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Scotland said:
Looking back my parents were friends with parents of my friends. Or was I friends with the children of my parents' friends? :think:

I guess when you are 8 it's easier to just play with kids your own age and get along. When you are 45 and some bloke turns up to pick up their kid your inner voice is saying 'Please me normal. Please be normal.' when the doorbell rings.

At the time I never thought anything of it but some parents would come over to pick up their kid and hang around for a chat and a beer etc. and others were more of a cordial 'Yep, Billy was well behaved. See you next time' quick in and out. As a kid you hope for the former so you get more play time in the pool or whatever.
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Yeah my folks were friends with a few of my best mates parents. I became friends with them through school and our mums struck up a friendship, to which our dads eventually did.

As for our kids, i loathe meeting new people, just cant be bothered to be honest. I know quite a few of the kids friends parents and will say hi and a quick small talk etc but in general dont have much to do with them. At parties, ill just take the kid in, quick hello and then leave. Some parents will stay the whole party or chat for 20 mins etc. I LOVE the dads, they are just like me, will drop their kid off, ask what time is pickup and off they go. The mums love a chat.

My kids hate it when i pickup, as you say, they want to stay longer. The missus picked up our daughter from a friends place the other day, when she left she said see you in 20 minutes. I knew she would be over an hour - chatting away.
 
edgie said:
I'm noticing on Facebook some of my friends seem to be socialising with my older brother more than myself these days.

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One of my oldest and best mates works a lot with my brother and they seem closer than me and my mate these days - i find it a bit weird but its also on me, i dont make enough effort to see my mates.
 
revo333 said:
Not a nice feeling.
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Nah not really. He talks. I don't. My fault.

Baby has been recommended to be assessed for ADD when she's older. She never stops. Ever. Constantly exhausted parent. No time for anything or anyone else. That's life.


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FRUMPY said:
Yeah my folks were friends with a few of my best mates parents. I became friends with them through school and our mums struck up a friendship, to which our dads eventually did.

As for our kids, i loathe meeting new people, just cant be bothered to be honest. I know quite a few of the kids friends parents and will say hi and a quick small talk etc but in general dont have much to do with them. At parties, ill just take the kid in, quick hello and then leave. Some parents will stay the whole party or chat for 20 mins etc. I LOVE the dads, they are just like me, will drop their kid off, ask what time is pickup and off they go. The mums love a chat.

My kids hate it when i pickup, as you say, they want to stay longer. The missus picked up our daughter from a friends place the other day, when she left she said see you in 20 minutes. I knew she would be over an hour - chatting away.
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You're a funny campaigner frumpy. I'm the same tbh. I know enough people as it is and have cut out most. More time and energy for me and my cherished one's and it;s made me far more productive and happier.
 

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Yer, I'm not really all that interested in making new friends... as they say "I'm not interviewing for new friends". My x got our friends in our settlement agreement so my friends are a pretty sparse group, which I'm fine with.
 
I see my closest mates 1-2 times a month. We have a Facebook chat where we are always talking about current affairs etc so that more than suffices us not seeing each other often.

There are other friends I would like to see much more often, but life is busy for everybody and I think it's unrealistic to be able to see people when you're free, as they may not be etc.
 
Macpotata said:
You're a funny campaigner frumpy. I'm the same tbh. I know enough people as it is and have cut out most. More time and energy for me and my cherished one's and it;s made me far more productive and happier.
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I need to make more effort to see my good mates though, i get so lazy. We have a group of about 10 of us who catch up once a month or 2 months for dinner/drinks. But i should see my closest 2 or 3 mates a bit more often or just communicate with them etc. One of my best mates has kids the same age as my stepkids and they get on well but they only see each other 2 or 3 times a year. I see my mate often but not the families together.
 

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This might sound out of whack but but I don't get whole kids things. Seems a pretty boring existence to base your whole life around a kid that will be very demanding and pretty irritating a lot of the time. People want to ascribe all this meaning to it 'best thing I'll ever do etc' but it's a biological impulse at the end of the day isn't it?
 
t_94 said:
This might sound out of whack but but I don't get whole kids things. Seems a pretty boring existence to base your whole life around a kid that will be very demanding and pretty irritating a lot of the time. People want to ascribe all this meaning to it 'best thing I'll ever do etc' but it's a biological impulse at the end of the day isn't it?
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If you don't give them any love & attention then that's precisely what they'll become.

Kids know intuitively if they're loved & wanted or not.
 
it's interesting running into people from school (20 year reunion for year 12 this year for me) randomly ran into a few lately who was never really friends with but want a long chat, arrange a catch up etc

not sure what we will catch up on when we barely spoke at school
 
t_94 said:
This might sound out of whack but but I don't get whole kids things. Seems a pretty boring existence to base your whole life around a kid that will be very demanding and pretty irritating a lot of the time. People want to ascribe all this meaning to it 'best thing I'll ever do etc' but it's a biological impulse at the end of the day isn't it?
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I have step kids. Love them more than anything else. Would do anything for them. Makes my life fun and worthwhile (and annoying as **** haha)

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Lemma said:
Same reason I will never go to a school reunion- there is just no one I want to see
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I went to my primary school 20yr reunion because it was a small school and I knew them all well. Wanted to know what they were upto. Hadn't seen some in almost 20 years.

Didn't go to the high school one as those who I want to see I still do. Too many I had little interaction with, couldn't give a shit what they are upto.

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The King! said:
it's interesting running into people from school (20 year reunion for year 12 this year for me) randomly ran into a few lately who was never really friends with but want a long chat, arrange a catch up etc

not sure what we will catch up on when we barely spoke at school
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Kids can be stupid. I worked with someone years after high school and we got along great, had more in common than I realised at school because we hung in different circles. I wouldn’t go out of my way but you never know what people might be like as grown adults.
 
JackOutback said:
Kids can be stupid. I worked with someone years after high school and we got along great, had more in common than I realised at school because we hung in different circles. I wouldn’t go out of my way but you never know what people might be like as grown adults.
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fair point actually, maybe ill go find out you might have changed my mind
 
t_94 said:
This might sound out of whack but but I don't get whole kids things. Seems a pretty boring existence to base your whole life around a kid that will be very demanding and pretty irritating a lot of the time. People want to ascribe all this meaning to it 'best thing I'll ever do etc' but it's a biological impulse at the end of the day isn't it?
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As opposed to basing your life around what?

Having kids is basically my goal in life, unsure what else I'd get up to past 30
 
AngryRanga said:
As opposed to basing your life around what?

Having kids is basically my goal in life, unsure what else I'd get up to past 30
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Not sure really. I think personally I'd enjoy the flexibility and lack of responsibility that not having kids would afford me.

I don't feel a strong desire to have them and I won't have them just to provide meaning to my life or because most other people have them.
 

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