Society & Culture The BigFooty Guide to getting the woman of Your Desire (Part 7)

[dales.girl38]

People are addicted to their phones. 'Being busy' is code for 'sorry I've lost interest'.

 

[JoseMourinho]

People are addicted to their phones. 'Being busy' is code for 'sorry I've lost interest'.

You would know being commissioner and wire tapping and all that

 

[Lums23]

I was planning to have a nice quiet night in tonight, just watching the footy, having a couple of Krakens...

But thanks to that surly, shitbag, Brad Scott, the footy probably won't be worth watching...

So maybe I'll go on a Tinder date instead.

I wish I did that too instead of watching geelong vs adelaide yesterday

 

[King Elvis]

It was shit.

I blame Brad Scott.

 

[MrNatural]

People are addicted to their phones. 'Being busy' is code for 'sorry I've lost interest'.

I gather this.
But why not just say so?
Why does everything a girls says or does have to be in a code?

 

[dales.girl38]

I gather this.
But why not just say so?
Why does everything a girls says or does have to be in a code?

Bitch please, guys do it too.

And I don't know why, I guess it's just easier and avoids the awkward 'I'm just not that into you' conversation.

 

[MrNatural]

Bitch please, guys do it too.

And I don't know why, I guess it's just easier and avoids the awkward 'I'm just not that into you' conversation.

I can only go off my own experience and say that I have never intentionally led someone on or just plain ignored them.
I respect the girls who actually flat out say they're not interested.
I reckon it's more awkward having to pretend and to avoid someone.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

Sometimes when we say we're not interested we get flat out abuse in return, which is always fun

Like "well **** you anyway you **** you're not hot enough to **** me around" etc.

 

[T2B_]

Sometimes when we say we're not interested we get flat out abuse in return, which is always fun

Like "well **** you anyway you **** you're not hot enough to **** me around" etc.

And they wonder why you weren't interested.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

And they wonder why you weren't interested.

Exactly.

 

[TheFreshBanana]

Seems like a small price to pay tbh

 

[dales.girl38]

I can only go off my own experience and say that I have never intentionally led someone on or just plain ignored them.
I respect the girls who actually flat out say they're not interested.
I reckon it's more awkward having to pretend and to avoid someone.

That's great, but there are plenty of guys who do, so saying 'why do girls do this?' is a bit shit.

 

[MrNatural]

Sometimes when we say we're not interested we get flat out abuse in return, which is always fun

Like "well **** you anyway you **** you're not hot enough to **** me around" etc.

Can't say I've ever abused a girl for telling me they weren't interested.... But I don't doubt there's men out there who get bitter at rejection.
I get bitter at being left out in the dark more than rejection.
At least with rejection you know for sure and can move on.

That's great, but there are plenty of guys who do, so saying 'why do girls do this?' is a bit shit.

As above, I don't doubt that.
I just can't fathom receiving a text from someone and just plain ignoring it... maybe it's just me

 

[BALKAN]

Have you tried being more good looking?

 

[MrNatural]

I can only play the cards I'm dealt

 

[Croweater]

I try not to get too disheartened if a girl doesn't seem interested.

Nobody likes the feeling of rejection, but I guess all it means is that whatever you're looking for is elsewhere.

And sure, getting bullshit responses like "I'm busy" is a cop out, and we'd rather girls be upfront and honest rather than screwing us around. But (and I'm aware that this is a meaningless tautology), it is what it is.

 

[Plugger35]

I prefer to use this method of handling rejection.

 

[JoseMourinho]

Sometimes when we say we're not interested we get flat out abuse in return, which is always fun

Like "well **** you anyway you **** you're not hot enough to **** me around" etc.

Hahaha i saw a girl publish pms from a guy who was creeping on her and that's what she received when she told him no.

 

[MrNatural]

I try not to get too disheartened if a girl doesn't seem interested.

Nobody likes the feeling of rejection, but I guess all it means is that whatever you're looking for is elsewhere.

And sure, getting bullshit responses like "I'm busy" is a cop out, and we'd rather girls be upfront and honest rather than screwing us around. But (and I'm aware that this is a meaningless tautology), it is what it is.

It just all confuses me.
A girl can be all hot and heavy one minute, then just disappear the next.
And since I've been single and back in the game, this has been a common theme.
It just seems like I'm doing something wrong, but i don't know what that is.

 

[Croweater]

It just all confuses me.
A girl can be all hot and heavy one minute, then just disappear the next.
And since I've been single and back in the game, this has been a common theme.
It just seems like I'm doing something wrong, but i don't know what that is.

To be honest, it hasn't been too common with me. It's only happened a couple of times and it's pretty much come down to obvious differences between the girl and I.

If it's a common occurrence, I'd have a look at what you're saying/how you're saying it, because based on what you've said they seem keen initially.

It could be as random as not using emoticons to convey tone through a difficult to analyse medium, or as blatantly obvious as you asking her to marry you/stick her finger in your bum.

 

[T2B_]

asking her to marry you/stick her finger in your bum.

Never thought I'd see these two things put so close together in a sentence

 

[TheFreshBanana]

To be honest, it hasn't been too common with me. It's only happened a couple of times and it's pretty much come down to obvious differences between the girl and I.

If it's a common occurrence, I'd have a look at what you're saying/how you're saying it, because based on what you've said they seem keen initially.

It could be as random as not using emoticons to convey tone through a difficult to analyse medium, or as blatantly obvious as you asking her to marry you/stick her finger in your bum.

Um...

Ok

 

[Silent Alarm]

Texting two times with no replies would rule most people out.

Three times? Well at least she knows you don't give up.

But then calling?!

 

[ash_1050]

Texting two times with no replies would rule most people out.

Three times? Well at least she knows you don't give up.

But then calling?!

Any more than two attempts to make contact just makes you look desperate.

 

[MrNatural]

To be honest, it hasn't been too common with me. It's only happened a couple of times and it's pretty much come down to obvious differences between the girl and I.

If it's a common occurrence, I'd have a look at what you're saying/how you're saying it, because based on what you've said they seem keen initially.

It could be as random as not using emoticons to convey tone through a difficult to analyse medium, or as blatantly obvious as you asking her to marry you/stick her finger in your bum.

Since I have become single it's been a common theme.
They have all been super keen at first, but then just start ignoring me.
I've had a couple be honest and say that they're aren't interested any more or what not, which is fine, but plain ignoring someone is just rude.

How long does everyone think is too long to wait for a reply from someone?

The above mentioned girl was a notorious poor texter, and regularly took a day or to reply to texts. Claims she was super busy with uni or what not.

How long is too long before the alarm bells start ringing?