This is probably going to be long and it bit heavy but I thought after my recent debacle(see thread I dig this guy BUT) a good topic to bring up.
Some years ago I got these books one white and one purple called THE RULES time tested secrets to finding mr right. The white was released in 1995 and the purple 1997. We are talking mid nineties. OK these books were best sellers and dealt with women trying to find mr right and keeping him. And rules set out one by one.
I found the books so disturbing in that it went against everything I had been taught.It was simple if you were female you never went after the guy NEVER you stuck to the rules the rules being you never showed any interest in a man never called him and never excepted a date after wednesday you remained elusive and mysterious
WTF is that? I thought why would I do any of this if i ever wanted to meet anyone. Why sit back waiting for him to ask you out or whatever but apparently the rules work or so the authors say, it trancends countries and nationalities all men are the same they love challenges and if you aren't a challenge you won't be anything to him. You'll be pushed aside.
Be a challenge and you'll get a date what kinda logic is that?
I still ask that question now even years later after reading the books. Does anyone here female think like this or think this is a a healthy way to act. Or anyone male on here think that is how they think THEY love a challenge and only date ones that are hard to get or PLAy HARD TO GET?
They also say Ok you can go full throttle towards a great career and whatever but never act like that with a man let him do the work and if hes interested he'll hang round like a bad smell and that means hes soooo intersted in you. This is such bizarre logic to me I don't know about any other females but to sit back and wait around is that what you do in your life LIFE IS SHORT its not a rehearsal you get one shot thats it and you're dead. So if you like someone and he doesn't even make a move you just go OK I'll just sit back like they did in the 1900's or whatever and wait. FFS it is 2003.
And the rule for this is NEVER Make the move you'll be rejected and hurt and you'll be a mess he has to make the move. Well nothing will happen that will be the outcome as far as I can see. I wrote this because I would like others opinions I think the topic is interesting the books were controversial big time but sold very well. The rules my guys could be being used on you right now. I just challenge the reasoning of the authors on waiting for the guy to make the first move only because I just see life as short and games are for losers. Like a line in a grinspoon song says "Playing lots of mind games really is a treat now"
Some years ago I got these books one white and one purple called THE RULES time tested secrets to finding mr right. The white was released in 1995 and the purple 1997. We are talking mid nineties. OK these books were best sellers and dealt with women trying to find mr right and keeping him. And rules set out one by one.
I found the books so disturbing in that it went against everything I had been taught.It was simple if you were female you never went after the guy NEVER you stuck to the rules the rules being you never showed any interest in a man never called him and never excepted a date after wednesday you remained elusive and mysterious
WTF is that? I thought why would I do any of this if i ever wanted to meet anyone. Why sit back waiting for him to ask you out or whatever but apparently the rules work or so the authors say, it trancends countries and nationalities all men are the same they love challenges and if you aren't a challenge you won't be anything to him. You'll be pushed aside.Be a challenge and you'll get a date what kinda logic is that?
I still ask that question now even years later after reading the books. Does anyone here female think like this or think this is a a healthy way to act. Or anyone male on here think that is how they think THEY love a challenge and only date ones that are hard to get or PLAy HARD TO GET?
They also say Ok you can go full throttle towards a great career and whatever but never act like that with a man let him do the work and if hes interested he'll hang round like a bad smell and that means hes soooo intersted in you. This is such bizarre logic to me I don't know about any other females but to sit back and wait around is that what you do in your life LIFE IS SHORT its not a rehearsal you get one shot thats it and you're dead. So if you like someone and he doesn't even make a move you just go OK I'll just sit back like they did in the 1900's or whatever and wait. FFS it is 2003.
And the rule for this is NEVER Make the move you'll be rejected and hurt and you'll be a mess he has to make the move. Well nothing will happen that will be the outcome as far as I can see. I wrote this because I would like others opinions I think the topic is interesting the books were controversial big time but sold very well. The rules my guys could be being used on you right now. I just challenge the reasoning of the authors on waiting for the guy to make the first move only because I just see life as short and games are for losers. Like a line in a grinspoon song says "Playing lots of mind games really is a treat now"
