Computers & Internet Tinder

[craigos]

How did you and dad meet, mum?

Well, you see, we both had pictures on the internet and a small sentence about ourselves. I think mine said something about a slug along the kitchen floor, anyways, your dad sent me a picture of his ****, like he had done to at least a 100 others and we met up later that night in a Hungry Jacks car park and that's how you were made.

That's the type of romcom I'd watch.

 

[iluvparis]

That's the type of romcom I'd watch.

Hungry Jacks Off

 

[Sketi]

Any advice for using Tinder in Japan? About to head over and was thinking of having a crack, partly as a way just to meet people as am travelling solo. Have heard it's a bit tougher than here in Aus though.

 

[Better Loosen Up]

Any advice for using Tinder in Japan? About to head over and was thinking of having a crack, partly as a way just to meet people as am travelling solo. Have heard it's a bit tougher than here in Aus though.

Try using Skout

 

[mr bagcroft]

Any advice for using Tinder in Japan? About to head over and was thinking of having a crack, partly as a way just to meet people as am travelling solo. Have heard it's a bit tougher than here in Aus though.

Should have said asking for a mate ...:0)

 

[SnakeMan86]

Tinder = Grab a root.

For some, personally, I've just dipped my toe in the water.
I was with my ex for 12 years before we separated, work fulltime and rediculous hours, so i have bugger all time to go out, not a lot of time to go out meet women.
To me, it doesn't seem too dissimilar to what happens when you go out.

Pub: Look around until a girl catches your eye
Tinder: Swipe left until something catches your eye
Pub: Make eye contact, strike up a conversation
Tinder: Both swipe right, strike up a conversation
Pub/Tinder: Conversation goes well, its either a one nighter or a relationship.

 

[Billy ray]

For some, personally, I've just dipped my toe in the water.
I was with my ex for 12 years before we separated, work fulltime and rediculous hours, so i have bugger all time to go out, not a lot of time to go out meet women.
To me, it doesn't seem too dissimilar to what happens when you go out.

Pub: Look around until a girl catches your eye
Tinder: Swipe left until something catches your eye
Pub: Make eye contact, strike up a conversation
Tinder: Both swipe right, strike up a conversation
Pub/Tinder: Conversation goes well, its either a one nighter or a relationship.

Exactly. Once you start talking with someone who cares how you met.
We aint all writing tv scripts and novels

 

[dales.girl38]

"The only time I don't give my all is when I'm giving blood"
"My beard is on my organ donor list"

Subtle ways of saying "I'm a good guy!!!"

 

[Shell]

"My beard is on my organ donor list"
!"

Ew

 

[Gough]

"The only time I don't give my all is when I'm giving blood"
"My beard is on my organ donor list"

Subtle ways of saying "I'm a good guy!!!"

My Gaydar profile says I'm a dilettante. If you start low it's hard to disappoint.

 

[ash_1050]

My Gaydar profile says I'm a dilettante. If you start low it's hard to disappoint.

Oooh an art man!

 

[revo333]

Any advice for using Tinder in Japan? About to head over and was thinking of having a crack, partly as a way just to meet people as am travelling solo. Have heard it's a bit tougher than here in Aus though.

Wasn't a problem for me, they are very talkative and curious about people from other countries.

 

[Sketi]

Wow thread really died. Doubt this will breath much life back into it either:

Anyone else relentlessly over analyse their messages / texts etc when it's to someone you're interested in, and they don't get back to you straight away?

A rare first date last night where I would actually want to pursue this person. All went fairly swimmingly and she brought up seeing each other again at the end and even an idea of what we should do.

I wait til today to text and follow up and try to book something in. No response as of yet and cue the instant over analysing: was I too direct, did I wait long enough, should have played it cooler, could have worded it better etc etc

At the end of the day I guess if she's interested she'll let me know. But the longer I don't hear back the more convinced I am it just won't happen...

/vent

 

[GROTTO]

Wow thread really died. Doubt this will breath much life back into it either:

Anyone else relentlessly over analyse their messages / texts etc when it's to someone you're interested in, and they don't get back to you straight away?

A rare first date last night where I would actually want to pursue this person. All went fairly swimmingly and she brought up seeing each other again at the end and even an idea of what we should do.

I wait til today to text and follow up and try to book something in. No response as of yet and cue the instant over analysing: was I too direct, did I wait long enough, should have played it cooler, could have worded it better etc etc

At the end of the day I guess if she's interested she'll let me know. But the longer I don't hear back the more convinced I am it just won't happen...

/vent

If she doesnt respond in 24 hours move on. Even if she does, she is playing games as no one is ever that busy to not be able to respond to a text.

 

[tryitout]

Wow thread really died. Doubt this will breath much life back into it either:

Anyone else relentlessly over analyse their messages / texts etc when it's to someone you're interested in, and they don't get back to you straight away?

