Computers & Internet Tinder Part Deux

[mr bagcroft]

Tinder bringing in some new rules

No social media links in bios
No screen shots of messages
No looking for sugar daddies
No couple accounts

There goes about 50 per cent of girls

Thats good! As far as women go, Far too many whoring their socials. Only reason they are there.

 

[ash_1050]

I think women have unrealistic standards is more accurate

We've had this discussion before about how blaming women for your lack of success in dating women isn't going to get you far and probably actually makes things worse.

You're assuming womens standards are only around looks when there's a post from a women in the last couple of days on this thread saying looks aren't even really a factor. Most of your posts in this thread are about looks, very little of what you've mentioned revolves around all the important things that make up a relationship, looks wouldn't even make it into the top 3 factors for consideration.

Women want a well adjusted guy who's self aware, employed, respects women, financially stable* and doesn't give off red flag vibes like gambling addiction, domestic violence or generally being incapable of functioning as an adult. If you tick those boxes you're well on your way.

*financially stable doesn't mean rich, it just means not swimming in debt. Having an $80k car loan for a Nissan Patrol $20k personal loan debt and you're constantly paying off Afterpay purchases is a huge red flag.

I think people just need to be more honest I

Completely agree on this one, which is where the initial bio is important. There's failure from both sexes on this behalf around being upfront and honest, though you can usually weed the people you're not interested in out pretty quickly inside 4-5 messages on an app.

 

[RubyLovesTheDees]

We've had this discussion before about how blaming women for your lack of success in dating women isn't going to get you far and probably actually makes things worse.

You're assuming womens standards are only around looks when there's a post from a women in the last couple of days on this thread saying looks aren't even really a factor. Most of your posts in this thread are about looks, very little of what you've mentioned revolves around all the important things that make up a relationship, and looks wouldn't even make it into the top 3 factors for consideration.

Women want a well adjusted guy who's self aware, employed, respects women, financially stable* and doesn't give off red flag vibes like gambling addiction, domestic violence or generally being incapable of functioning as an adult. If you tick those boxes you're well on your way.

*financially stable doesn't mean rich, it just means not swimming in debt. Having an $80k car loan for a Nissan Patrol $20k personal loan debt and you're constantly paying off Afterpay purchases is a huge red flag.


Completely agree on this one, which is where the initial bio is important. There's failure from both sexes on this behalf around being upfront and honest, though you can usually weed the people you're not interested in out pretty quickly inside 4-5 messages on an app.

This is even a red flag in friendships, let alone dating.

A friend of mine complained how she was always broke, I explained to her that she needs to curb her spending. “If you don't have money for it now, don't buy it”. She agreed, after a long talk.

Next day, omg I bought these air ones on afterpay..

This is not the type of friend I want in life, or as a partner. Irresponsible.

I need somebody with a good heart, who doesn't bully people, and is kind to others. Somebody who is responsible and mature.

 

[Andre]

We've had this discussion before about how blaming women for your lack of success in dating women isn't going to get you far and probably actually makes things worse.

This is a little from column A, a little from column B IMO. Women, rightly, don't have to settle for dregs anymore, in fear of being left a 30 year old, over the hill spinster. Juxtaposed against this is men are more likely to hook up with someone who is not around the same education level or income level, because they like the other person. There are obviously exceptions, but women who've completed higher education are more likely to only date men with a similar level of education than vice versa. If we're talking physical appearances, then the old one of women won't date guys shorter than them is still true for many. Again these are in general, there are plenty of exceptions.

As noted previously here or elsewhere, guys aren't blameless here. Men are more likely to be overweight or obese, more likely to smoke, more likely to drink to excess or drugs to excess (however you want to define that). Plus of course many still left thinking the world shouldn't have moved beyond the 1950's. There'd be a lot more happy people of both genders, IMO, if more men looked to improve themselves and more women were willing to look outside defining a good partner as must be as educated or wealthy as them (without obviously looking at parasites).

 

[the_interloper]

This is a little from column A, a little from column B IMO. Women, rightly, don't have to settle for dregs anymore, in fear of being left a 30 year old, over the hill spinster. Juxtaposed against this is men are more likely to hook up with someone who is not around the same education level or income level, because they like the other person. There are obviously exceptions, but women who've completed higher education are more likely to only date men with a similar level of education than vice versa. If we're talking physical appearances, then the old one of women won't date guys shorter than them is still true for many. Again these are in general, there are plenty of exceptions.

As noted previously here or elsewhere, guys aren't blameless here. Men are more likely to be overweight or obese, more likely to smoke, more likely to drink to excess or drugs to excess (however you want to define that). Plus of course many still left thinking the world shouldn't have moved beyond the 1950's. There'd be a lot more happy people of both genders, IMO, if more men looked to improve themselves and more women were willing to look outside defining a good partner as must be as educated or wealthy as them (without obviously looking at parasites).

That's the key I would suggest, you work on yourselves and the ladies will come.

(When I say "work on yourself" I don't mean ripping the ears off it to Xhamster)

 

[11kgm]

Men are stuck in the 1950s what about women wanting a free meal plus drinks on the first date?

That's some shit that needs to stay in the past but sadly they still expect it

It always goes both ways

 

[phantom13]

As always, the height of class this thread.

 

[HairyO]

Tinder bringing in some new rules

No social media links in bios
No screen shots of messages
No looking for sugar daddies
No couple accounts

There goes about 50 per cent of girls

Probably a good thing. Guys wouldnt be paying to just get asked to sub to a chick's insta account.

 

[hamohawk1]

Tinder bringing in some new rules

No social media links in bios
No screen shots of messages
No looking for sugar daddies
No couple accounts

There goes about 50 per cent of girls

Seems like Tinder is in an uber style free fall.

