Experiences with Erectile Dysfunction

[Andre]

Hi GD,

Have had a bit of trouble recently in the bedroom. It has come on quite suddenly and I am not sure on the best course of action. I have spoken to my GP and he has refrained on prescribing me the magic blue pill for the moment since I do not want to go down that route just yet and neither does he, and he is convinced it is a psychological issue.

I have been under some considerable stress and worry recently, however this has never impacted me physically in such a way. I am still attracted to my girlfriend and she never fails to turn me on, however I must admit that sometimes it takes a few extra revvs to get the engine going, at times I'm not blowing full steam ahead, and in general the sex drive seems to wax and wane more than it previously did.

Has anyone had experiences with this? Is it likely to be in my head?

I should mention that I have packed on a few extra kilos. I am working on it, In the past month I have brought my BMI from 'obese' to 'overweight' and am on the way to normal, however I am aware that this might also have considerable impact.

Happy to hear anyone's first or second or third hand experiences.

How old are you? Having troubles at 25 is different to 45.

 

[Gameova_]

Start running and lifting weights and having cold showers

 

[edgie]

Supplements can help but they aren't a miracle cure like the pill and take weeks or more to start working.

My doc said when I was having a bad month that unfortunately from 30 on is a normal time for that sort of thing to decline in some males. My blood test results were excellent, extremely health with healthy levels of testosterone. Said I could have mental blocks but any medication to address mental health would be counterproductive at this stage. He gave me a prescription for the other thing and told me to take half a tablet when necessary. I took a couple but haven't needed them since. Haven't even finished the last couple tablets. Sometimes you just need a kick start up to get over the mental anxiety and once you know it still works then it comes back naturally.

Just try getting some sleep and not thinking about it for while, avoid erotic material, even avoid watching any tv or films with sexual content. Don't think about for a few days. Take some time off. Tell your missus to wear a burqa if it helps. It will find it's way back. You do have to try to not worry about it or it becomes a cycle, a self fulfilling prophecy.

I wouldn't worry either about your shape. I know some big dudes who rub it out on average more than once a day. Probably cause they're big guys and can't get girlfriends, but the old fella hasn't slowed down at all as the waist expanded. It's likely in head or you're exhausted. Exhaustion can happen to people of any fitness level. Intense exercise and weightloss could be causing that too, ironically.

Lastly, sometimes it might be a once or twice off in a short space of time where it doesn't want to work, and truly, it means nothing. The body can work in mysterious ways.

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[the_interloper]

I remember a one dayer where Imran Khan cracked one down behind square leg...

 

[craigos]

Just try getting some sleep and not thinking about it for while, avoid erotic material, even avoid watching any tv or films with sexual content. Don't think about for a few days. Take some time off. Tell your missus to wear a burqa if it helps. It will find it's way back. You do have to try to not worry about it or it becomes a cycle, a self fulfilling prophecy.

Could help improve things for some partners.

Love to see how this conversation would go down lol

 

[perthblue]

I've approached this issue from a different angle.

I read that sometimes libido is a case of 'if you don't use it, you lose it' and so I have entered a program of self-love with the goal of getting my libido going again. It has been about a week and I reckon it might just be working. I'm not quite back to my old self but it's definitely helping with my interests in sex again. Will update once I've been at it a bit longer.

 

[Syd]

I've approached this issue from a different angle.

I read that sometimes libido is a case of 'if you don't use it, you lose it' and so I have entered a program of self-love with the goal of getting my libido going again. It has been about a week and I reckon it might just be working. I'm not quite back to my old self but it's definitely helping with my interests in sex again. Will update once I've been at it a bit longer.

Sometimes you’ve just got to take matters into your own hands…..

 

[GreyCrow]

I've approached this issue from a different angle.

I read that sometimes libido is a case of 'if you don't use it, you lose it' and so I have entered a program of self-love with the goal of getting my libido going again. It has been about a week and I reckon it might just be working. I'm not quite back to my old self but it's definitely helping with my interests in sex again. Will update once I've been at it a bit longer.

 

[craigos]

 

[SnakeMan86]

Hi GD,

Have had a bit of trouble recently in the bedroom. It has come on quite suddenly and I am not sure on the best course of action. I have spoken to my GP and he has refrained on prescribing me the magic blue pill for the moment since I do not want to go down that route just yet and neither does he, and he is convinced it is a psychological issue.

I have been under some considerable stress and worry recently, however this has never impacted me physically in such a way. I am still attracted to my girlfriend and she never fails to turn me on, however I must admit that sometimes it takes a few extra revvs to get the engine going, at times I'm not blowing full steam ahead, and in general the sex drive seems to wax and wane more than it previously did.

