Your most recent argument

[fryingpan]

What was your most recent argument and what was it about? Have you had a really big argument that ended up being a friendship/relationship breaker?

My latest occured earlier this week with my partner. We're planning a trip to Hawaii and have been talking about it for some time now. We've been getting quotes and we've both been talking as if we're going and telling friends about it. We've been planning to leave in October. Now about 6 months ago my father was diagnosed with cancer but has been unable to start chemo because of the cell count being too high or something like that. I have also applied for another job recently because of a higher salary & car. I've been shortlisted and have an interview soon.

Now, what I've said to my partner is that if I get this job, I simply cannot go overseas for obvious reasons, my father has also hinted that around this time he will be starting treatment. I haven't completely ruled out taking this trip, but at the moment it's leaning towards a no. I have told my partner about this last week and have been given until next week to give an answer otherwise she will ask someone else to go. An argument erupted because my partner desperately wants a holiday, as do I, but I've said if more important things like your job & family pop up then holidays can always be postponed. Unfortuantely this had no effect and is adamant that she will go without me if I decide not to go. Not on speaking terms at the moment!

Any stories??

 

[Ry009]

How long have you two been going out mate? Poor form by her from the sounds of it.

 

[smiddaz123]

Make her ticket a one way one imo.

 

[fryingpan]

How long have you two been going out mate? Poor form by her from the sounds of it.

Coming up to 3 years.

 

[Ry009]

Coming up to 3 years.

Hmm decent amount of time, was her response a surprise?

Whats the latest now? Can you sense things being sorted out soon?

 

[fryingpan]

Not really I knew I'd get an angry response.

Still not talking, I'm just gonna have to say I can't go if I get this job and I know that'll get another pissed off response but there's not much I can do, I'm between a rock and a hard place and I'm a bit pissed about it to be honest.

 

[Juddy88]

Coming up to 3 years.

Yeah harsh. Similar with me, although different circumstances. Went out for just over three years, had what I thought was a pretty minor argument and she ended it, or more accurately said "I want to go on a break".

About 7 weeks later she still "needs time", for what I am still unclear but it's obvious it's over and has been for some time.

Strange creatures those women.

 

[J-Train]

Not really I knew I'd get an angry response.

Still not talking, I'm just gonna have to say I can't go if I get this job and I know that'll get another pissed off response but there's not much I can do, I'm between a rock and a hard place and I'm a bit pissed about it to be honest.

Giving each other the silent treatment won't solve your dilemma. For what its worth, if you are making your career a priority i think it is perfectly reasonable to want to delay a holiday. You'd only need to put it off for a few months and then you'd have some leave accrued, or at the very least you may have earned the trust of your employer and he will grant you the time you need on a guarantee that you stick around when you return. No brainer and sounds like your girl is being a pest. How old is she?

Also, I think if your Dad is sick with cancer, all other matters should fall by the wayside if he needs support during his treatment.

 

[Macca19]

Minor argument a couple days ago over the mechanic my wife goes to, whos a friend of her families so she gets her car serviced real cheap. Issue is hes about 80 years old, doesnt have the equipment that other places do and cant do everything (like wheel alignment for example). Argument came up because her car wont start and looks like alternator or something is rooted and she was annoyed because she only got her car serviced 3 weeks ago. I said she should probably start going to a proper mechanic who can have a better look and has more equipment and who may have picked this up to begin with.

No biggie.

 

[Father Jack]

Had an argument with the manager at work today, off to centrelink tomorrow. No biggie.

 

[Embers]

What was your most recent argument and what was it about? Have you had a really big argument that ended up being a friendship/relationship breaker?

My latest occured earlier this week with my partner. We're planning a trip to Hawaii and have been talking about it for some time now. We've been getting quotes and we've both been talking as if we're going and telling friends about it. We've been planning to leave in October. Now about 6 months ago my father was diagnosed with cancer but has been unable to start chemo because of the cell count being too high or something like that. I have also applied for another job recently because of a higher salary & car. I've been shortlisted and have an interview soon.

Now, what I've said to my partner is that if I get this job, I simply cannot go overseas for obvious reasons, my father has also hinted that around this time he will be starting treatment. I haven't completely ruled out taking this trip, but at the moment it's leaning towards a no. I have told my partner about this last week and have been given until next week to give an answer otherwise she will ask someone else to go. An argument erupted because my partner desperately wants a holiday, as do I, but I've said if more important things like your job & family pop up then holidays can always be postponed. Unfortuantely this had no effect and is adamant that she will go without me if I decide not to go. Not on speaking terms at the moment!

