PerfectFooty
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This is a very good post. This really put me in the right direction, after years of hiding it and not believing it as a child this was a post i needed to hear. Growing up i was told i had it but i didn't want people to think different of me so i hid it from everybody, then maturing through high school i convinced myself that i was 'cured' but this post really inspired me to learn more about myself and that some problems the past have perhaps stemmed from this.Invaluable thread.
Just to add my .2 cents, for anyone with depression, another factor to consider is being on the autism spectrum, especially Asperger’s. Depression as a comorbid factor is very common amongst Aspies, with high suicide ideation and suicide rate. Autism doesn’t cause depression per se, nor is it linked biologically, so managing and getting help for depression are the same, whether you’re on the spectrum or not.
Current estimates for autism prevalence are around 1 in 100 - but it’s more like 1 in 80 amongst males. But because widespread understanding and diagnosing of Asperger’s (for example) only started in the late 90’s, the majority of adults would probably have slipped through the net as kids, and if they’re getting by, will continue to slip through the net. Most adults on the spectrum are undiagnosed (or misdiagnosed).
Re Asperger’s and autism itself, unless you’ve really looked into it, it’s almost certainly not what you think. It isn’t just limited to the textbook symptoms around social issues, nor is there a single, typical, profile. It’s also not all negative.
There’s info on the net from reliable sources - and unreliable sources - as well as reputable online tests for Asperger’s, such as the RAADS 14 test and the Baron Cohen AQ test. (I wouldn’t bother with the Aspiequiz, it’s something else and not diagnostically reliable - FWIW). For general background, a great place to start is with Tony Atwood, pretty well the man who wrote the book on Asperger’s. Lots of great info and resources on his site.
To bring this back to footy (!) people with Asperger’s often have motor skill and co-ordination issues, albeit they can be fairly low level. As such, I doubt we’re going to see too many AFL footballers on the spectrum. On the other hand, there are people with Asperger’s playing team sports at a (very) high level. No two people with Asperger’s are the same.
I love football, and like most people like me with often find something that allows us to escape, something that offers safety and feels relaxed, to normal people we probably seem obsessive as it is often one thing that is huge over anything else. To me this was football after rediscovering it, Football makes me happy and it helps me deal with things when i need to get away or escape. I'm obsessive, and people i know think i'm a very fanatic fan, i watch replays almost every night and during high school i watched some in free periods. people thought it was odd at school but it just turned into a joke and i was happy with that. but at home it's different, it's repetitive and i just use it all the time. Now understanding myself a bit more i don't put myself down for being so obsessive. At times though it does hurt having recently given up on the dream of playing the game that i love, i couldn't handle the socialising (socialising for me can exhaust me sometimes i need a break) or the mental edge to play it even though physically i'd be fine, and that was sort of a let down after getting really good encouragement on here
I had depression bad in 2014 and now i think i finally begin to understand why. That's not to say i don't live without it anymore i still get pretty depressed at times and it can really happen anytime. I'm probably spilling my guts more than i should, but 2014 i fell in love, problem was she never loved me back, but i can't read the signs and so i persisted. I became obsessive on this, i analyzed my every move and it dominated my mind day and night, i stayed up nights worrying what she thought of me, or what i did wrong today, or what i could do tomorrow. I did come clean about and we agreed to be friends but that never worked, and i still had the hope that we'd end up together. But one day i made a joke, i didn't think it was offensive and some friends at the time didn't either but she did and she basically said i was downright offensive and that we are no longer friends. I up until this point had never wronged anyone or lost a friend so that already hurt, but this was awful, it shut me down and i had a complete break down. For a few weeks i was a vegetable. although leading up too it i was already doing very poorly. I'd sit in my room during the day with the curtains drawn and lights off only going out to eat food and thinking of how the world would be better without me. When i broke down i just did nothing, everything stopped. i got brought home and just lay in my bed for days not speaking to anyone. All while i was recovering class work built up, once i felt a little better it hit me hard and i basically lost it again and was never able to retake my place at uni failing my final exams.
So i dropped out, i did a fun tafe course and for the first time last year signed up as a member and started going to games with friends. Life improved although i again still felt depressed at times and just on occasions stayed up nights listening to sad music. Even it Tafe when i was happier i was slower than my classmates or couldn't comprehend some things and that infuriated at myself and made me angry as well as sad. To be honest the last couple of months haven't been that flash either despite being far from the severity of 2014.
Sorry i sort of lost where i was going with this post