Has anyone had experiences with this? Is it likely to be in my head?

I should mention that I have packed on a few extra kilos. I am working on it, In the past month I have brought my BMI from 'obese' to 'overweight' and am on the way to normal, however I am aware that this might also have considerable impact.

Happy to hear anyone's first or second or third hand experiences.

Been there,
Broke up with my partner of 12 years. Got on the grog too much, spiralled into depression. Was also weight training 6x week and had a really low BF%, so i was probably in too much of a calorie defecit as well. (1500 is way too low for the amount your doing)

When i started to put myself out there again, I found the old fella just wouldn't show up, or at best was like putting cold spaghetti into a waterbomb.I was never short of potential suitors,but it wouldn't matter how attracted to her physically or emotionally, things just wouldn't work.

Sounds like a combination of things, problem is,when its in your head (Upstairs head) it really snowballs and the anxiety can take over, taking the fun/enjoyment out of things, and the anxiety will be causing the performance. When a guy is in his own head, it's pretty much all over and it compounds each time.

Jumped on the blue pills, and the weekend ones, which was super annoying if I had a girl over and i'd cook dinner/netflix and chill, got my hopes up,and pre-emptivly took one only to be left blue handed...

Been with my partner now over 12 months and over time the issue has disappeared, I'm definitely in a much happier place. So it sounds like working on yourself is the best remedy.

 

[perthblue]

Been there,
Broke up with my partner of 12 years. Got on the grog too much, spiralled into depression. Was also weight training 6x week and had a really low BF%, so i was probably in too much of a calorie defecit as well. (1500 is way too low for the amount your doing)

When i started to put myself out there again, I found the old fella just wouldn't show up, or at best was like putting cold spaghetti into a waterbomb.I was never short of potential suitors,but it wouldn't matter how attracted to her physically or emotionally, things just wouldn't work.

Sounds like a combination of things, problem is,when its in your head (Upstairs head) it really snowballs and the anxiety can take over, taking the fun/enjoyment out of things, and the anxiety will be causing the performance. When a guy is in his own head, it's pretty much all over and it compounds each time.

Jumped on the blue pills, and the weekend ones, which was super annoying if I had a girl over and i'd cook dinner/netflix and chill, got my hopes up,and pre-emptivly took one only to be left blue handed...

Been with my partner now over 12 months and over time the issue has disappeared, I'm definitely in a much happier place. So it sounds like working on yourself is the best remedy.

Thanks mate, sounds much like my own experience, except mine showed up about 15 months into my current relationship. I do believe that I am probably generally unhealthy which doesn't help but definitely 'being in my head' has caused me many problems in my life, not just in the bedroom.

 

[edgie]

Thanks mate, sounds much like my own experience, except mine showed up about 15 months into my current relationship. I do believe that I am probably generally unhealthy which doesn't help but definitely 'being in my head' has caused me many problems in my life, not just in the bedroom.

Sometimes you can be healthy and happy in mind and the old fella still wants a day off from nowhere. The issue is when he wants a few more days off, then it gets in your head, and it's hard (choice word) to get it out. But it can be done.

Again I would be pushing your doc for pills to help. If they work you get a bit of faith back and that can set you on the right course to not need them.

 

[perthblue]

Sometimes you can be healthy and happy in mind and the old fella still wants a day off from nowhere. The issue is when he wants a few more days off, then it gets in your head, and it's hard (choice word) to get it out. But it can be done.

Again I would be pushing your doc for pills to help. If they work you get a bit of faith back and that can set you on the right course to not need them.

That is fair enough. My one fear would be becoming reliant on them to do the deed. But I will chat more about them at my next visit.

 

[edgie]

That is fair enough. My one fear would be becoming reliant on them to do the deed. But I will chat more about them at my next visit.

It's a reasonable fear mate, I know what you mean and felt it too. But it didn't turn out that way, thank ****. It can also help with the 'use it or lose it' approach if you're giving that a go.

 

[perthblue]

So it's been about 4 months since I posted this thread, and my update is kind of boring but positive.

After consulting with GP, I decided not to go down the prescription drug route yet. I have heard stories, including in this thread, of dudes using them once or twice to get their mojo back and then cut them out but I think my biggest fear was becoming hooked/dependent on them and then only compounding my problems by becoming reliant on drugs to perform sexually. Still, I kept this in my back pocket as a last resort.