Any stories??

I thought you had a one way ticket on the Dude train

Oddly enough my last argument was almost identical to this one. In the end I lost

 

[Punchy Bassett]

What was your most recent argument and what was it about? Have you had a really big argument that ended up being a friendship/relationship breaker?

My latest occured earlier this week with my partner. We're planning a trip to Hawaii and have been talking about it for some time now. We've been getting quotes and we've both been talking as if we're going and telling friends about it. We've been planning to leave in October. Now about 6 months ago my father was diagnosed with cancer but has been unable to start chemo because of the cell count being too high or something like that. I have also applied for another job recently because of a higher salary & car. I've been shortlisted and have an interview soon.

Now, what I've said to my partner is that if I get this job, I simply cannot go overseas for obvious reasons, my father has also hinted that around this time he will be starting treatment. I haven't completely ruled out taking this trip, but at the moment it's leaning towards a no. I have told my partner about this last week and have been given until next week to give an answer otherwise she will ask someone else to go. An argument erupted because my partner desperately wants a holiday, as do I, but I've said if more important things like your job & family pop up then holidays can always be postponed. Unfortuantely this had no effect and is adamant that she will go without me if I decide not to go. Not on speaking terms at the moment!

Any stories??

No offence FP but she sounds pretty cold hearted to be honest! I mean family will and should always come first so if she can't accept that then I'd be seriously thinking over my relationship with her.

And I bet she wont complain about the extra money you could possibly spend on her if you get the better paying job either.

Women, hypocrites of the highest order a lot of the time.

 

[Delroy]

Asked for my $100 back from tho hooker cause she was ****ing shit. Ended up in the gutter after her pimp saw me trying to take the money back.

 

[DeadlyAkkuret]

Fp, is this the same girl who's working with her ex ****-buddy or something? I'd check that flight list.

 

[Mcchawk]

Sorry kick her to the curb.

 

[lions_den]

Sorry kick her to the curb.

I tend to agree. She sounds so self centered.

 

[Rise_up_Stiffy]

Yeah harsh. Similar with me, although different circumstances. Went out for just over three years, had what I thought was a pretty minor argument and she ended it, or more accurately said "I want to go on a break".

About 7 weeks later she still "needs time", for what I am still unclear but it's obvious it's over and has been for some time.

Strange creatures those women.

Exact same situation as me. I'm pretty gutted over it. If we lived in the same state I'd say lets go out for a beer.

 

[DeadlyAkkuret]

The old "break", biggest load of crock ever!

It's what happens when a girl is too gutless to dump you so she leaves you hanging for a while and just hopes that you eventually get it. It must be strictly a girl thing, I've never known any guy to tell a girl he wants a break. If we don't want you we generally just dump you, it's actually much nicer lol.

 

[Juddy88]

Exact same situation as me. I'm pretty gutted over it. If we lived in the same state I'd say lets go out for a beer.

Lol serious?

Same, pretty ****ed up. Haha I actually have relatives in Adelaide, perhaps one day.

What's worse is the bullshit false hope, "I need more time, I still love you."

I think it's time to cut all ties for me really, would have done it before but after 3 years it's pretty difficult.

The old "break", biggest load of crock ever!

It's what happens when a girl is too gutless to dump you so she leaves you hanging for a while and just hopes that you eventually get it. It must be strictly a girl thing, I've never known any guy to tell a girl he wants a break. If we don't want you we generally just dump you, it's actually much nicer lol.

Exactly. And the thing is, the fight was over something she did.

I think she was scared I'd break up with her, and just wanted to get in first.

One day everything was fine, even earlier that day we went out for lunch. . Then the next CHK CHK BOOM!!

Ah well. haven't had to much finding other chicks since.

 

[mantis]

Tonight, the ****ing useless moron plumber, who has been trying to fix the ducted heating in my place for a week & done SFA. I told him yesterday to piss off, I didn't want him near the heater because it was obvious he is an idiot & has no idea. He rings me today at work & says he's just been to my place & totally disconnected the heater because it was dangerous, I get home & find that none of my power points were working, so no TV, electric heater, cooking appliances, or internet. I rang him & said that this was the final straw, that I am ringing the agent tomorrow & get him taken off their list & to suggest they don't pay him a bloody cent. I had to get my brother in law who is an electrician to get the power back on.

