/gentleman.

I remember back in my 21st year I met an absolute babe. Alas she lived at home as did I and we had both fallen victim to a brutal economy so things died quick.
 
Run n Spread said:
Question. For all those living at home how do you navigate the situation when you meet a nice young lady/gentleman.

I remember back in my 21st year I met an absolute babe. Alas she lived at home as did I and we had both fallen victim to a brutal economy so things died quick.
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It pretty much stops it, unless a rare circumstance, perhaps very late.
 
Silent Alarm said:
Downsides are definitely not being able to get your mates around and make your way through a carton. Quite often the only option is to go out and drink at a pub somewhere which is great fun and I love doing it, but it's way too expensive and generally your night ends when someone's turfed out or the trains stop running, as opposed to kicking on somewhere when everyone has a free house.
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That’s probably my biggest pet peeve about living at home. Sometimes on a Saturday night I just want to get on the beers but my mates don’t because they don’t want to go out and spend money. If one of us was living on our own we could just grab some slabs and head over to sit on the couch and chat shit all night.

And yeah kicking on just can’t happen with parents around unless you’re one of those lucky blokes with a huge house and a living area miles from where your family sleeps.

Bringing girls home is also a no-go. Front door is right next to my parents bedroom. **** that.
 
Run n Spread said:
Question. For all those living at home how do you navigate the situation when you meet a nice young lady/gentleman.

I remember back in my 21st year I met an absolute babe. Alas she lived at home as did I and we had both fallen victim to a brutal economy so things died quick.
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Yeah it's one of life's conundrums. Up there with, when you are young you have time and health but no money, but you are old you have money but no time and health. My love life was rubbish until I did a stint overseas and had my own private shoe-box sized dorm/bachelor's pad.
 
Silent Alarm said:
I'm not being all 19-year old student here, but what is the point?
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Go overseas. Not travelling. Get a working visa for UK/US/Ireland/Belgium/Germany.

Go and live in a good big city - but not THE city in that country. If in UK, don't go to London, go to Manchester or Glasgow instead. If the US don't go to New York, go to Denver. If Ireland, go to Cork or Belfast.

Get a job not necessarily in your chosen field, but try and do stuff freelance or volunteer in your field.

Get a place that's not a hostel asap - like a sharehouse.

Basically man, go and start a new life that's not here. But be realistic about it. Obviously you can't start a brand new life - you need money, you need to be able to talk to people, you need to be able make friends, get a root etc.

But just go, with the intention of not coming back for at least a year. Minimum a year. Just go.
 

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