I won't say I've 'fixed' my issues per se, too soon to tell and I am quite conservative about getting ahead of myself, but I have definitely made big improvements. Three things have helped:

1. Diet.
I mentioned earlier in this thread I was on a caloric deficit and losing weight rapidly which I enjoyed but probably threw my hormones out of wack and put untold stress on my body. I switched my routine to more strength-based weight training, less days at the gym and I'm only on a caloric deficit of about 500 cals now, and ensuring I incorporate a decent amount of fats and proteins.

2. Conversation with girlfriend
If I had this issue as a single man, I am sure I would have gone the viagra route earlier, but my girlfriend has kept me grounded. It is difficult on her, obviously. Even though I assured her that the problem was with me, it is hard I guess for her to not feel that I have lost attraction for her or something, which clearly isn't true. By having honest conversations and exploring more non-sexual intimacy our relationship has gotten much stronger and in turn my issues in the sack are melting away.

3. Vitamins
This stuff is probably placebo, but I take zinc tablets, garlic, and Maca. I feel improved mood, energy, and libido. I haven't had hard ons this frequently since I was 16. It's great. Placebo or not, I intend to keep taking them for a while yet.

So yeah, things are looking good. My sex drive has gone from about 2% to 80% and I can perform about 95% of the time as opposed to 30% of the time.

 

[SnakeMan86]

So it's been about 4 months since I posted this thread, and my update is kind of boring but positive.

After consulting with GP, I decided not to go down the prescription drug route yet. I have heard stories, including in this thread, of dudes using them once or twice to get their mojo back and then cut them out but I think my biggest fear was becoming hooked/dependent on them and then only compounding my problems by becoming reliant on drugs to perform sexually. Still, I kept this in my back pocket as a last resort.

I won't say I've 'fixed' my issues per se, too soon to tell and I am quite conservative about getting ahead of myself, but I have definitely made big improvements. Three things have helped:

1. Diet.
I mentioned earlier in this thread I was on a caloric deficit and losing weight rapidly which I enjoyed but probably threw my hormones out of wack and put untold stress on my body. I switched my routine to more strength-based weight training, less days at the gym and I'm only on a caloric deficit of about 500 cals now, and ensuring I incorporate a decent amount of fats and proteins.

2. Conversation with girlfriend
If I had this issue as a single man, I am sure I would have gone the viagra route earlier, but my girlfriend has kept me grounded. It is difficult on her, obviously. Even though I assured her that the problem was with me, it is hard I guess for her to not feel that I have lost attraction for her or something, which clearly isn't true. By having honest conversations and exploring more non-sexual intimacy our relationship has gotten much stronger and in turn my issues in the sack are melting away.

3. Vitamins
This stuff is probably placebo, but I take zinc tablets, garlic, and Maca. I feel improved mood, energy, and libido. I haven't had hard ons this frequently since I was 16. It's great. Placebo or not, I intend to keep taking them for a while yet.

So yeah, things are looking good. My sex drive has gone from about 2% to 80% and I can perform about 95% of the time as opposed to 30% of the time.

A positive outcome is definatlely not boring mate, great to hear.

The bolded definitely happened with me, to the point it would give me anxiety, and if I was with a really attractive girl, i'd take 2 "Just to Make sure".... There were times even when i was hooking up with my best friend interstate, and would take a blue and a couple of weekend ones because it would give me so much anxiety that things wouldn't happen and i would disappoint her (Also, it was with her the first time it ever happened, so that ****ed with my head a bit too)

I think the conversations with your girlfriend go a long way. I was dating an absolute legend who was like "look, i'd rather make the best with what we can do, rather than you being reliant on pills, and doing damage to yourself physically and more mentally" and that was a huge thing. I think that really started to change things for me.

Good on ya, keep working on yourself.

 

[exe ex machina]

If you get morning boners, especially consistent regular ones, then you don't have physical-based erectile dysfunction. It's stress, anxiety, depression, related to non-sex.. and/or worry related to sex, performing like a or size or her less responsive to it.

 

[perthblue]

Last few months the problem has reared its head again (lol) and the GP prescribed me the blue pills. The doctor told me the same thing that edgie in this thread did, that it will only take a few uses before I get my confidence back and won’t need them anymore. Will report back.

 

[exe ex machina]

Another thing....Thyroid disease has a big impact on libido, testosterone, ED.

So get that checked out just in case. Getting on the medication for it, if you suffer from it, can help there

Not to mention all the other problems that Thyroid disease does....fatigue, hair loss, skin aging, metabolism changes, cholesterol and blood sugar levels, inadvertent loss of consciousness, oxygen to brain.