 

[11kgm]

Seems like Tinder is in an uber style free fall.

I mean the fact tinder is making everything to be paid for now I'm guessing it's ****ed

 

[greyhound punter]

Without online dating i would have never ever got laid. No doubt about it.

At the height of my online dating days, I remember speaking to a women, who was older than me, on a Sunday afternoon. She messaged me early the next morning, on a Monday, like 0630 am. I message back, by 0730 am I am in her hotel room and we are hooking up.

I still remember to this day, the sound of the garbage truck picking up industrial bins, and the sound of the alarm as it is reversing, all of this going on right outside the hotel room window. I remember thinking, those poor sods in the garbage truck, battling Mondayitis, while here i am, just knocked off work, and im getting lucky.

Anyway, that night i had organized to meet a bird my age, late 20s, for a drink. We had got speaking the previous night on the same dating app i had met the women i had slept with that morning.

I remember leaving the pub and casually asking this women if she'd like to kiss in my car. She didn't hesitate. We spent about 2 hours in my car just making out. That night i felt a bit odd. Amazed that i had hooked up with two women in one day. Sex with one, and heavy tongue kissing with the other.

At the time i used to take bad photos and no-one ever messaged me. One bird i met one day on the apps who lived near by decided to meet me out of pity i guess, and she was shocked when she met me in real life. She said i looked much better in person. She took 2 pics of me and said, "use those". She had the magic touch. 2 simple, black and white pics.

Those two pics were like the ticket to the promised land. Women were actually messaging me now.

Still, i found it easier to hook up with the more mature lady. Being 6 foot 2 helps. But pics have to be on point. It made all the difference for me.

 

[mr bagcroft]

Without online dating i would have never ever got laid. No doubt about it.

At the height of my online dating days, I remember speaking to a women, who was older than me, on a Sunday afternoon. She messaged me early the next morning, on a Monday, like 0630 am. I message back, by 0730 am I am in her hotel room and we are hooking up.

I still remember to this day, the sound of the garbage truck picking up industrial bins, and the sound of the alarm as it is reversing, all of this going on right outside the hotel room window. I remember thinking, those poor sods in the garbage truck, battling Mondayitis, while here i am, just knocked off work, and im getting lucky.

Anyway, that night i had organized to meet a bird my age, late 20s, for a drink. We had got speaking the previous night on the same dating app i had met the women i had slept with that morning.

I remember leaving the pub and casually asking this women if she'd like to kiss in my car. She didn't hesitate. We spent about 2 hours in my car just making out. That night i felt a bit odd. Amazed that i had hooked up with two women in one day. Sex with one, and heavy tongue kissing with the other.

At the time i used to take bad photos and no-one ever messaged me. One bird i met one day on the apps who lived near by decided to meet me out of pity i guess, and she was shocked when she met me in real life. She said i looked much better in person. She took 2 pics of me and said, "use those". She had the magic touch. 2 simple, black and white pics.

Those two pics were like the ticket to the promised land. Women were actually messaging me now.

Still, i found it easier to hook up with the more mature lady. Being 6 foot 2 helps. But pics have to be on point. It made all the difference for me.

wanna smooch ?

 

[Soups]

I dunno about everyone else, but 2 hours just kissing in a car sounds like torture

 

[akkaps]

That's all they got up to in 2 hours?

 

[RU_]

This is reminiscent of RU_, 7 years ago.

 

[mr bagcroft]

I dunno about everyone else, but 2 hours just kissing in a car sounds like torture

her tunes or yours?
So much to consider...

 

[JyeDye]

I would have kicked her out after 15 mins. I've got back pain just thinking about making out with someone on top of me for 2 hours cramped into a shitbox. Also go home with an unsorted downstairs situation, all pain no gain.

 

[Matty_G]

2 hours would have you like this

 

[Dannnnnnnnnn]

Pretty new to the app side of things. What are people's thoughts on following up after a non-reply to an initial message? On the one hand, I want to respect the right to not want to reply and don't want to seem like a creep, but on the other, it's not really that uncommon that I/others forget to reply to a message. I'd probably just make a light, cheeky joke about the opener not being up to scratch and take a different line, but dunno what the etiquette is.

 

[greyhound punter]

I would have kicked her out after 15 mins. I've got back pain just thinking about making out with someone on top of me for 2 hours cramped into a shitbox. Also go home with an unsorted downstairs situation, all pain no gain.

I'd already done the deed that morning mate with a different women - a cougar.

 

[greyhound punter]

Pretty new to the app side of things. What are people's thoughts on following up after a non-reply to an initial message? On the one hand, I want to respect the right to not want to reply and don't want to seem like a creep, but on the other, it's not really that uncommon that I/others forget to reply to a message. I'd probably just make a light, cheeky joke about the opener not being up to scratch and take a different line, but dunno what the etiquette is.

I'd go for it mate.

I used to say all sorts of things on the apps.

I'd ask women if they thought i was handsome for example.

 

[greyhound punter]

her tunes or yours?
So much to consider...

From memory I kissed 2 women in one day, not once, but twice.

All from the apps.

 

[phantom13]

I'd already done the deed that morning mate with a different women - a cougar.

Based on this…

I'd go for it mate.

I used to say all sorts of things on the apps.

I'd ask women if they thought i was handsome for example.

I’ll take things that absolutely never happened for $300 Alex.

 

[GreyCrow]

It wont be long before they break character

 

[offtherails9]

The thing is, with double messaging etc is that it literally doesn't matter. Nothing to lose at all.

Sometimes the girl might have just not seen it and it'll kick off the convo again, or other times they're just not interested.

I've just hit the point recently where I've kind of had enough of the app dance for the time being. The constant convo starting about the same bs over and over again and I've turned into the shit replier. I keep getting matches then giving them nothing. So I've paused my accounts for the time being.