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[T2B_]

1.5 hrs drive (45 min after work) is long distance now?

Unless she wants someone in the same basic neighborhood it seems a bit fishy. Still, everyone is different.

 

[dales.girl38]

Tell her to limit her Tinder search range.

 

[MrNatural]

1.5 hrs drive (45 min after work) is long distance now?

Unless she wants someone in the same basic neighborhood it seems a bit fishy. Still, everyone is different.

Yeah I also think it's fishy.
I did tell her that i was happy to come to her, but I didn't really get a response.
My next question is, do i bother pursuing her? I thought she was a lot of fun and potentially a long termer, but I don't really want to waste my time if it's a lost cause

 

[Shell]

My ex lived an hours drive from me. Did shit me to tears, was too far imo.

He then proceeded to move 15 mins away from me after we broke up.

 

[dales.girl38]

Yeah, to be fair I don't think I'd date someone 90 minutes away.

 

[Sublime]

Been seeing a girl I met on tinder for a few weeks.
I live in outer SE Melb and she lives out near Traralgon which is about 1.5 hrs drive.
Wasn't a big deal to me (I work about 45 mins away) and didn't seem to be to her.
We got on like a house on fire, so I wasn't too concerned with the travel.
Then over the last week, she's been super slow to respond to texts, when previously she was quick, so my alarm bells starting ringing.
So I asked her if there was an issue.
She tells me she had done some thinking and decided that she couldn't do the "long distance thing".
I'm sceptical as to whether that is the actual reason, and I did question her but she said it was solely a distance issue
My question is, how far is too far? When does distance become an issue?

Traralgon you say. Spill the info

 

[The Sultan]

That's amazing. Aren't you worried that she might accidentally find someone she likes more than you?

yeah it is always risk but been together 20 years so alot of trust ... guess if that happens it wasnt mean to be...

its just sex with someone else its not a massive deal...

 

[MrNatural]

Traralgon you say. Spill the info

What info are you after?

 

[brahj]

Yeah I also think it's fishy.
I did tell her that i was happy to come to her, but I didn't really get a response.
My next question is, do i bother pursuing her? I thought she was a lot of fun and potentially a long termer, but I don't really want to waste my time if it's a lost cause

She's a lost cause, brother.

Chicks pulling that action out of the blue have already made up their mind. Cease all contact as soon as possible.

 

[MrNatural]

She's a lost cause, brother.

Chicks pulling that action out of the blue have already made up their mind. Cease all contact as soon as possible.

Yep I'd kinda resigned myself to that fact
I did message her last night after she told me about the long distance issue and i told her the ball was in her court.

 

[brahj]

Yep I'd kinda resigned myself to that fact
I did message her last night after she told me about the long distance issue and i told her the ball was in her court.

This match is over, man. Dust off that rejected ball machine and shoot some balls into other girls courts.

 

[MrNatural]

This match is over, man. Dust off that rejected ball machine and shoot some balls into other girls courts.

Haha
It was a good match and I took a set or two but ultimately lost, It's time to move onto the next tournament

 

[brahj]

Haha
It was a good match and I took a set or two but ultimately lost, It's time to move onto the next tournament

Somewhere out there, there's a Grand Slam for all of us.

 

[Sublime]

What info are you after?

Was just joking that it's a smallish place so fair chance i'd know who it is. Wasn't serious.

 

[Big Bryza]

Been seeing a girl I met on tinder for a few weeks.
I live in outer SE Melb and she lives out near Traralgon which is about 1.5 hrs drive.
Wasn't a big deal to me (I work about 45 mins away) and didn't seem to be to her.
We got on like a house on fire, so I wasn't too concerned with the travel.
Then over the last week, she's been super slow to respond to texts, when previously she was quick, so my alarm bells starting ringing.
So I asked her if there was an issue.
She tells me she had done some thinking and decided that she couldn't do the "long distance thing".
I'm sceptical as to whether that is the actual reason, and I did question her but she said it was solely a distance issue
My question is, how far is too far? When does distance become an issue?

Have been in a similar position myself. Seeing a girl who lives in the country but is often in Melbourne for work or over weekends. To me it is purely just physical, which I made very clear to her. She said that's all she wanted as well when it's blatantly obvious in her texts she sees this as more than a casual fling. To me I won't do a long distance relationship (she lives 3 hrs from me) with someone I might see once every few weeks. However, I guess if the feelings are strong enough you can probably make it work. Distance is an issue, how much more convenient is it to date a girl 10 minutes from you opposed to 3 hours away?

I guess you both just need to be honest. Don't let her screw you around and you won't get hurt.

 

[BluesMan]

I once dated a girl who lived 40mins away. We slowly 'drifted' apart due to the distance because I had so many other things going (uni mainly, but add in work and footy). As I was the only one with a licence it made it so hard. But in the end breaking up was the right call.

 

[kfc1]

Longest relationship i have ever had with someone i didnt live with was with a chick who lived in my street. Probably something in the distance thing

 

[Sublime]

What does everyone define as long distance though?

40 minutes to me is a short drive down the road.

My guess would be say 3 hours drive for me, anything else ain't too bad but i'm also someone who enjoys time to myself as well though.

 

[LicoriceAllsorts]

I certainly wouldn't drive 3 hours for tinder tho

 

[Rough_Edges]

I certainly wouldn't drive 3 hours for tinder tho

for a 9?

 

[LicoriceAllsorts]

for a 9?

Probably not, I'd think about it tho

 

[Shell]

What does everyone define as long distance though?

40 minutes to me is a short drive down the road.

My guess would be say 3 hours drive for me, anything else ain't too bad but i'm also someone who enjoys time to myself as well though.

For me:

Less than 30 mins = ideal
30 mins- 60 mins = bit of a pain/not ideal
60mins - 2 hours = massive pain/ridiculous
2 hours + = forget it, someone move ffs.

I hate driving.

 

[LicoriceAllsorts]

For me:

Less than 30 mins = ideal
30 mins- 60 mins = bit of a pain/not ideal
60mins - 2 hours = massive pain/ridiculous
2 hours + = forget it, someone move ffs.

I hate driving.

That's it

 

[Sublime]

For me:

Less than 30 mins = ideal
30 mins- 60 mins = bit of a pain/not ideal
60mins - 2 hours = massive pain/ridiculous
2 hours + = forget it, someone move ffs.

I hate driving.

Seems pretty fair.

Are those numbers subject to change depending on the person though?

 

[MrNatural]

For me:

Less than 30 mins = ideal
30 mins- 60 mins = bit of a pain/not ideal
60mins - 2 hours = massive pain/ridiculous
2 hours + = forget it, someone move ffs.

I hate driving.

I kinda agree with those times.
Being close is ideal, but on the flip side makes it easier for her to a clinger.
I enjoyed the arrangement we had, even know it was only for a short time.
Recently ending a LTR, I wasn't keen on anything serious, she had mentioned she wanted a relationship but I had told her my situation and she seemed to respect that.
Now I'm thinking that was a deal breaker for her.
Which is fine, just kinda wish she'd say that.