A rare first date last night where I would actually want to pursue this person. All went fairly swimmingly and she brought up seeing each other again at the end and even an idea of what we should do.

I wait til today to text and follow up and try to book something in. No response as of yet and cue the instant over analysing: was I too direct, did I wait long enough, should have played it cooler, could have worded it better etc etc

At the end of the day I guess if she's interested she'll let me know. But the longer I don't hear back the more convinced I am it just won't happen...

/vent

My man, we've all been there. Met up with a girl once for drinks and she was perfect, the "date" went really well and she was keen to meet up again. Never did see her again

My only advice is to get out of your own head. Worst thing to do is to start thinking into the future. If you can turn your mindset into treating all these interactions as training for a big game (or whatever it might me) and it's all learning experiences that will make your life better then you have half the battle won. Helps to keep that scent of desperation at bay as well.

Good luck my dude.

 

[Sketi]

If she doesnt respond in 24 hours move on. Even if she does, she is playing games as no one is ever that busy to not be able to respond to a text.

Yeah pretty much. I think this might just be my least favourite part of the whole OLD process, the waiting / sense of impending ghosting.

 

[Scotland]

Dating apps give people (mostly women as they are still the ones most often pursued) a false entitlement to treat others as disposable.

If common courtesy was a thing 'Would you like to go out again?' would at least illicit a 'no thanks, not interested' in response. But I wouldn't hold your breath.

The silly thing is if you met someone in any other context, went on a date and then contacted them you'd probably at least get a response even if they weren't keen or were but changed their mind etc. But because the initial 'meet' was a dating app, the 'swipe left' mentality holds.

 

[GROTTO]

Yeah pretty much. I think this might just be my least favourite part of the whole OLD process, the waiting / sense of impending ghosting.

What time today did you message her?

 

[Unknown Identity]

Wow thread really died. Doubt this will breath much life back into it either:

Anyone else relentlessly over analyse their messages / texts etc when it's to someone you're interested in, and they don't get back to you straight away?

A rare first date last night where I would actually want to pursue this person. All went fairly swimmingly and she brought up seeing each other again at the end and even an idea of what we should do.

I wait til today to text and follow up and try to book something in. No response as of yet and cue the instant over analysing: was I too direct, did I wait long enough, should have played it cooler, could have worded it better etc etc

At the end of the day I guess if she's interested she'll let me know. But the longer I don't hear back the more convinced I am it just won't happen...

/vent

It's only 1:49pm.

I have no idea what she does for work, but sometimes i don't send a text back to the missus for a good 3-4 hours because i'm busy.

If she hasn't replied by 8-9pm tonight i would say move on.

Fingers crossed!

 

[Sketi]

Only messaged her at 11am haha I'm being fairly dramatic. But she's not working today so...

 

[Sketi]

My man, we've all been there. Met up with a girl once for drinks and she was perfect, the "date" went really well and she was keen to meet up again. Never did see her again

My only advice is to get out of your own head. Worst thing to do is to start thinking into the future. If you can turn your mindset into treating all these interactions as training for a big game (or whatever it might me) and it's all learning experiences that will make your life better then you have half the battle won. Helps to keep that scent of desperation at bay as well.

Good luck my dude.

Thanks mang. I do feel like there are lessons and positives to take out of each experience you have with a person. I've recently got way more on top of my nerves on dates and felt like I was in pretty good touch last night compared to some previous times, so hopefully building towards something good.

 

[LicoriceAllsorts]

she's probably procrastinating

 

[Scotland]

Only messaged her at 11am haha I'm being fairly dramatic. But she's not working today so...

You can usually gauge where someone is at by their response time vs their normal response time. Some people normally text back immediately, others relatively promptly, others it's normal for them to text back hours later or at random intervals. Some people are on their phones 24/7, others will not look at them for hours at a time during the day. Etc.

If a girl is a regular, prompt texter and then suddenly texts back hours or days later with "sorry, been so busy" then she's already onto new ****.

 

[tryitout]

Dating apps give people (mostly women as they are still the ones most often pursued) a false entitlement to treat others as disposable.

If common courtesy was a thing 'Would you like to go out again?' would at least illicit a 'no thanks, not interested' in response. But I wouldn't hold your breath.

The silly thing is if you met someone in any other context, went on a date and then contacted them you'd probably at least get a response even if they weren't keen or were but changed their mind etc. But because the initial 'meet' was a dating app, the 'swipe left' mentality holds.

Spot on. It's why when someone posts a Tinder conversation on Reddit about two people being adults instead of ghosting it gets upvoted to christ. Like, that should be the norm, nothing that warrants excitement about the human race.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

Only messaged her at 11am haha I'm being fairly dramatic. But she's not working today so...

This is way overdramatic. If a chick was in here saying that a fella hadn't replied after 2 hours people would be posting level 5 clinger memes.