****, if I see this moron again I am going to smash him.

 

[lions_den]

Tonight, the ****ing useless moron plumber, who has been trying to fix the ducted heating in my place for a week & done SFA. I told him yesterday to piss off, I didn't want him near the heater because it was obvious he is an idiot & has no idea. He rings me today at work & says he's just been to my place & totally disconnected the heater because it was dangerous, I get home & find that none of my power points were working, so no TV, electric heater, cooking appliances, or internet. I rang him & said that this was the final straw, that I am ringing the agent tomorrow & get him taken off their list & to suggest they don't pay him a bloody cent. I had to get my brother in law who is an electrician to get the power back on.

****, if I see this moron again I am going to smash him.

This post made me LMAO for so many reasons. A real pisser, thanks for that!

 

[Juddy88]

Tonight, the ****ing useless moron plumber, who has been trying to fix the ducted heating in my place for a week & done SFA. I told him yesterday to piss off, I didn't want him near the heater because it was obvious he is an idiot & has no idea. He rings me today at work & says he's just been to my place & totally disconnected the heater because it was dangerous, I get home & find that none of my power points were working, so no TV, electric heater, cooking appliances, or internet. I rang him & said that this was the final straw, that I am ringing the agent tomorrow & get him taken off their list & to suggest they don't pay him a bloody cent. I had to get my brother in law who is an electrician to get the power back on.

****, if I see this moron again I am going to smash him.

wtf lol. Can he do that? I reckon he just did it out of spite lol.

I reckon disconnect his break cables.

 

[fryingpan]

Giving each other the silent treatment won't solve your dilemma. For what its worth, if you are making your career a priority i think it is perfectly reasonable to want to delay a holiday. You'd only need to put it off for a few months and then you'd have some leave accrued, or at the very least you may have earned the trust of your employer and he will grant you the time you need on a guarantee that you stick around when you return. No brainer and sounds like your girl is being a pest.

I tried talking last night but was getting the short blunt answers and I hate that! So we've talked now but certainly not back to normal. I've said that if I get this job, I can't take the holiday only a month after but have tried to compromise and said maybe early next year (which is only 3 months more than our original date) "nope, I've been working so hard for the past year and need a holiday, next year is too far away" .. unfortunately because she's so deadset on this trip, it doesn't seem like anything will get in the way.

How old is she

23.

Also, I think if your Dad is sick with cancer, all other matters should fall by the wayside if he needs support during his treatment.

Yep so I'm not the only one who thinks this. I asked her to put family, your career and holidays in order from most important to least important and she said it was a stupid question .. so obviously she knows deep down that she's being selfish. As a matter of fact she's actually said to me "can't you just ask your dad if it will be okay to go on holidays while he's going thru this" and I thought to myself, Dads are dads, they will almost always say nah nah go on your holiday I'll be fine, but I think deep down all parents would want to be with their kids if they're going through something like this.

 

[fryingpan]

No offence FP but she sounds pretty cold hearted to be honest! I mean family will and should always come first so if she can't accept that then I'd be seriously thinking over my relationship with her.

It's unfortunate because I am thinking about it. Family always comes first and she knows that but if this trip doesn't happen apparently the world will end.

Fp, is this the same girl who's working with her ex ****-buddy or something? I'd check that flight list.

Haha yep that's the one. Sounds bad doesn't it!

 

[fryingpan]

Tonight, the ****ing useless moron plumber, who has been trying to fix the ducted heating in my place for a week & done SFA. I told him yesterday to piss off, I didn't want him near the heater because it was obvious he is an idiot & has no idea. He rings me today at work & says he's just been to my place & totally disconnected the heater because it was dangerous, I get home & find that none of my power points were working, so no TV, electric heater, cooking appliances, or internet. I rang him & said that this was the final straw, that I am ringing the agent tomorrow & get him taken off their list & to suggest they don't pay him a bloody cent. I had to get my brother in law who is an electrician to get the power back on.

****, if I see this moron again I am going to smash him.

Hahaha! What a tosser, nothing gets to me more than so called "professionals" who are just plain shit at their job.